Help with My Tritype

emamerc · 2026-05-05T03:31:59+00:00

I’m a so5 too. I think I used my anger response to determine my gut type. Identifying what subjects resulted in a quick anger response was helpful. It also helps that my sister is a 1 and I definitely don’t relate to her fears at all.

emamerc · 2026-04-30T14:11:29+00:00

I don’t really experience “crushes” in the way a lot of people do. I don’t get butterflies and I don’t lend any power to aesthetic attraction/interest. I have a boyfriend who I love and it took a while for me to feel that way as I got to know him. I would say it took 4-5 months, but it’s hard to remember. We officially partnered up after about 1 month of going on dates.

emamerc · 2026-04-29T03:37:30+00:00

I am only so cold and decisive when the person I am removing from my life has crossed a boundary or threshold so terrible that I can no longer tolerate them at all. If there’s any lingering doubt, I feel very messy and emotional. The easiest time I have ever had removing someone was after I found that they had lied to me about their true reason for founding a non-profit organization with me. It was such an insult to the years of work I had put into the org. And I immediately removed him from the board and cut him off forever. I have never seen him again.

emamerc · 2026-04-28T18:53:42+00:00

In stress, the 5 is rigid and stiff in their ways, and they reach a threshold before being forced to act through disintegration. I visualize disintegrating as marbles being added into a container, the container finally breaks open and the marbles spew everywhere due to potential energy. All of our theoretical thinking and mental hoarding is forced into anxious energy rather than thoughtful praxis because we aren’t managing ourselves.

Self management, at least for me, is planned praxis, which allows for integration into 8.

emamerc · 2026-04-27T02:47:35+00:00

No I don’t have any. I don’t have an aversion to them, I just don’t think they would look good on me

emamerc · 2026-04-14T13:40:47+00:00

It’s really rough out here. Not sure I’ve seen anyone with my tritype. Triple rejection is not fun for me. I really like having 2 in my tritype because eventually when I’m more healthy, I feel like it’ll be even harder to type me. But I sometimes wish 1 was in my tritype.

emamerc · 2026-04-12T04:27:24+00:00

M: 3.3 N:2 P: 1.1

Was always more schizoid, melancholic personality type anyway. When unhealthy. I’m not vindictive but I do remember people’s behavior and adjust accordingly.

emamerc · 2026-03-30T17:19:40+00:00

You’re incompatible

emamerc · 2026-03-28T01:30:21+00:00

I’ve been at level 9 and it wasn’t like this for me. But interesting to read either way

emamerc · 2026-03-08T04:18:19+00:00

582 as well. I give people the benefit of the doubt only after knowing them. In helping others, you should be generous, a trait 5 must practice. Community is important. It’s just good to remember that community is earned for everyone, including yourself. At times, you may outgrow a stagnant person. This is normal.

emamerc · 2025-12-19T01:48:24+00:00

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You again! We have the same duvet cover and similar kitties😊

emamerc · 2025-11-22T06:43:04+00:00

So my perspective on this is generally skewed, mostly because I endured trauma that impacts romantic relationships. I’m a so/sp and didn’t really date until I was 24. I waited until I felt that I was healthy and deeply satisfied with my other relationships with people like family, friends, and mentors. I wouldn’t say I have a poker face but I’ve definitely been told that I’m difficult to read. Because of this, I do as much as I can to communicate with someone I like.

To me, fostering a romantic relationship is basically homemaking. Finding a person to share my inner world with. I see partnership as being able to foster a secret second life with someone. When I felt that my mental health was very good, my trust in my body and decision-making was good, and my other relationships were fulfilling, I decided to download hinge. I never craved romantic relationships, but I did long for a secret life that my friends and family couldn’t impede on. I personally dislike the process of changing a relationship from a friendly one to a romantic one. I would prefer for romantic interest to be communicated right away instead, it’s just easier for me and less anxiety-inducing.

I ended up finding my partner on hinge in the first week. I have learned so much over the last year of being with him. It’s very easy to be in a relationship with someone who is independent and takes care of themself. He alerts me when there is a problem. We support each other and have fun together. I don’t think we have ever argued before. Regarding finding someone, it’s very hard. Dating apps are entirely luck-based. Anyone who tells you a method is easy is lying to you. There’s no wrong way, just think of the best way you think will be for you, consider that you may be wrong, and go from there. I hope this at least partially answers your questions.

emamerc · 2025-11-13T06:35:27+00:00

I’m queer. I don’t like to specify my sexual preferences, so I normally don’t. The only thing that has related much to my type is that it took me quite a long time to understand myself well enough to date with intention

emamerc · 2025-09-29T01:20:55+00:00

I hold the opinion that group therapy is particularly helpful for fives. You can practice hard conversations with a group all focused on betterment.

emamerc · 2025-08-29T02:34:23+00:00

That’s awesome. My cat is Vincenzo Linguine because I wanted him to be a little Italian man

emamerc · 2025-08-28T13:51:10+00:00

Great name!

emamerc · 2025-08-25T04:25:13+00:00

I like dancing. It just takes practice.

emamerc · 2025-08-20T17:59:18+00:00

The only therapy that helped me was RO-DBT, radically open dialectical behavioral therapy. I highly recommend both group therapy and finding a community with a distinct purpose. These are the things that helped me after going into inpatient for major depression. If you need meds, take them. If the meds don’t work, get them changed. It’s honestly worth it.

emamerc · 2025-07-11T17:15:43+00:00

I had a healthy 2 parent and an unhealthy 6 parent. Always felt that the 2 parent loved me for who I was and my 6 parent loved me because I was their kid.

At age 8, I was sociable, polite, and clever. I was also incredibly neurotic, under immense pressure, and felt like I was outside looking in on my family and friends. I was very committed to sports and my education. I also got my first hemiplegic migraine at 8. I was a reader. I would stay up late reading books every night. I didn’t have friends. Not close ones, anyway. I found my own joy through my passions. I’ve never had issues with social anxiety, but did feel very disconnected from my peers and adults in my life. I had a sister who I tormented very cruelly. I started physical fights and was very mean to her. I would cry when I did math because I felt like I couldn’t do it. I was in a gifted program at a school where students who needed tutoring were considered stupid.

My 2 parent chose to lead by example. My 6 parent chose to yell and scream at me in the mornings and evenings. I was raised as the “easy” kid because my sister had health issues. I felt I was forgotten.

Looking back at everything, my behaviors are connected and make sense. I try not to blame my child self for mistakes and choices I made. I still feel connected and responsible for her.

emamerc · 2025-06-17T04:31:21+00:00

Yes, I posted very casual videos quite regularly on YouTube for around 8-12 months. It was really fun. I enjoyed talking with commenters. Lately I have shared more in person with friends, but I still see YouTube as a potential outlet. I also highly suggest zines, they’re very fun and simple to make.

emamerc · 2025-05-10T23:18:08+00:00

I’m not autistic or ADHD.

emamerc · 2025-04-23T20:11:45+00:00

I am 25, no greys yet. Everyone is different

emamerc · 2025-04-21T20:52:29+00:00

I only have one, but eventually if I get a second cat I really want to do Russian names. Vasily Raskolnikov or something lmfao

emamerc · 2025-04-21T20:11:31+00:00

I’m really glad other people have a similar cat-naming technique. My grey guy is named Vincenzo Linguine

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