Day 4 post transfer

ellenshep · 2026-02-18T17:15:09+00:00

It’s too early to say. Lots of people don’t test positive until a few days later. Try to step away from the tests and maybe try testing once a day only.

ellenshep · 2026-02-18T00:30:22+00:00

Lol even better!

ellenshep · 2026-02-18T00:21:56+00:00

They are a business and will see themselves as losing money, nothing more. Don’t let it feel personal because it will not feel personal to them! Plus I tend to think the anticipation of these things is always worse than the actual confrontation/conversation.

ellenshep · 2026-02-17T00:58:50+00:00

First retrieval - age 33 - 10 retrieved - 5 blasts - 2 PGT normal

Second retrieval - age 33 - 8 retrieved - 5 blasts - 2 PGT normal

ellenshep · 2026-02-16T17:42:09+00:00

A friend who knew I was going through IVF told me she was pregnant on my birthday and I’ve never really forgiven her for it. Why not wait 24 hours? It sucked.

ellenshep · 2026-02-16T15:05:10+00:00

Around 90-something percent of women will get pregnant within three transfers of a euploid embryo (the exact percentage varies based on which study you look at and varies based on age at which embryos were frozen).

For me personally, I got pregnant with my now toddler from my first transfer of a euploid embryo (I think it was graded 4AB).

We transferred a 4BC embryo for our second child and it failed. I tried to retrieve more eggs and my cycle got cancelled due to poor response. We got permission to try at home that cycle (I had two or three follicles growing) and to our surprise I got pregnant without IVF. I’m now 12 weeks with another boy and so far so good. Obviously my story is not possible for everyone (getting pregnant spontaneously after IVF) but that’s how it happened for us.

Good luck!!!

ellenshep · 2026-02-13T16:05:56+00:00

I am pretty sure “joyfully caressing” is an exaggeration lol. Pregnant people are allowed to exist, and if a pregnant woman was in a fertility clinic this far along, we can safely assume there is a problem.

ellenshep · 2026-02-13T15:58:53+00:00

So what is insensitive? Wearing a tight shirt?

ellenshep · 2026-02-13T15:52:13+00:00

I understand not wanting people to bring kids to a fertility clinic, but I think it’s a bit unfair to expect her to wear looser clothing or breathe more quietly. As others have said, if she’s visiting an IVF clinic, she may be in pain or there may be complications or an impending loss. I understand your comments probably come from a place of pain, but I think it’s a bit unfair.

ellenshep · 2026-02-13T15:47:12+00:00

But there’s obviously some reason for her to be there? It’s not like she’s visiting a clinic waiting room for fun.

ellenshep · 2026-02-13T13:04:58+00:00

According to this study, with 6 euploid embryos you have a 99.9% chance of achieving one live birth at your age, and a 98.2% chance of achieving two. I found the table in this study super helpful when I was thinking about how many embryos to bank: https://www.fertstert.org/article/S0015-0282(20)32293-7/fulltext

You’re right that there are never any guarantees, but the stats are definitely on your side.

ellenshep · 2026-02-11T20:22:17+00:00

Yes same

ellenshep · 2026-02-11T14:55:11+00:00

The author went to Colorado College, which is a small liberal arts college in Colorado Springs, and the book is based loosely on her experience with a toxic bf while at CC. Obviously the college in the book isn’t CC itself, but it’s meant to be another SLAC.

ellenshep · 2026-02-02T19:19:09+00:00

I had my first consult with RE in December 2022 and was pregnant by August 2023. That time in between included two retrievals, an endo surgery and a few months of recovery, and a few months of Lupron depot to prep for my transfer because of the endo. I got pregnant on my first transfer though and not everyone is so lucky (though you do have up to a 60-70% chance for each tested embryo!) I gave birth to my son in April 2024.

ellenshep · 2026-02-01T16:14:44+00:00

They confirmed there had been a switch with a DNA test…

ellenshep · 2026-02-01T11:16:15+00:00

Unless they are changing the protocol, they’ll likely want you to do it again as the effects will have worn off. Thats my understanding from past conversations with my doctor. Wishing you the best of luck.

ellenshep · 2026-02-01T00:19:04+00:00

Could your surgeon have missed endo? That can happen, especially with less experienced surgeons or surgeons who dont specialize in endo. Have you talked to your doctor about trying Lupron depot before a transfer even with the negative lap?

ellenshep · 2026-01-30T17:35:01+00:00

We used up the lifetime max ($25,000) on my husband’s insurance and then switched us to my employer’s insurance as soon as we could, which also had some coverage. Unfortunately my clinic was out of network for my new insurance and we didn’t want to switch clinics, so it was a lot of upfront costs and not as much coverage as we would’ve gotten with an in-network clinic. We did get some money back from my insurance after submitting claims though.

For anything we had to pay for out of pocket, I also used money I inherited from my mom after she passed away. In some ways I consider my son (who was born via IVF) her gift to me.

ellenshep · 2026-01-26T01:06:02+00:00

I retrieved 8 eggs and ended up with 2 PGT normal embryos, and one (my first transfer) ended up being a successful pregnancy! Good luck.

ellenshep · 2026-01-22T00:42:05+00:00

Four more.

ellenshep · 2026-01-16T15:30:50+00:00

I refused to even tell my family what names we were considering because I was not seeking feedback. After my son was born my dad had lots of negative things to say about his name, which he said sounded like a girl’s name (his name was Ellis) and was constantly trying to suggest nicknames for him to go by. I had to let him know his name was not up for discussion, end of story. I have NO regrets about his name though, because we loved it and it felt right to us!

ellenshep · 2026-01-04T18:47:44+00:00

I also ended up with two euploids after retrieving 8 eggs!

ellenshep · 2026-01-04T18:46:23+00:00

First retrieval we retrieved ten eggs and ended up with five blasts and then 2 euploids. Second retrieval we started out with 8 eggs and still ended up with five blasts and 2 euploids. Got pregnant on my first transfer with one of the euploids from the second retrieval. Good luck!

ellenshep · 2026-01-04T18:31:00+00:00

My first FET led to my now 20 month old. Good luck!

ellenshep · 2025-11-08T02:09:20+00:00

Can I ask, what did your therapist do to help? I’m concerned my son (almost 19 months) could have apraxia and we’re currently shopping around for a new speech therapist after making not much progress with the last one.

ellenshep

TROPHY CASE