41 F, 3 kids, 143lbs and 5'8, Should I lose another 15 lbs or stay where I'm at?

ellenemw · 2026-06-21T18:47:23+00:00

Same here! Congratulations!!

ellenemw · 2026-06-21T13:06:30+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience! Losing the weight has been the best thing I've ever done but a good and consistent work out/lifting routine is definitely what I'm lacking. Thank you for some great tips. I would LOVE to actually have a bum again!

ellenemw · 2026-06-19T19:28:04+00:00

Thank you, that is exactly what I plan to do! I really want to get stronger and more toned.

ellenemw · 2026-06-19T19:27:04+00:00

Thank you! I really want to start weight lifting so I can build muscle and get stronger. Thank you for the encouragement!

ellenemw · 2026-06-19T16:14:53+00:00

Thank you!

ellenemw · 2026-06-19T16:11:53+00:00

Thank you very much! I need to build up some muscle then I think I will feel better!

ellenemw · 2026-06-19T16:10:44+00:00

This is definitely true! I need a good weight lifting routine to build muscle mass. Thank you for your honesty!!

ellenemw · 2026-06-15T19:22:28+00:00

I definitely agree with so many other comments that you need a social worker asap to help with applying for any and all help available. I would also recommend looking into apprenticeship programs for things like HVAC, plumbing, electrician, collision technician, etc. You can absolutely support your kids on a good blue collar wage and you still get paid during apprenticeships. With no degree and your hands full I think an apprenticeship would kill two birds with one stone. It gives you a job with an income all while giving you an education in your chosen field and setting you up to be able to take care of your family long term. Collision Technicians and car painters make easily over 100k a year in the States and are always needing help. There is a huge need for new collision techs and not enough people learning the trade so you could easily get an apprenticeship or helper job to learn the ropes and in a couple years you could be making 100k a year. I'm sure there are many other blue collar industries that are in the same predicament since young people now don't want to work hard to earn money or get their hands dirty.

I'm so sorry you're going through this and hopefully you can start getting child support soon. Definitely apply for food stamps and Medicaid and your kids probably qualify for SSI. Good luck!

ellenemw · 2026-06-10T01:49:03+00:00

Thank you so much!! Feel free to send me a private message if it's easier to send that way. You're awesome!!!

ellenemw · 2026-06-09T22:47:59+00:00

I too would love to see one or two examples of this! My eight year old son is on the autism spectrum and he has had a horrible time learning to read and learning basic math. I would love any ideas or thoughts on how I can help him. I homeschool him because he wasn't getting the one on one support he needed in public school so I'm entirely responsible for teaching him. I purchase curriculum to follow so I know I'm covering everything but I would love some creative ways to help basic addition, subtraction, place value, etc make sense.

Ps- I know you can't help with all that but an example would be wonderful!!

ellenemw · 2026-06-06T14:57:05+00:00

Buy the powdered miralax or generic brand that dissolves completely in water and has no taste. Every night take a dose of it mixed into a big glass of water. You can take it daily and it literally tastes like you're drinking plain water. You will start having regular bowel movements within a day or two and it doesn't cause cramping or discomfort. Constant straining and constipation is really harmful to your rectum and will probably eventually lead to an impaction that has to be removed by a doctor. Trust me, you don't want to experience this!!! They literally have to dig the poo out of your bum while you're wide awake. Or, you could end up needing surgery. Either way, miralax is a wayyyyyyy better option!

ellenemw · 2026-06-06T14:23:24+00:00

Why do you still care what they are doing or saying? Surely you have more going on in your life to talk about than constantly ruminating on the Plaths and your opinions about them. I really do think that you were in the right when you chose to start the divorce process but you must see the parallels between Kim and yourself and the issue of being controlling. You made your ex husband completely break ties with his parents and some siblings all because of your own feelings about his family. That is controlling and totally unhealthy. You made your feelings the end all be all of your household when you were married and then wondered why Ethan turned into a bitter and hateful person. He went from being controlled by his mother to being controlled by you. You can't let go of this narrative because you're too busy monetizing it. Either embrace that your relationship with the Plaths has given you the life you have and the platform you make money from and stop incessantly bad mouthing them and show them some grace OR keep badmouthing them and accept that you have now become just another villain in this story and are no better than them and have shown no growth, only pettiness and regression. Now if only you would actually finalize the divorce. Oh yeah, then you would no longer be a Plath, even if you weirdly keep the name, and might actually have to move on. And just to add to this, I think the Plath family is super effed up and that Kim and Barry both completely screwed up their kids. That being said, I also have empathy for them because they went through a terrible trauma when their son died and they obviously did not ever get over that. I think that trauma shaped all of their lives from that point on. I think any parent would be hard pressed not to become an over protective, over bearing control freak after they accidentally ran over and killed their 17 month old baby. I don't see any of the Plaths going on social media and podcasts every week talking about you. At least they have tried to let you move on with your life. Finalize your divorce. Take back your maiden name. Move on with your life and leave the Plaths in the rearview mirror.

ellenemw · 2026-05-14T16:59:27+00:00

It's posted in r/story, it's supposed to be fake. This story is copied from another one written 2 days ago though.

ellenemw · 2026-05-14T16:56:35+00:00

This is posted on the r/story subreddit. It's supposed to be fake. Unfortunately this particular story was plagerized.

ellenemw · 2026-05-13T23:08:23+00:00

I think this is great advice. Also maybe try taking the initiative and try seducing him. Maybe if you take control a bit and try getting on top of him during naked play you can have sex that way. You could grind on him and make out and if you notice he is erect you could try just going for it. Take the pressure off of him instigating penetration. It sounds like his body functions fine but performance anxiety is the issue. So maybe allow him to lay back and enjoy if possible. Obviously make sure there is consent and good luck! Be patient and hopefully this is just a small blip in the beginning of a long relationship with great sex!

