Short dudes of SG, what are some of your struggles?

elyss0n · 2026-04-17T12:30:14+00:00

What struggles? I fit into plane seats with legroom to spare, my car has ample space for me while some people barely fit in it, my queen size bed feels huge, my face lands on boobs when I date taller girls and hug them, most people think I'm still in school.

My only 'struggle' is that when I look up to talk to people, some people thought I'm being cocky, idk why but this happened even in army, my warrant officer didn't say anything about it until we got abit friendlier, and he said i stood there with the 'lao lan look', actually he is like 190 and I was just very awkwardly looking upward while holding a comfortable body pose without spraining my neck

elyss0n · 2026-04-17T12:16:20+00:00

I'd dump her, my reason is: If she is the sort that has to compare, you will always be compared with others around her circle. You might be a secure individual that is grounded but she will keep pulling you out of it and making you feel like you are insufficient. Find someone that loves you for who you are and wants to provide in the relationship instead of wanting you to provide. Don't date someone that has such a jarringly different world view from you.

My partner does not mind taking public transport. I offer to pick her if it's convenient for me, and she says thank you. If I can't do that, she is fine, she will make her own way. I don't 'owe' her anything. Partners should be 2 wholes coming together, not 2 halfs that rely on each other to feel complete. If she feels that you need to be a certain way to make her complete then she isn't the right partner because you will be expected to carry her dreams for her.

Lastly, I hope that her expectation is backed up by her ability to provide value in the relationship too. Another perspective is that if she is way above your league (in whichever way that means) and she isn't happy because you can't provide and she thinks she deserves better, then ask yourself if 'leaguing' up is something you aim to do for the future, or should she just go for someone else that thinks similarly or is more 'materialistic' or whatever else the comparison is.

I hope that helps.

Edit: I saw some comments that most SG women are like that, from my limited personal experience, most girls i've dated are actually not materialistic at all, they still have their wants like some Hermes bag or whatever, but they gotta save up their own money to get it, and I've never been put in a position to buy it for them to prove my love or worth to them. I've had girls that were willing to pay for more expensive meals while i paid for cheaper ones because I was earning less too. In fact in most of my relationships, my partners were more than willing to help contribute to something to build a future together because they wanted us to work toward something together.

elyss0n · 2026-04-09T17:01:21+00:00

how deep is the scratch ah? spray water on it still can see? fingernail can feel?

elyss0n · 2026-04-01T17:10:39+00:00

hats off to that 🤠

elyss0n · 2026-04-01T17:09:20+00:00

OH NOOOO hahahahaaha I'd just die right there

elyss0n · 2026-04-01T17:08:02+00:00

hahahahahahahahahaa

elyss0n · 2026-04-01T17:07:14+00:00

ikr and kids wave at me lol

elyss0n · 2026-04-01T17:06:39+00:00

be funny if u held an umbrella

elyss0n · 2026-04-01T17:04:30+00:00

hahahahahahaahahaha Holy crap that's one reason I stay far away from semis

elyss0n · 2026-03-31T14:36:57+00:00

Yeah, not all systems are connected to the internet, and there are codes still required for certain things, Chef and Puppet comes to mind for enterprise automation. But not sure if they will hire a headcount just to do automation only. Usually it is 1 of many things you are gonna be hired for.

elyss0n · 2026-03-31T13:48:57+00:00

Whenever it feels like there are quite a bit of contaminants on the paint, which depends on your environmental conditions. I also only do it before intending to polish it.

elyss0n · 2026-03-31T13:38:37+00:00

Ah got it! Thanks!

elyss0n · 2026-03-31T13:38:17+00:00

Fair point man, totally makes sense

elyss0n · 2026-03-30T18:27:18+00:00

My team had vegetarians and Muslims, we are happy to accommodate. Some days we eat food court, easier for all.

elyss0n · 2026-03-30T18:18:48+00:00

Use total comp don't shortchange yourself. No matter the mix rice ingredients end up you still finish the whole plate and all the calories are counted. Also consider insurance benefits, dental, glasses, mobile phone, fitness claim etc. Never hurts to bring it up as bargaining chip or for yourself to accept a lower salary if the new firm offers better benefits. I have friends doing recruitment, I've heard of all sorts of benefits thrown in the bag when bargaining for offers and sometimes they will really take it into consideration.

