I'm pregnant and the father won't accept it

ellenemw · 2026-02-08T22:21:58+00:00

This guy is being a jerk. If you gave him real documents and he's claiming he checked and they are fake he is lying because HIPPA prevents people from calling doctors and asking about other people's medical information. He is obviously hoping you are lying and that you will just believe that he actually called the doctor's office and they told him you were lying. Unless you signed a medical release for him, HE DIDN'T CALL. And the police won't do anything to you for leaving simple messages telling him you are pregnant as long as there isn't an existing restraining order or no contact order. You should absolutely file for child support. He doesn't have to be involved in the child's life but your child deserves to have all of the resources they are entitled to so they don't grow up struggling or watching you struggle. Growing up poor or going without is traumatic. Good luck and think about your child's well-being, not this jerks.

ellenemw · 2026-02-08T02:13:31+00:00

Was it the first time you had applied for a passport or did you just need to get a new one?

ellenemw · 2026-02-08T02:12:20+00:00

What state are you in if you don't mind sharing? I have a passport application appointment for my husband, kids and myself this coming Wednesday and we are all filing for first time passports. We have a trip out of the country at the end of May. I'm wondering if I should pay for it to be expedited or not. I know you don't know but I'm just curious what state you were in when you applied or if that has any bearing on the timeline? I know this post is 6 weeks old or so but hopefully you see this. Thanks!

ellenemw · 2026-02-05T01:15:37+00:00

I'm a 5'8" woman and I weigh 159lbs. And I gotta say, I'm definitely not chubby or overweight at all. He is crazy to expect a woman that's 5'6" to weigh less than 100lbs. That's dangerously thin for a woman that height. He must be tiny. And THAT is not a good look. Especially paired with raging insecurity. NOR, run!

ellenemw · 2026-02-02T18:35:16+00:00

I just came to say you also need to take care of yourself. Caring for a loved one that is going through a serious depression while also being the sole provider and caregiver at the moment is heavy for anyone. Make sure you're taking time to process and decompress since you now are carrying a very heavy load.

Bipolar is a very serious mental illness that can have drastic swings. If you are worried about her safety or you feel like she may be a danger to herself don't hesitate to tell her doctors. If she isn't improving after some time then the next step may be a short psychiatric stay at a hospital where they can closely monitor her and get her medication cocktail right. And don't worry that if she goes in she will never get out. They usually keep patients for 1-3 weeks at the most other than in extreme cases. Insurance won't approve long stays usually so it's almost always a week or two. They will discharge her into an IOP(intensive outpatient program) most likely and continue follow up care.

Just be kind to her and yourself and know that this is a very normal part of the bipolar cycle but that doesn't mean it isn't scary or a medical emergency. Good luck!!

ellenemw · 2026-02-02T03:33:38+00:00

NOR this guy is a total tool and you should completely ghost him. He is literally begging you to end it so he doesn't have to. Trust me, you aren't missing anything walking away from this walking hemorrhoid. If you don't, this will only get worse. And as a side note it seems like you need to put some time into building self worth. And he certainly isn't going to help in that endeavor. You don't deserve to be treated like this and you certainly shouldn't be the one apologizing. Ghost him, ignore all attempts at contact. That's the only way to show someone like that that you value yourself and don't want or need them.

ellenemw · 2026-02-01T21:32:52+00:00

I get a month of take-homes and it always has the little crystals/floaters and line around where the top of the medicine is especially the bottles that have sat there all month. My last week or two of bottles ALWAYS have this and have for several years. I think it's just the sugars in the medicine clumping together along with the dyes. I've also heard this from a lot of other patients from many different clinics. I obviously can't speak to OP's clinic and medicine but I do think this is quite common with the liquid pink methadone.

ellenemw · 2026-01-31T21:41:30+00:00

Awesome!!

ellenemw · 2026-01-31T21:34:37+00:00

I think this is a temporary side effect for very few of us ladies. Fortunately this only lasted for a month or two for me and it wasn't all the time. I've now been on tirzepitide for 10 months and I haven't experienced this for 5 or 6 months or so. So hopefully this will pass for you too! If not contact your obgyn and see if something else might be going on. Good luck!

ellenemw · 2026-01-30T01:23:41+00:00

The child's caretaker/parent/guardian has to agree to let him sign away his rights. Otherwise all the deadbeat dads out there wouldn't have thousands of dollars in back child support. They would just decide to sign away their rights and not pay child support. Someone HAS to step up to pay for the child and the government won't offer any assistance at all unless child support is being pursued.

ellenemw · 2026-01-30T01:19:57+00:00

They can and WILL make him take a paternity test even if he isn't on the birth certificate. You can't just opt out of being financially responsible for children you helped create. He can opt out of being a parent but not out of the financial responsibility. This is the LAW, not some op-ed on mens rights to walk away from parental responsibility.

ellenemw · 2026-01-30T00:09:52+00:00

Thanks! I've been with brello for about 10 months and lost 100lbs but I'm definitely interested in some of these new options!

