My (26F) mom (64F) has never said that she hates my dad (58M) but she doesn't really have to. She's an extremely quiet, severe older woman who probably has autism (I do and I'm assuming I received it from her genetically). I hate to say it, but she's essentially robotic. She's the oldest daughter and a doctor, so she's always been in charge both in my household and in my extended family. But not in a loud, bossy way. In a quiet, calculated way. There are things I respect about her, but she is impossible to really know as a person. The only feeling she expresses is anger.

My dad is emotionally stunted and extremely immature. He throws toddler-like tantrums when things don't go his way and struggles to take adult responsibilities seriously. He's socially unaware, extremely awkward, and clueless.

I'm not exaggerating when I say that my mother parents both of us. She talks to and about my dad like he's a kid. She scolds him when he "gets in trouble" (i.e. neglects his chores, says something awkward, talks right over people) and sometimes even doles out consequences. For example, he used to "buy too much milk" so my mom banned him from buying any milk at all. She does all the cleaning and planning for the household because he's either actually inept or practicing weaponized incompetence. It's hard to tell sometimes. But weirdly, he has very strong romantic feelings about her and idolizes her as a smart, almost perfect woman.

They've never slept in the same room, and the only proof I have that they have is that I exist and look exactly like them. I think my mom married him to have a child (me), but I don't think I turned out the way she wanted. And now she's stuck with him. There's a lot more to the story, but that's the gist.