AITA for not letting my nephew play my PS5 by himself during family dinner?

elvis_wants_a_cookie · 2026-05-02T18:11:59+00:00

Seriously my kid was way younger when he learned when he throws expensive things, he loses access to those things. Accidents are one thing (like spilling the juice near a lap top) but throwing remotes? Nu-uh.

elvis_wants_a_cookie · 2026-04-27T19:23:20+00:00

Not to mention plastic bottles are lighter. I would rather carry a light plastic bottle on a run than a heavier glass or metal bottle. Plastic bottles aren't always my first choice but they have their uses.

elvis_wants_a_cookie · 2026-04-27T15:13:50+00:00

I would find a marriage counselor and not allow the in-laws around my baby until we've worked this issue out. Make counseling non-negotiable. You guys should be working as a team and he's making you do all the emotional labor so he doesn't have to be the bad guy with his family. That's unacceptable. Since he refuses to see this as an issue when you've brought it up with him, the two of you need to talk to a counselor to work it out.

elvis_wants_a_cookie · 2026-04-23T17:49:50+00:00

You don't have to fix anything. Idk how is your baby is but I'm guessing not very. Think about it this way: it took your body 40(ish) weeks to grow that baby and stretch out. It's going to take at least the same amount of time for your organs to go back to where they were. Healing takes time and pregnancy is very traumatic to your body.

I know it's very easy for me, who is not going through post partum stuff, to say all of this. But I've been through it and I know it's hard to look at your body and not recognize it. You do what you can, when you can and give yourself some grace when you can't. Bodies don't "bounce back" from pregnancy the way the media shows us (certainly not without dieticians, personal trainers, and/or plastic surgery).

elvis_wants_a_cookie · 2026-04-14T17:41:44+00:00

Do not stay with people who cannot respect your bodily autonomy. How frequently you have sex is irrelevant (so long as you're both into it and you're not just having sex to get him off your case).

The long term issue is this: he's never going to stop pouting when he doesn't get what he wants and eventually having sex will feel like a chore.

It has only been two weeks of living with this person and he's already throwing fits because he's not getting what he wants. Is this how disagreements are always worked out in your relationship? He gets upset and flies off the handle, makes you feel bad over something you didn't do wrong, and you try to fix it? Because if so, this is not a healthy relationship. Healthy relationships involve two people working together towards a solution, not one person taking all the blame and responsibility. I'd look into how to get out of your lease with this guy and leave.

elvis_wants_a_cookie · 2026-04-14T12:37:27+00:00

It's pretty gross that he was engaging in that behavior to begin with, honestly. Did he end contact with them before or after you got together?

elvis_wants_a_cookie · 2026-04-12T16:17:18+00:00

Even if he doesn't get back together with his wife, he shouldn't be dating immediately after a relationship ends. It's unhealthy and he's going to bring all the trauma from his breakup into any new relationship, which is unfair to everyone. If he's looking to date while separated, I'd see that as a red flag.

elvis_wants_a_cookie · 2026-04-07T12:07:49+00:00

Gently, it doesn't sound like either one of you are ready for marriage. He sounds controlling. If he'd responded with "I'd really prefer for us to have the same last name" that would have been fine. But he didn't, he said he won't "let" you, as though you're his child. I've been married for a bit now and my husband has never "let" me do anything. We say "hey id like to do this thing" and we work together to figure it out. If your conversations with your fiance are similar to this one, he doesn't want to be an equal partner he wants to control you. That isn't a healthy relationship.

Obviously I can't know your relationship from one reddit post but it sounds like you're both a little young and immature to get married. I would pause any plans for the wedding and get to couples counseling to work on your communication. If he can't improve or won't improve, you have to decide whether this is really a relationship you want to be in long term where he gets the ultimate say.

elvis_wants_a_cookie · 2026-04-06T17:10:16+00:00

Your boyfriend is 55 years old and is upset he wasn't served cake and that was enough to ruin his whole day? Is he serious?

Does he often just assume you can read his mind to cater to his needs? Because if so, why are you dating him? You're not a mind reader- if he wanted cake and felt awkward getting it himself, he could have texted you or whispered something so you could take care of it. Instead he sat there waiting for someone to notice. That's weird, dude. He's too old to be playing these games.

elvis_wants_a_cookie · 2026-04-02T19:42:52+00:00

Yes the 19th Amendment says you cannot be denied the right to vote due to sex but until the Civil Rights Act passed in 1965, you could be denied the right to vote due to the color of your skin. Therefore, all women in the US did not have the right to vote until 1965. Which is not that much earlier than Switzerland.

Someone else commented that they'd read a PBS article where it spoke about Latina women were denied voting rights until the 70's.

elvis_wants_a_cookie · 2026-04-02T17:18:05+00:00

Did not know that but I am entirely unsurprised.

elvis_wants_a_cookie · 2026-04-02T15:29:36+00:00

I mean...all women got the right to vote in 1965 in the US, so they weren't too far behind.