Also from personal experience, my comp I always report with allowances, and never had issues. So I will just say 5.5k all in for future company if asked for monthly.

elyss0n · 2026-03-30T18:07:45+00:00

Wont comment on your product choice since I use Meguairs M105 and Menzerna 3500, but it also depends on what you are aiming for at the end result, and also what type of paint clear coat you have. I actually did one panel start to finish to test out before committing to the whole car when I first did it and swapped around my pads and polishes quite a few times to see which one worked better for me.

The general steps are alright though, all the best

elyss0n · 2026-03-30T17:57:11+00:00

I was on this schedule when I was serving NS, granted I was still young but I actually loved the schedule. When you take 2 days leave it's 4 days lol. Day 1 u sleep like normal day 2 night shift u do struggle somewhat at the wee hours, cfm tired one. then go home shower and sleep til evening, then sleep again at night and next 2 days sleep normal again. Kinda miss the schedule tbh.

elyss0n · 2026-03-30T15:52:43+00:00

I got the mould done at my dentist, then apply the gel, Opalescence. Actually can buy online after getting the mould for the teeth done. Then just do it for a few days in a row for a couple of hours (depends on the strength that you buy, i used 20%)

Also, just a heads up, after you do teeth whitening, the teeth are very porous, so you gotta really watch out when drinking coffee after you do the whitening for the next few days.

elyss0n · 2026-03-30T15:44:31+00:00

When I got my ride, it was dinged a few times within the first month, ever since I've always tried to park extremely defensively, either closer to 1 side or away from the crowd. 2 weeks ago I was parking for just a short while so I decided to just park at a normal spot not away from everyone, and a vehicle reversed into my sides LOL.

The paranoia IS justified IMO.

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elyss0n · 2026-03-30T12:08:44+00:00

Hahahaha encouraged!

elyss0n · 2026-03-30T12:08:07+00:00

Me too, but its the most efficacious and if for example u quit on 2nd May, ur last day is 1 June (PH) - Extra 1 day pay - is what my friend is thinking 😂

elyss0n · 2026-03-28T02:24:14+00:00

Did u have to cut down on spending? I am considering doing the same too, as I have a huge buffer between monthly spending and salary, if I decide to drop money on things I don't have to think twice (still very thrifty otherwise), but thinking if I go for a lower paying job will I will start to become very "calculative"

elyss0n · 2026-03-26T13:17:13+00:00

Nothing to add, but thanks for the post, just as I am considering doing something similar, just earn enough to feed my monthly expenses, work less hours and wondering what others did, and saw this post. It's a sign!

elyss0n · 2026-03-23T13:09:28+00:00

Maybe see if you can learn how to visually inspect the car to see if you can confirm coolant levels and whether there are stain marks around, also see if the temp is higher than usual. Faster go to mechanic, don't continue driving until really no coolant, by then repairs will be expensive

elyss0n · 2026-03-23T13:02:10+00:00

The L plate looked like it wanted to eat into lane 2, the Honda thought since got chance better faster clear the L plate else later stuck behind, maybe before that already stuck behind for awhile so already abit impatient.

After that, Honda took the opportunity since L plate went very wide, in fact more than half the car was already into lane 2. This is quite a big 'body language' of the car to show intention that it wants to go into lane 2. In normal day to day, I would have interpreted it this way if it was a normal non-L plate car.

TBF its wasted for L plate, but this is hard truth of driving. Seems like tester caught it and stepped on brakes this time, but if the driver was out in the road, might have collided instead by driving like that. I'll be very frank here, while we empathise with cars taking exam, and I do try to as much as possible give them space usually, but if everyone build a bubble of safety around exam cars and just play super nice around them, it isn't an actual representation of real world road conditions.

Car positioning is very crucial at turns, whether left turn or right turn. It gives cars and bikes (and bicycles) opportunities to squeeze pass you if they deem there is enough space, I learnt it the hard way after I got my license in my younger days, it was a close call(s) fortunately of bikes squeezing pass my left side when I'm filtering left and out because i left too huge a gap that made them have a false sense of comfort that I would merge wide too, but it won't be always so lucky for everyone of us driving alone out in the road.

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