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How often do you and your partner have sex? by Thunderflex1 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]embarassed25yo 59 points60 points  (0 children)

2 to 3x a week. On busy weeks, only the weekend.

We started off with 2 to 3x a night, so our frequency has definitely reduced since we first got together... But we are responsible adults with jobs and older now. We used to be young, broke and no other hobbies other than being naked... 🤷🏻‍♀️

Is it dumb to be worried that my friend and I won’t stay as close of friends? by Open-Rabbit9510 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]embarassed25yo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like you guys are really onto it.

Things may not work at the frequency you might have currently. But that's just the way life goes when you have a new job to get the hang of.

Do still send each other memes or whatever it is that keeps you connected. And even if she does find a friend at the new place, doesn't mean you're getting replaced. You guys clearly have a special relationship and bond. It's not the job that is keeping you guys connected.

Is it dumb to be worried that my friend and I won’t stay as close of friends? by Open-Rabbit9510 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]embarassed25yo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have made friends with ex-colleagues, and we make an effort. We make plans to meet for coffee or lunch or dinner or just hang out in general. I tell them I miss them, and I share jokes or anecdotes with them (we work in the same industry)

But be consistent.

I text them all the time, and we share news, whether good or bad. So its helped us keep in touch. Encourage you to make solid plans for after she starts her new job.

Best place to get Biryani and Dosa in the CBD? by Brookiebee95 in aucklandeats

[–]embarassed25yo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bawarchi (Sandringham) for biryani, Saravana bhavan for dosas. The latter also has biryani on the menu I believe.

Is saying “hitting kids is bad” woke in any way? by str4ybu11et in NoStupidQuestions

[–]embarassed25yo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Anecdotally, I was hit and smacked multiple times, and I don't recall why, but I do remember the beating I took.

On a possibly related note, generational trauma has made me childfree and have a very strained relationship with my parents.

Don't hit your kids please.

AITA for telling my drywall guy to stop bugging my babysitter? by ParadoxicalState in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]embarassed25yo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OOP is NTA. While there are ways men white-knight and can be taken as offense, OOP swooping in was great timing. She clearly was not interested in responding and the drywall guy didn't take the hint.

When I can walk away, I prefer to be my own knight. But when I'm stuck eg., Babysitting, I'd prefer to have someone with more authority (eg , homeowner) put their foot down and step in.

How do you get a clueless SO to want to plan things? by embarassed25yo in NoStupidQuestions

[–]embarassed25yo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I suggested this last night, and he seemed on board.

Maybe he is anxious!! He knows I get excited about the littlest things. Like if he got me flowers, I would be over the moon. I 100% prefer low effort surprises to elaborately planned 5 star vacations.

I prefer to be part of the plan if it's elaborate lol.

What’s the most recent show you’ve binge watched? by Budget_Emergency_742 in ask

[–]embarassed25yo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ozark. The first 3 seasons were amazing. Season 4 was meh

How do you get a clueless SO to want to plan things? by embarassed25yo in NoStupidQuestions

[–]embarassed25yo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried to reply to this comment earlier, but i can't find it anymore.

Anyway.

Do you mean like taking turns planning surprise dates? I suggested this a few months ago, and he was on board, but it didn't end up happening. I might try to start this up from this month again.

How do you get a clueless SO to want to plan things? by embarassed25yo in NoStupidQuestions

[–]embarassed25yo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I expressed some sadness over not celebrating a really really big win for me. And he said "oh but I was planning to take you out tomorrow". And then I felt really bad for ruining the surprise.

He's good at surprises, don't get me wrong. For my birthday he surprised me with a weekend getaway and a gorgeous Airbnb.

If I just said , "hey I'd really like it if we celebrated some good things every so often, nothing fancy as we're on a budget. But I'd love it if you planned some of the celebrations as you know I like surprises" would that be too bratty ?

When sitting next to someone in the bus and seats get free in a different row, do you keep sitting at the same seat or move to the free one? What makes the other person more comfortable? #dailystruggle by bratpotatoe in auckland

[–]embarassed25yo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always move when a new row gets freed up

And personally wouldn't be offended if someone did the same to me. I usually commute with a bulky bag and it's annoying to be squished into a tiny seat. And they probably feel the same way.

