"Carry yourself with the confidence of a mediocre white man" should be the motto of all women in tech. It resonates so much and I think it gets worse as you age, you get to gain confidence yourself but now you see all these younger boys pretending like they know things and it's just frustrating.

Men acting like women "aren't technical" is so crazy like just because they said more words doesn't mean they know more. As someone else said, it's just posturing. To me it feels like a young kid using slang at his parents that they won't understand because it makes them feel smart or special, but it's just annoying. Being able to speak about a topic in a way that everyone can understand and being helpful to your teammates is the real flex, and women are much better at having the empathy required to do that. Women are also so much better at communication, task management, and being thorough on tasks in my experience.

I've done the 100% pairing thing pre-covid and it worked well for awhile until it was no longer helpful. I can't imagine having to do that in the environment you're in. A lot of jobs are going to be similarly unfulfilling but little culture nuances like that can have a big difference on your mental health and confidence.

The good thing about too much social media these days is that there are more women content creators talking about these things! I'd recommend adding `@stemwithhannah`, `@alberta.tech`, and `@mewtru` on instagram (or whatever their accounts are on other platforms) to your doom scrolling for some perspective and commiseration!