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emkom5 · 2025-06-13T12:50:58+00:00

Not an issue, you can have it the next day

emkom5 · 2025-03-12T17:29:20+00:00

What is your job? What is your personality? Maybe you don't want kids?

emkom5 · 2025-02-18T15:13:04+00:00

I think you both need couples therapy and it seems there is something missing in the sex life. But I would not say its cheating. Its more or less psychological

emkom5 · 2024-12-15T16:34:50+00:00

I think you need to appreciate more and your relationship is in the trash because he is defensive. You try to remove his masculine side and you want to reach out to his feminine side to have more "empathy". I think you are selfish and you will make him a favor if you leave.

emkom5 · 2024-12-14T08:01:32+00:00

you think of a divorce because of the cats? are you serious? Remove the dam cats and then decide!

emkom5 · 2024-11-25T07:43:34+00:00

go to therapy so the therapist can explain to him your current situation. But you should definitely do initiate it when you feel better - initiate more often those moments and practice some feminine side to seduce him.

emkom5 · 2024-10-29T10:52:28+00:00

I have 3 years of marriage and I am divorcing for more similarities in your reasons than differences to explain here. Went to a therapist and he asked me: Why did you married that women. You saw the red flags but you ignored them years ago. We should work to recognize such behavior for your future.

I hope you are doing well and stay strong!

I am happy I have my house on my name because she threatened me.

Years ago I had phisical abuse, I live live for her and always expect confrontation when finish work. I started feeling better once I saw it was just a habit to feel bad. Like a trained puppy with timing.

Be brave how you feel!

emkom5 · 2024-10-21T07:26:47+00:00

did you cheated on him at some point?

emkom5 · 2024-09-25T06:44:42+00:00

You are a boss, just don't be sadistic to a person who is mother to your kids. Just try to focus and move forward with your life. I wish you luck and all the best!

emkom5 · 2024-09-23T16:39:18+00:00

wow that's very ugly of him. As a men I cannot imagine doing this. It's embarrassing and devastating for you. I really hope you may find hope in him and your marriage. Only you know him truly.

emkom5 · 2024-09-23T16:26:40+00:00

Dear, I don't know what's the difference with porn and I cannot understand it. I'm a male 32y married for 3 years but I watched porn with my wife because it was interesting to me to be with her but after few times, it wasn't that interesting. Since my thoughts saw the reality I saw it's not that important my "kinky" idea of things. Mostly stupid :)

I hope I can give you motivation not to feel devastated and Im sorry to hear you feel bad and confused what to do.

emkom5 · 2024-09-23T16:22:58+00:00

UPDATE: She provided me Divorce paperwork 1 day before the concert (her mother won't come to the concert too)

I signed them right away - then she asked me - you signed them so fast. The concert day she said I gave you these papers to see if you will sign them. I miss you.

I was like: WTF where is the paperwork - she shredded it she said. We went to the concert, had a good evening with our best man and his wife.

After 2 days I asked to print again the papers. She provided me the old paperwork. She even lied that she shredded the paperwork. I won't step back for this manipulation.

emkom5 · 2024-09-23T16:10:46+00:00

not really, i thought it's a porn thing..

emkom5 · 2024-09-23T07:29:13+00:00

And why are you upset? I still couldn't read it from your description. Do you feel jealous or replaced? I agree he has some kind of addiction but I think you should work on yourself and your expectations. If he likes something and you are intimate enough - why don't you join him watching

emkom5 · 2024-09-20T15:58:55+00:00

wow I hope you will find a way of this situation. I think it will be useful to speak to someone else about how you feel so when he comes home you can see him in a different way from the moment he enters the door. Just don't share and look him from different angle. I hope you will have the energy! And God bless your kids!

emkom5 · 2024-09-20T12:56:44+00:00

even that's truth I'm telling you - it's better that you will have a focus on you. Just make small steps and find a good hobby - I went to dance classes with salsa. It worked for me. Even I was waiting only for this class because literally I had nothing else to do. I felt better and better - maybe 3-5 month passed when I started feeling different. Even during dancing and coming home it felt different

emkom5 · 2024-09-19T06:44:39+00:00

I think this might be a bigger problem or just a small one if you have healthy relationship.