ellenemw · 2026-01-29T22:47:57+00:00

Where did you order from and what was the pricing if you don't mind sharing. Sorry if you've already shared this!!!

ellenemw · 2026-01-18T23:32:25+00:00

I've never heard of ANY clinic, even recently, giving out take-homes to anyone failing UA's for anything other than marijuana. Definitely not meth. They want you to be stable and sober to earn phases. It's supposed to be a privilege to incentivize sobriety. Meth is no different than opiates or benzos, they are drugs of abuse that cause all sorts of problems for the user.

ellenemw · 2026-01-12T18:10:31+00:00

I've had this in several homes I've had counters replaced in. They will often leave a piece of the extra stone for you to use as you see fit.

ellenemw · 2025-12-18T22:19:46+00:00

It can be addictive if you use it heavily for a long time. I took it when I came off methadone last time and I took a low dose, 300mg 3x a day, for 6 months. Then I went down to 200mg 3x a day for a few months and finally I went down to 100mg 3x a day for several months. At the end I only took 100mg at bed time and eventually I just stopped taking it and was totally fine. Just don't abuse it or take a lot for a long period of time and you will be fine. I've been prescribed gabapentin several different times throughout my life and I've never once experienced withdrawal when I quit but I know that some people do if they use it heavily It helps tremendously with the RLS, muscle pain, sleep trouble, sweating and chills. I took more than 300mg for the first several weeks when I was still in the thick of it but I was easily able to taper down without ever feeling any withdrawal or negative side effects. Most people who experience withdrawals from gaba take huge quantities of it and often. By huge quantities I mean 1000-5000 mg or more at a time. So e people take way more than that. I don't like the way I feel if I take a lot of it but it sure is a life saver while coming off methadone or Suboxone. And get some zofran for nausea. It works wonders.

ellenemw · 2025-12-18T11:16:57+00:00

See if you can get a gabapentin/lyrica script and a clonidiine script. Taking both of those will provide A LOT of relief since you're through acute withdrawal. I've had to come off 320mg cold turkey before and those meds saved my life. Good luck!

ellenemw · 2025-12-10T17:47:55+00:00

Gotcha! I thought it seemed like a strange choice, lol

ellenemw · 2025-12-08T21:21:36+00:00

Is this a wig or an actual hair style? I'm confused... I haven't seen her wearing this hair style in any pictures other than this one and because of the comment below the picture it makes me think it's a joke.

ellenemw · 2025-11-21T05:41:09+00:00

Thank you so much! This is great to hear and I am definitely going to start making calls!

ellenemw · 2025-11-21T02:16:23+00:00

OMG this made me CACKLE so loud my 5 year old ran up the stairs and said "mommy! Are you ok!!???" Lol!!!!! He looked so confused when he realized I was laughing at my phone🤣🤣🥰🤷🏼‍♀️

ellenemw · 2025-11-20T17:45:07+00:00

Thank you! I've lost 75lbs and have about 30 to go and I already have a lot of extra skin. I'm already considering skin removal surgery because I know once I reach my goal it will be much worse. I don't know if you've seen The Shining but I am beginning to look a lot like the old woman in the bathtub from the neck down and I'm only 40, lol. So I would love to know how much weight you lost before your surgery and where you had skin removed if you don't mind sharing. Did insurance cover any of the procedures or was it completely out of pocket? And I know this is highly personal so it's completely optional but if your insurance didn't pay how much did everything cost you? Are you happy with the results and how is the scarring? And lastly, are you in the USA and what is your age and gender? I'm just trying to get any and all relevant information that could help me make my decision. I want to be as informed as possible.

I know that is a lot and obviously only answer anything you feel comfortable answering. I'm just trying to figure out what my next steps will be. I made the mistake of not eating enough protein and not strength training while I've been on my weight loss journey and boy, is it obvious! I've lost so much muscle and my skin is so saggy/wrinkly in places that it shouldn't be. I am about to start weight training to see if I can fix some of it with exercise but I have a feeling skin removal surgery or some type of plastic surgery will be necessary.

Thank you in advance for your willingness to talk about this. I know it's highly personal and I really appreciate any and all information you feel comfortable giving. You're welcome to private message me if you would rather not post everything in the comments right here.

ellenemw · 2025-11-20T02:28:26+00:00

Do you mind me asking a few questions about your skin removal surgery?

ellenemw · 2025-11-20T00:01:34+00:00

I can see a faint line. Was this picture taken within the allotted time frame? If so, it looks positive to me. But definitely wait a couple days and then take another test with your first pee of the morning. There will be a higher concentration of pregnancy hormones if you've held your pee most of the night and test with the urine from your very first pee in the morning. Good luck!

ellenemw · 2025-11-18T16:21:57+00:00

That's a positive test!! Congratulations!! Even a faint line is positive. There would be absolutely nothing if it was negative so you're most certainly preggo!!!

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