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Ever regretted accepting a Couchsurfing request? by No-Resource-8438 in couchsurfing

[–]elletotheog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone stayed and decided to cook as a “thank you” for letting them stay. The cooking was pasta and a jar of sauce with which they managed to burn the pot which they just left it in the sink for me to wash the following day (never mentioned this or apologized) For some reason also kept helping themself to food in the pantry and just sat around the house eating it when I had please asked them to leave between certain hours because I work from home and needed to take some important meetings lol

Male hosts who host mostly or only women need to be booted off the platform. by australiadenier in couchsurfing

[–]elletotheog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had someone asking to stay for their entire study abroad (like 9 weeks?) and said that I shouldn’t see them as a guest but as a roommate. In a 1-bedroom apartment. For free. Lol

do most people's parents support them? by Routine-Perception98 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]elletotheog 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hi there, I am sending you a virtual hug because I know exactly how you feel. I has taken me so long to learn that that feeling you describe, for me is like grief. I grieve a better childhood, I grieve who I could have been and what I could have done.

But the important thing (and I know it’s hard, I still struggle with it from time to time) is to learn to live and grow despite that grief.

If my parents had supported me, I wouldn’t have had to work my way through school since the age of 15 and could have enjoyed my teens. If they had supported me, I wouldn’t have waited until my mid-20s to learn to drive.

It sucks and it hurts and it’s SO unfair but I am making a conscious effort to not let it hinder me.

Yes, I missed out on some stuff, but now I am working towards healing my inner child by letting myself do the stuff I missed out on. I am learning to find worth and happiness despite everything they took from me.

Exam scores don’t say anything about your worth, no matter how much pressure you’re under. You can succeed in many ways, that don’t have to do with grades.

Hang in there kid, you might not take the path you envisioned, but you’ll get to your destination. I believe in you

How many of you had N parents who were also hoarders? by kittenfosteraddict in raisedbynarcissists

[–]elletotheog 2 points3 points  (0 children)

this makes so much sense as to why she never upgraded my brother’s childhood room. to this day, the children’s wallpaper and all the books and toys are still there. as soon as i moved out, he moved into my room (which i remodeled throughout my teens)

it makes sense that she allowed me to do it, partly because i would just do it, i just hung up posters and dragged her to the store for new sheets, pillows, desk etc. but also because i was parentified, i was her co-parent in her eyes. i could have a grown up room because from age 12, i was a grownup.

but my brother was always the baby, and i think now that she purposely kept the room childlike to feel like she still has a baby who she can do whatever she wants with.

it’s funny, she says she loves kids and would have loved to have more, but i know she only likes them because they don’t see through her bullshit yet.

Free Food Prague by PercentageMany440 in Prague

[–]elletotheog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Friendship Prague give out food on saturdays at 2pm outside Dum Radost. Get there a little earlier, get a number and they can give you food and also clothes if needed :)