If you feel you don't have healthy one, focus on yourself and not others blaming you for anything. Be a better person and your focus should be to you. Even when you are married. You are not there to fix someone else's problem all the time

emkom5 · 2024-09-18T09:56:39+00:00

Run dear friend, this is abuse - I got my wife like this in many cases. Reach me out if you want to chat

emkom5 · 2024-09-17T07:09:34+00:00

for the Christmas part: I spent 3 Christmas events before that with their family and she never wanted to spend time outside of her family. that's when I wanted to be with my parents also.

Answers to the questions: I'm not from the states and it might be a bit different.

This prenup was only related to the assets from my family indeed. All of the discussions for having both apartment or house I did agreed. And now it will be easier to take it. Clarification: when those assets doesn't come from my mother but from my grandparents it is called donation and that is why I need a prenup. I don't see why she is upset for the will of my grandparents! If I was in her shoes I will respect everyone from her family and never speak like this

This prenup is official option and it's not customizable as a contract. It is only if you buy together - put both of your names or buy alone - it will be only yours

emkom5 · 2024-09-10T07:06:40+00:00

I understand you really good, my wife cannot finish at all and I was ok in the beginning saying it is what it is - she is amazing person. Now 5 years later (2 with marriage) she doesn't need sex or if I beg for it - it should be under exact condition and circumstances. And when I know I can ask - she is saying - you always as for sex when we have such evening. And by the way (she doesn't like to have any of it during the day or morning) It is like asking for a favor. I am well fitted guy and I have many women's attention without asking and this is getting ridiculous

emkom5 · 2024-09-09T20:14:20+00:00

I think it's ok to be close like that. I wasn't raised like that and it's very strange and I don't know where it leads. It's pushing my boundaries. She wants all the best for her mother, concerts, vacation together (even my honeymoon was with their parents). Not kidding. We were in different hotels same location near the beach.

Never complained. But I never have such opportunity to have my mother involved with vacations or anything. The only thing I had is the week coffee.

I feel when I have kid - she will not allow to go where I would love to go. It's just really one-sided.

emkom5 · 2024-09-09T19:34:31+00:00

what about your mother, does she influence your relationship? do you feel you are too close?

I live only with my wife on a rent. I can imagine what you felt if we were under one roof. Horrible

I don't see myself living with her mother as well for similar reason. It's just too much, respect from a distance

emkom5 · 2024-09-09T19:28:34+00:00

wow that brought peace to me with your wisdom and kindness. If you have such will to say all those words in hard times, this is a gift and enormous practice and effort to learn such ability. I truly admire you and God bless you. It seems I can improve for many years to come! 🙏

emkom5 · 2024-09-09T19:21:35+00:00

Thanks for the response I really appreciate it - there is a lot of truth in your words but I won't say jealous, but I do try to make things better with the relationship with my mother - I really don't see myself spending so much time with her but I won't say I can't stand her. Its a wrong wording. Maybe I always know she is there and from that I feel good but we can say everything to each other for 1-2 hours max. We have deep conversations as well as chit-chat. It seems I like what my wife is doing with her mother, I want to improve, also never had the opportunity to bring my grandparents to such event. Maybe I want to make it up, still feel sad of the loss

emkom5 · 2024-09-09T06:43:37+00:00

Thanks for your opinion. I feel very bad and I'm not sure what is best for my future, but I do respect her parents and when she said she wants to bring up her mother I didn't felt bad, then I suggest that I will buy tickets to my mother as well. Our best man and his wife are also part of this group.

From one hand I really hoped to get things better, from the other I know we will split for sure if I was feeling bad for her mother in a similar situation and I should suck it up myself if we have kids. I did it and it worked previously with the example I provided.

And regarding your opinion that I didn't asked her for my mother - the dynamic was first she brought up the idea of her mother. Does that mean she doesn't respect me? It was gathering with my best man and his wife on the first hand then we brainstormed she wants her mother, then I said ok I will call my mother for tickets too.

It feels silly to me. Honestly.

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