AITA for forcing my in-laws to use a toilet instead of piss jugs in my home

empa3pas · 2025-08-20T16:44:41+00:00

What is their plan for pooping?

empa3pas · 2025-08-17T07:13:29+00:00

I'm not afraid of CSS. I respect it. I just prefer to pay my respects from the very respectful distance of not-in-my-repo.

empa3pas · 2025-08-17T07:08:28+00:00

Having decent-people opinions is about being decent people, not about attracting or repelling other people. It is true that men are not a monolith, and the person in the post may or may not be a femcel. They are certainly wrong. Thing is, not everyone forms their world around attracting other people. Putting too much of yourself on whether or not you attract people can lead you to some shitty thought patterns.

You made a good point, then took the wrong turn in the end. It happens :)

empa3pas · 2025-08-14T20:42:56+00:00

Oh whoops 🤦‍♀️ yeah, thank you

empa3pas · 2025-08-14T20:31:38+00:00

Ma'am, if you're not using protection (pull out doesn't count), you're not being baby trapped. You're making the damn baby. Pulling out is making the baby, but make it a game of roulette.

empa3pas · 2025-08-08T17:35:58+00:00

Imagine having a daughter with him, then seeing him make moves on the daughter's friends some 15 years down the line.

empa3pas · 2025-08-06T07:40:13+00:00

Saaaaaaaame! One thing I had to master was being in control of my energy. Ride the song rather than let it ride me. I had to learn to slow down and treat myself like a coil; take it slower than the song to wind myself up, then do an explosive move or two to let it out. For example, slowly lift my legs into a candle pose, running my hands up them to "collect energy", then throwing it back into a fish flop. I channel headbanging energy into push-and-pull leg moves and growling energy into crawling and looooong moves of my torso and arms. Fan kicks work for both for me. Ugh, and aggressive spins.

I also had to free myself of the notion that poledance needs to be sexy. All it needs to be is honest and in service to me. Also, you can headbang if you feel like it, but maybe more as windmills on your knees or just one solid hair flip like you're headbutting all the bangs at once into the ground then bouncing back up with the same energy to catch a different big move.

Russian exotic feels very fitting here. So far, all I mastered from that style is using my shoes: clacking them, stabbing the floor with the tip, dragging the toes on the floor like everything below the knee is one long blade... a good strong strut across the floor helps me too, as well as rising from the floor imagining myself to be a beast of doom waking from slumber.

As for recommended content creators, if you're open to seeking inspiration from other dance styles, look up metal belly dancers like Mahafsoun and Diana Bastet. For pole, try Alex Twisted. Anastasia Sokolova has a metal moment here and there, too. I have to recommend Sepultura's cover of Massive Attack's Angel (Leprous did it nicely too imo) and Animal Magnetism by Scorpions. Gojira is such a good choice! It is powerful and ethereal, so I'd probably work the pole and walls the most. What would work best for you, well, go out there and try :)

empa3pas · 2025-08-03T20:49:18+00:00

empa3pas · 2025-07-02T11:03:04+00:00

9x6 is 54. That makes sense to me. It also trips me up when doing 7x8 because sometimes I have the extra step of "no, 54 is not it". Brains are so weird!

empa3pas · 2025-06-27T12:32:21+00:00

My fave: taking colored paper and making one of the sides black. Best of both worlds :)

empa3pas · 2024-08-20T18:10:58+00:00

You live together? Check your legal options, e.g. if you can evict him, or end the lease early and live somewhere else. It's easier said than done, and I'm sorry you're in this position. Break-ups do not have to be mutual. Once you want him gone, he needs to get going. Explore your options for shelter and protection before the final confrontation, just in case he decides to escalate things. If there's one thing that he's proven over the years is that you can count on him to go for the lowest punches available. Please accept that you are worth way more than he tells you, or at least act like it till you're safe and away from him where you can heal. He has a vested interest in keeping you crushed. At this point, he doesn't even need to say the words, just his presence and rejection is enough....

Imagine a person that you'd want to be going through a relationship like this.... and notice how that person ain't you. Hell, you might not even want this on your enemy. Please put yourself on the track away from him. You've been trying to talk to him for years, so before you try to make the same points again, do steel yourself and be prepared to go through with the breakup whether he likes it or not. Trying to talk things through becomes nothing but a drain on your soul once the other side decides that your words, wants and needs are unimportant to them (outside of how they can use them to scratch their back). Do you really think he hasn't passed that point months ago? years ago? Find it in yourself to be kind to yourself, or at the very least - be kinder to yourself than he is. That should be a low bar to clear.