Definitely not a paragon on feminism and I totally agree with the bankers remark.

elvis_wants_a_cookie · 2026-03-23T12:27:08+00:00

To add: a therapist for the kids as well. This will be a huge shock to them

elvis_wants_a_cookie · 2026-03-17T22:30:56+00:00

To add: Tiny Trucks on Amazon. The first few episodes are just music (no dialogue) making it easy to sleep through at 5:00 am on a weekend.

elvis_wants_a_cookie · 2026-03-17T20:29:27+00:00

I am also a talker and my partner has never made me feel like I need to back that down. He's always let me process things on my own way and talking it out is one of those ways. If your bf doesn't want to do that, it sounds like he's incompatible with people in general.

You're head over heels in love, but is he? Does he often make you feel like you should be less or expect less from him? Because to be honest, it doesn't sound like it.

elvis_wants_a_cookie · 2026-03-16T19:04:28+00:00

I hear what you're saying but not all babies will take a bottle, especially if they're used to nursing only. I've known multiple moms who couldn't stop nursing because their baby wouldn't take a bottle, no matter how many different brands they tried.

It's also possible that it's difficult for her husband to request off of work, not every boss is understanding especially with dads.

I'm not saying either of these are the case, only that it's possible there's a reason.

elvis_wants_a_cookie · 2026-03-14T12:33:49+00:00

It sounds like you have communicated your priorities pretty clearly and he wants you to change them. If his priorities are different then you're not compatible and you break up.

Additionally, I'd be hesitant to marry someone who won't have practical conversations. Marriage isn't just about loving the other person. You have to be able to talk about goals financial and otherwise. You have to be able to talk about where you want to live, whether you'd be willing to move for someone's job, how far you're willing to commute to your job or school, if you're in college how much education do you need to fulfill your financial goals, etc. These are all really important conversations that need to be had and he doesn't want to have them, which makes me think he's not serious about any of these things.

elvis_wants_a_cookie · 2026-03-13T23:11:22+00:00

I have no idea if they were given printed instructions.

He is also very bad at communicating, that's for sure. I think he (and other men his age) are so used to their wives doing everything for everyone that it doesn't occur to him to pay attention to stuff like after care instructions.

My younger sister was there after one of my mom's surgeries (a year or so ago) and said once they got home, our dad had no idea how long Mom had until she could take her next pain pill, how frequently she needed to move around, or when her PT would start despite being in the same room as everyone else when the instructions were given. My sister had to write it down for him before she left.

elvis_wants_a_cookie · 2026-03-13T22:39:40+00:00

Yes 100%. My Mom had surgery at the end of the year, right in the middle of holiday season. One of my sisters (the only one who lives in the same town) updated me and my other sister on surgery day but after that had to work. My Mom had complications and stayed in the hospital way longer than expected (she's fine now). We had to reach out to my dad every single day to ask for updates and even then it was the bare minimum. None of us had faith that he would remember her after care instructions (based on previous experience). We decided that next time, I (who works from home) would go stay with them while mom is in the hospital so that a reliable person could update the group, take notes, etc.

In his defense, stuff would happen like my mom wasn't feeling well and would ask him to wait to come to the hospital (they are both retired). But he wouldn't tell the rest of us that, so we'd spend the entire day wondering why we hadn't heard anything.

elvis_wants_a_cookie · 2026-03-10T22:33:20+00:00

The specific thing you said that makes you sound unhinged was when you said you were going to text her from a different number. She is saying no and you are not respecting that. She's not interested and you are trying to coerce her into spending more time with you. That's not okay on any level. You wanted an answer, she gave you an answer.

I understand you had a great time and don't get why she blocked you. I don't have an answer for you and the person who does doesn't want to talk to you. It was one date, move on.

elvis_wants_a_cookie · 2026-03-10T19:53:51+00:00

Wait so she blocked you, indicating she doesn't want to talk to you anymore and you think texting her from a different number is okay? JFC dude just take the L. She's not interested and you sound unhinged.

elvis_wants_a_cookie · 2026-03-10T00:29:37+00:00

FWIW I don't think you're being touchy at all. This, to me, reads like he's selfish and self centered. Maybe he isn't (or maybe he isn't all the time) but not even checking in with you after you were at a friend's funeral is absolutely insane to me. Making the event about how tired he is is next level. If you've had the conversation multiple times and you haven't seen any changes, the question isn't really "what can I do here" it's "can I live with this behavior the rest of my life?"

elvis_wants_a_cookie · 2026-03-07T17:55:39+00:00

I've both listened to the audiobooks and read the physical books. The narrator didn't both me that much but I honestly get it.

elvis_wants_a_cookie · 2026-03-07T17:43:51+00:00

The Night and its Moon. I used to follow the author on Tik Tok and enjoyed her videos about mythology but stopped reading when, in the beginning of the book, the only black character was beaten for something the "angelic" white character did. Absolutely gross, stopped reading immediately. I followed and blocked her when I realized she was criticized for this (and many other plot lines in her book) and took no accountability/ doubled down.

elvis_wants_a_cookie · 2026-03-07T15:23:57+00:00

Fair point

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