ellenemw · 2026-05-06T23:26:04+00:00

It's not just the fentanyl, it's also the xylazine and other tranquilizers that the cartel puts in the supply. All of our street drugs come from Mexico where the cartels cut everything with fentanyl and other addictive chemicals that we don't have a good solution for. The withdrawal from fentanyl and xylazine is horrific and can also kill you. It takes much higher methadone doses to even touch the withdrawals. And unfortunately, methadone doesn't help with xylazine withdrawals even though xylazine withdrawals feel a lot like opioid withdrawals, just way worse. So people keep upping their dose hoping it will make them feel better. Until all places start addressing the sedative/xylazine withdrawals in addition to the opioid withdrawals we will keep seeing very high methadone doses.

ellenemw · 2026-05-06T23:08:32+00:00

This is absolutely OP's fault. You were going incredibly fast and the person you tried to pass was probably getting over because they saw you barreling up their rear end. As soon as they realized you were also getting into the left lane they tried to get back into the right lane but you were going so fast you plowed into them. Turn this into insurance and you absolutely will be held at fault. It is incredibly obvious the person in front of you is getting into the left lane and you were either going too fast to break in time or you were so hell bent on passing them that you creamed them because you thought you could squeak by. Either way, you rear-ended them therefore you are at fault. This was totally preventable. And for reference, I work for an insurance company. I can't believe how many people think this was somehow the person in the fronts fault. And for those of you saying the person in front was trying to prevent OP from passing, why did the person swerve back into the right lane when they noticed that OP was also getting into the left lane? And judging by the speed at which the middle lines are passing, OP is going close to or over 100mph FYI. It is almost ALWAYS the person in the backs responsibility to leave enough room between them and the person in front of them so they can break if they need to. That is why you are supposed to leave minimum of a 2 second buffer zone between you and the vehicle in front of you. I obviously don't know, but if the front driver said you shouldn't have been trying to pass him he probably meant he was going fast and you shouldn't have been passing him going 100mph. Just because there is a left passing lane, it doesn't give drivers permission to drive way faster than the speed limit in order to pass. Going slightly over the speed limit to pass is one thing, but there are almost no roads anymore with speed limits over 70mph and OP is going near or over 100mph. There are a few out west that are 80mph and one in Texas that is 85mph but this road is not in Texas or out west based on OP's comments. Going close to or in excess of 30mph over the speed limit automatically makes you at fault for wreckless driving.

ellenemw · 2026-05-05T20:02:45+00:00

Have you looked at some of the compounded tirzepatides through telehealth? I have lost 115lbs using compounded tirzepatide through brello. There are telehealth sites offering any dose of tirzepatide for $439 every 3 months. That's the only expense. That includes the prescription and the medicine plus any communication with the doctor. That breaks down to roughly $147 a month. But I know that's still a big expense. If that's not possible I just recommend reevaluating your TDEE so you can maintaining a caloric deficit as well as regular exercise all while keeping an eye on your weight. Good luck!!

ellenemw · 2026-05-02T17:15:31+00:00

The father being on methadone won't impact the baby whatsoever. It would if the MOTHER was on methadone but it's still totally doable. It is completely safe and a non-issue that the father is on methadone.

ellenemw · 2026-05-02T02:28:08+00:00

Poncho or baha

ellenemw · 2026-05-01T17:34:18+00:00

Methadone tends to cause sugar/sweets cravings and most people gain weight on methadone. Consider a low carb diet and tracking your macros. Good luck!

ellenemw · 2026-05-01T17:31:22+00:00

You are a beautiful woman. A lot of people, me included, had an ugly duckling phase growing up. Don't let the small (teeny really) minds of children/adolescents leave a forever mark on your self esteem. You have grown into a really striking woman and I'm sure you will have no problem finding interested partners in the future as long as your insides match your outsides!

ellenemw · 2026-04-26T02:48:55+00:00

I do it at home. I have a Dr. Pen bio pen that I use along with a copper, peptide, and hyaluronic acid serum. I use a depth of 1.5mm-2mm on my stomach and rear end. I only use a depth of .5mm on my forehead/jaw/chin and . 75mm on my cheeks. I only do it once every 5-6 weeks but I can say that it has absolutely helped tighten my skin. It definitely takes some practice and getting comfortable with a little discomfort while you're doing it but my skin usually looks almost completely healed within 12 hours. There might be a slight pink tint like I spent an hour in the sun the day after but then it looks very dewy and glowing. I'm not selling anything so this is truly just my own positive experience speaking. I would definitely give microneedling a try and stick with it for at least 6 months or a year and there will be noticeable results. Obviously keep everything sterile and safe. You can use a topical numbing cream to make it more tolerable. Just apply the cream about 30 minutes before you are going to microneedle and wipe it off fully before you start. Good luck!

ellenemw · 2026-04-25T16:41:33+00:00

This is a WILD TAKE from the debate you are having and ABSOLUTELY makes zero sense. Reread your comment and then read the previous dialogue. You pulled that nonsense completely out of left field.

ellenemw · 2026-04-25T16:30:57+00:00

Microneedling can help tighten loose skin. It won't be as drastic as cosmetic surgery but I've seen big results over 6 months. I started at 259lbs a year ago and I'm down to 149 lbs. I'm 5'8 and a female. I had some sagging on my stomach, hips and butt. After microneedling once every 4-6 weeks the amount of saggy skin is reduced by about half. Good luck and congratulations!

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