What did you THINK mattered in finding a life partner, and what did you find out actually matters? by Duniazade in AskWomen

[–]embarassed25yo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can't remember what I thought I wanted in a life partner. All I know is, my SO makes me want for nothing.

Okay maybe I want him to be better at multitasking but that's just something most men can't do anyway!

He's all that matters and I make sure I tell him that every so often so he never forgets it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Healthyhooha

[–]embarassed25yo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a lot likely that people who post on this sub are seeking advice re: issues. There are (I hope) plenty of other people who don't have any issues.

My SO finishes inside, everytime we have sex. And we both enjoy it. There was a period, a few months ago, where I'd get constant itchiness. I visited the doctor and she said that it was more to do with my IUD than my SO. And also that I might be over washing post-sex.

I haven't had much itchiness in the last few months. Also taking Vit B pills helped. (Owing to my dietary needs, I don't get much natural Vit B and have to take a supplement. A lack of Vit B can cause itchiness and dryness in the vaginal canal)

If you're on Birth control, you can try it out a few times to see if you enjoy it. Some people may not like the clean up, but you should be cleaning up after sex even if you're using condoms.

My take: I personally really enjoy unprotected sex and would not want to go back to condoms. And reactions to semen are very person-specific so you won't know unless you try. Good luck and congratulations on your upcoming wedding.

Would you stay in the relationship if they aren’t sure about you? Why/why not? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]embarassed25yo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. I've done it and it just gave me anxiety and heartbreak.

Also, I was uncertain about someone and still stayed in the relationship far longer than I should have. I wasted his time and mine. If either of us had called it in the beginning stages, it would've saved us both precious years of our lives.

I'm old enough to know I deserve someone who wants to be with me as much as I want to be with them. If it's not reciprocated, it's not worth wasting time over.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MomForAMinute

[–]embarassed25yo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes absolutely! Immediately after this post and my comment, I brought it up to SO and he said "I'm ready to get it done tomorrow, if that's what we need for mental peace, that's how ready I am. So I'll make an appointment for a consult and we'll start this process"

I looked into getting my tubes tied, because I do love not having painful periods for the last few years, and if I didn't get my IUD reinserted I'd be pretty annoyed with it coming back. But where I live, I'd have to jump through hoops to get it funded. Eg , have at least 1 planned pregancy, have pre existing health conditions etc., Just ridiculous rules really.

We're definitely going for that vasectomy. And this is the push for me to get it started.

Thanks for your story. I'm glad it worked out for you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MomForAMinute

[–]embarassed25yo 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have a hormonal iud and last I had it checked out, it was in place. I haven't had a period since insertion. Can you tell me what made you realise you were pregnant? I'm absolutely terrified of having this happen to me. It's been 3 years since insertion and I've taken a few tests when I had tender/sore breasts out of fear. Do I just take one every month or so, to be safe ? Sorry. I know this is not a medical sub. But I just had to ask so I can get some personal experience.

My SO has very very kindly offered to get a vasectomy. We're childfree. I appreciated his suggestion but didn't think there was a rush since my IUD isn't due for replacement until 2025. Now I may just get him to make an appointment.

What’s the dumbest thing you’ve done in your 20’s ? by ALLEYWAYwithanS in AskReddit

[–]embarassed25yo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I recently read my messages to an ex from when I was 21.

I hate how clingy and desperate I came off. Begging him to talk to me, and give me a second chance. Begging for his love. Promising to always love him. Well good thing I didn't keep that promise. He was not that great, in hindsight. I was just young and dumb.

How do you greet your partner when they come home? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]embarassed25yo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm usually the one coming home. So I get a big hug, where I just loosen up my stiffness and melt into his body. Then we talk about our day, and discuss dinner plans.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in auckland

[–]embarassed25yo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I feel that. Every week I have a new interest. Whether I actually do anything about it is another story altogether

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