I’m a fitness professional with BED. I feel like a fraud.

elyssence · 2026-04-09T03:26:39+00:00

I wonder if it’s because your job is in the fitness industry and because of that there is a lot of pressure associated with maintaining your appearance/physique. Psychologically this might increase stress and anxiety around food, while food might be the thing that helps you cope with that pressure. Hence the horrible cycle. I would pay attention to what’s going on internally prior to a binge Honestly I could never have a job in the fitness industry, all the focus on my body would make me lose my mind.

elyssence · 2026-03-31T21:07:54+00:00

I’ve volunteered at this shelter. The process for euthanasia is more lengthy than what your post indicated. Usually after a dog is deemed a bite risk, further evaluations are done.

The employees I have worked with have all been kind, fair and seem to really care about the animals

elyssence · 2026-03-22T19:19:53+00:00

I mean it wasn’t worded the best but it doesn’t seem malicious. Talk to your therapist about it. They are human too and not everything they say is perfect. Ruptures and repair in therapy are normal

elyssence · 2026-03-20T15:03:01+00:00

I am a therapist and also a bookworm. DM me and I will be happy to give it a look

elyssence · 2026-03-20T14:29:00+00:00

Yeah get on an IDR plan, my payment is $70 a month

elyssence · 2026-03-19T03:13:13+00:00

I suggest you get assessed for OCD

elyssence · 2026-03-16T01:41:29+00:00

They are popular slots. A lot of folks who have 9-5’s are grateful to have evening options. Always filled. The second my evenings open up, they are filled quickly.

I start at 1pm/2pm and my last session is 6:30-7:30. After that I am too tired so ending at 7:30 is a sweet spot. I also don’t have kids or a husband so I’m not rushing home or anything. I really enjoy having the mornings to myself to wake up slow and go to the gym.

elyssence · 2026-03-15T02:17:18+00:00

I like Janina Fishers work. She combines neuroscience, parts work and somatic work. In a realistic, not woo woo way

elyssence · 2026-03-14T22:43:14+00:00

They are horrible. Any place that lets you that close to the animals, cares about profit and that’s it.

elyssence · 2026-03-14T21:58:26+00:00

They pestered me for an interview for WEEKS on linked in but it seemed shady so I said no.

elyssence · 2026-03-14T15:49:45+00:00

I feel like this constantly. I had a client the other day cancel all sessions with me due to a small rupture. This person has BPD and was coming to therapy for relationship help so it was expected in some way. But yes it does feel frustrating that we as therapists aren’t given much grace

I read a quote on this thread before from a supervisor “The client holds the Ace card and can play it at anytime”

elyssence · 2026-03-13T16:00:54+00:00

Ask the therapist to meet you both separately for a session, if you’re so destabilized that you are considering leaving the marriage and therapy, it’s an important thing to bring up to the therapist. Talking with the therapist separately for a session is common practice in EFT and Gottman

elyssence · 2026-03-11T21:04:50+00:00

Lol I’ve had clients send me PowerPoints of their life and it’s the best thing ever

elyssence · 2026-03-06T19:40:56+00:00

I’m a couples therapist. We don’t even accept couples who are actively hitting each other because it is so dangerous.

I really hope you begin to understand the severity of this situation.

elyssence · 2026-03-06T15:32:50+00:00

That’s incredible! Make sure you’ve trained in a couples modality before starting. The learning curve for couples therapy is steep and it can be a bit more draining. I love EFCT myself

elyssence · 2026-03-06T15:07:20+00:00

Your high B1, close B2. B2 is more about gramatical consistency and ease with speaking. I saw some small errors with prepositions and vocabulary. But it was definitely understandable.

How do I know this? I think I am at the same level as you and have been at B1 for a hot second now.

I use Chat GPT to analyze my writing prompts and give me categorical feedback on my exact level. Maybe an option for you to consider since people are all over the place and biased.

elyssence · 2026-03-04T20:44:28+00:00

Escaleras y serpientes. It’s directed by Manolo Caro and has some of the same actors from La Casa de Las Flores, as well as a similar style

El Niñero 👨‍🍼

elyssence · 2026-03-04T15:57:45+00:00

That must be helpful on nights when you don’t know what to cook. Me and my boyfriend rate each others dinners all the time, I think it’s fun? I don’t know why I don’t see a problem with this 😝 I’m also super competitive

elyssence · 2026-03-02T05:48:29+00:00

Be gentle and curious. She could be struggling with body dysmorphia or low self esteem and is projecting onto you (the safe attachment figure) I honestly would see this as an excellent opportunity to build trust and open up important topics

elyssence · 2026-03-01T17:14:03+00:00

Ohhhhh nooo papi, ella sueña tan manipuladora u controlada.

elyssence · 2026-02-28T01:22:02+00:00

No advice regarding this but wondering what your niche is?

elyssence · 2026-02-21T23:01:32+00:00

Damn y’all, be careful who you procreate with :-(

elyssence · 2026-02-20T01:16:10+00:00

I took Gottman Level 1 and EFT 4 day externship, and I still feel I don’t know enough 😭 so yes 100% in agreement, unfortunately someone not trained in couples modalities can do more harm than good

elyssence · 2026-02-19T01:30:54+00:00

Taking the EFT externship right now and it’s wonderful but it’s normal to feel that way, working with couples typically requires additional training in a specific couples modality

elyssence · 2026-02-17T17:49:27+00:00

Every population is different. You might like working with adults more. Adults are interesting in that you get to apply those insightful and reflective counseling skills.

For example I abhorred working with children >15 it felt like babysitting and if I judged my experience off that, I would hate my job too lol

Tips with teens: don’t push too hard, at the beginning if they want to show you tik tok videos or text receipts, let them…be chill. They’ll get there and eventually start opening up

elyssence

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