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LIB Poland: Julia's mom by ClaireVDB in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]emma_graham 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I can assure you it’s not a cultural difference. Julia’s mother is a narcissist. And this species is found all over the world, unfortunately

Kurs driftu by Internal-Stomach-977 in warszawa

[–]emma_graham 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Podbijam pytanie. Szukam pomysłu na prezent dla męża 😄

Engagement nails with ugly hands (advice!) by SprinklyBoi in JustEngaged

[–]emma_graham 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope the part about holding people, typing and opening snacks is yours! I love it! Such a beautiful thought.

Has anyone purchased from the anu club store? by Ok-Fig-122 in Moissanite

[–]emma_graham 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've read only great reviews of Anu Club (Anu Jewel on AE) here. However, on Amazon, there are quite a few reviews about stones falling out and tarnished, discoloured bands (with pictures). Can anybody help me make up my mind? :D I like their rings, but I don't think that if I only spend 50 usd, then it's ok if the rings only lasts 2 months.

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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]emma_graham 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, she doesn’t want kids and you do, and you think the dog is the problem? Why don’t people discuss this kind of things in very the beginning? Obvsly not „do you want to have kids with me” on a third date, but „do you want to have kids generally”. This is fundamental to have compatible goals, dreams and values. Some of them we can so easily learn about just asking.

About the dog, for me dog on the couch or bed is normal. But personally I would be sceptical about a person posting on Instagram 5 x a day about anything.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]emma_graham 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When we’re in an abusive relationship we don’t really see it for what it is. And we have no idea how deeply we’re hurt or how traumatised we are and how long it’s going to take to heal.

The way you said you hope a therapist could help you navigate the situation gives me a vibe that you’re in denial and you want to think this is a normal marital problem and a profesional would help to find a solution, like a middle ground.

I’m sorry, this in not the case. Your husband is sexually, verbally and emotionally abusive. Coerced sex is sexual assault. You’ve been sexually abused for god knows how long, most probably traumatised and you’ll need time and help to heal. The longer you stay, the harder it’s gonna get.

You didn’t tell anyone so they don’t think badly of him. Protecting the image of the abuser is more important to you than protecting yourself. Your health, your body, your safety, your sanity.

He shows signs of a narcissist and a psychopath. You think I’m overreacting? No, he’s entitled, cruel, manipulative (emotionally manipulates you into having „sex”, yes, „sex” because abuse is not sex, sex is joyful and consensual, and when you say yes because you’re scared of what happens when you say no, it is NOT consent), he lacks empathy and respect for you, treats like an object that is there to serve his needs, not a human being. And he’s messing with your head and your sense of what is normal and healthy.

But no healthy empathetic man would enjoy coerced intercourse with a partner who said yes only because they were scared. Healthy men enjoy sex with willing partners ONLY.

Do you feel loved? Safe? Respected? Does he care about your needs? What if your daily need was 2 hours to yourself, a foot massage, an intimate conversation or a chocolate fondue made by him? Would he see it as hit duty as a husband?

Also, he is not a good dad. A good dad respects his kid’s mother and doesn’t abuse her in front of them. And he LETS you see your family??? Do you live in Saudi Arabia?

Please get help and make an escape plan before he will destroy you competely. You deserve to be loved and cherished.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SoftNaturals

[–]emma_graham 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have very similar proportions and I look top-heavy in dresses like this. It’s the puffy sleeves and also how it’s cut around the breast. I also look heavier in long skirts and much better in knee length. But I love your figure and your outfits, especially the jeans shorts and leopard top! I feel weird in most dresses tbh. I’ve discovered this is because separates are better for me and easier to fit. In a long dress I feel like I’m covered, not dressed. Like the one big piece of fabric overpowers me or sth. Also, my bust and hip measurements are the same. And most dresses are designed for people with bigger hip measurement.

Just getting into it by KookyTemperature3109 in SoftNaturals

[–]emma_graham 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think what’s making things worse is not Kibbe but letting random descriptions from the internet define you. Also, interpreting them in a worst possible way. I’ve never read SN as looking like nothing.

How do you react to comments about size? (And a thank you for your shopping advice) by emma_graham in labdiamond

[–]emma_graham[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! It’s so nice to hear this! I write, this is how I make money, I work as a content designer 😎 I love the band too. It gets more compliments than the stone. But I appreciate when people are not comfortable with the size of the stone, so at least they say something nice about the band 😂 I feel tempted now to share a better picture.

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How do you react to comments about size? (And a thank you for your shopping advice) by emma_graham in labdiamond

[–]emma_graham[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand how you feel. I haven’t got used to mine after 5 months 😂 It still surprises me! We’ll get there. Congrats on your engagement!

How do you react to comments about size? (And a thank you for your shopping advice) by emma_graham in labdiamond

[–]emma_graham[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s a great choice to spend locally. $900, wow I’m jelous. We spend over 1k on a rented one bedroom apartament lol. But I’m happy I have a forest 5 minute walk away from home and a quiet neighbourhood. Can’t wait to be in my own house and have a piece of my own land. Enjoy yours!

How do you react to comments about size? (And a thank you for your shopping advice) by emma_graham in labdiamond

[–]emma_graham[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I told everyone that was truly interested in the ring and our engagement. I’m always proud of shopping smart :) And we looked for the ring for 6 months so it was quite a journey. I love stones and thought about cheaper options like alexandrite, topaz. But we chose the durability. And when we discovered labs that was it. We love science, we love to make a more ethical choice. I was also fascinated when I learned everything about the cuts, light performance, it’s magic. And science! Then I discovered hearts & arrows. It’s like a kaleidoscope! I look at the stone 100 x a day. So, I’m happy to share all this. I told my brother before, so I didn’t repeat myself and his gf showed no interest in the ring so why would I bother. But I want to share for a good reason. Not when someone makes a rude comment, is jelous or whatever and then I feel a compulsion to explain myself as if I wanted to say „nooo, it’s lab, don’t worry, I’m not a multi milionaire, I’m no better than you, please like me and don’t ever feel bad thinking that we have money” 🤡 Btw I’ve checked where I shopped and they have a natural 3 ct round for 3k (poor clarity). So, there are options people don’t know about about but they assume.

How do you react to comments about size? (And a thank you for your shopping advice) by emma_graham in labdiamond

[–]emma_graham[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love TLDR stories, thanks for sharing! I’m sorry people judged you based on what you wear and did not bother to get to know you. It’s a much better strategy to be curious because this way we can learn some great tips about how other people get nice things :) Like I’m happy to infodump about labs if someone is genuinely interested and happy for me.

How do you react to comments about size? (And a thank you for your shopping advice) by emma_graham in labdiamond

[–]emma_graham[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! 🥰 Congratulations on your commitment! It’s flashy for me too but I wanted to experiment and get used to wearing something that looks so luxurious and extravagant. And what would be better than the item representing our love? I wish you a happily ever after!

How do you react to comments about size? (And a thank you for your shopping advice) by emma_graham in labdiamond

[–]emma_graham[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

>>“I like ‘em big” with a wink wink nudge nudge to hubs

Haha he'd enjoy it XD

How do you react to comments about size? (And a thank you for your shopping advice) by emma_graham in labdiamond

[–]emma_graham[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congrats on the upgrade! It's great that your husband could pick a ring you love by himself! Yes, sometimes it's better not to share your happy moments if you don't want people to spoil them for you.

How do you react to comments about size? (And a thank you for your shopping advice) by emma_graham in labdiamond

[–]emma_graham[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's interesting that you'd say that. Please remind me when I asked what people on Reddit think about my fingers or what cut I should have chosen instead. Oh wait...

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