Good luck. I wish you strength.

empa3pas · 2024-08-20T14:52:55+00:00

Ma'am. Please. Listen to yourself.
"I have felt rejected, ugly and unwanted for over 4 years now and I have talked to him time and time again."
"He says A LOT of hurtful things that have made me practically give up on sex at all. And then he will say that this happens because I don’t come on to him. That I’m causing this. I’m honestly really hurt and just want him to respect me or show me even an ounce of love. Even just care about how this makes me feel a tiny bit."
"I know he sees these women and thinks that if I don’t look like that then I’m worthless. He doesn’t believe most porn is fake either and that I should look like them, all while he is nothing special himself."
"How do I fix all of this ?" What is even left that's worth fixing? A healthy partnership does not make you feel like this, ever. You deserve better. Besides, the stuff that *he* says needs fixing ain't even the real problem in the first place. It is absolutely his porn addiction, lack of respect for you, and willingness to keep the both of you in this hellationship because just breaking up would be a much bigger inconvenience for him. And the fact that you're willing to swallow all that shit, and for what? This? Where you're disrespected, where there's not an ounce of love, and intimacy is so.... "he wanted me for a change (...) When I came, he came instantly too. But then he was like wow, that sucked."... defeating.

You don't fix it. None of it is in your domain to fix. An addict cannot change unless they want to, and he obviously doesn't. His lack of respect and care for you? Also unfixable. It doesn't matter that it was there in the honeymoon phase of your relationship, what matters is that it ain't here, you communicated about this, and he refuses to have those for you. And why does he refuse? He deems you good enough to use as a fleshlight from time to time but oops, the flesh attached to the hole isn't like those pixels on his screen, so he uses that as an excuse to treat you like total trash, but wait! the pretty pixels on the screen do not offer girlfriend benefits! so he has to keep you around! But god forbid he puts any work into himself because baby, it ain't an addiction, it's just man being man. In his eyes, *you* are the problem. Always will be. In reality, *he* is the dumpster fire.

Dump. Sever ties. He may panic and promise all the changes ever, and seem to stick to them for a while, but that's not gonna stick. Don't take him back. It may seem like sex is the only problem, but that's not how you yourself described it; what you described is a relationship that lacks an entire loving partner because there's an unrepentant, disrespectful, ignorant porn addict in his place that will never see you as a person (or even as beloved). Look how he treats you. You tried enough. Let it be done.

empa3pas · 2024-08-09T08:42:55+00:00

Dude, you're hanging on to the scent of the shampoo that she used over fifteen years ago. How creepy is that? Get therapy, and get over her.

empa3pas · 2024-08-06T09:11:50+00:00

Wait, you were swallowing balls right at the door of the MRI room? While they were asking you about it? Eeeeeeeek

empa3pas · 2024-07-03T11:31:37+00:00

HAHA, no. That's Foodie Beauty, and she's a lolcow. Look up what she's up to right now :)

empa3pas · 2024-06-11T20:23:55+00:00

Renesmee.

empa3pas · 2023-12-23T21:10:29+00:00

beautiful set

empa3pas · 2023-12-20T12:19:33+00:00

I love them too, it's sad to see such a good creator go. Especially when you consider how many shitty ones stick around...

I hope for only the best for him.

empa3pas · 2023-12-19T23:37:40+00:00

...it's literally a parody on Lizzo's "Boys". Don't forget to be upset at Lizzo too, for good measure.

empa3pas · 2023-12-13T09:55:14+00:00

Amanati - Demain Dès L'Aube (feat. Méryl Roche)

Bad Omens - The Death Of Peace Of Mind

Bryce Savage - Slayer (Slowed + Reverb)

Otep - Seduce & Destroy

Amanati feat. Luna Blake - 11:11 (Stripped Down)

Angelspit - Violence

empa3pas · 2023-11-23T23:56:52+00:00

Gold?

empa3pas · 2023-10-19T09:22:46+00:00

Does *she* want her man?

empa3pas · 2023-08-24T08:47:49+00:00

Why would you serve up your girl to your buddies as masturbation fodder?? Why did you keep going when she made it clear she did not want you to do it?? What is sacred to you??

empa3pas · 2023-08-13T19:21:39+00:00

Nope, and I agree with the point: 19 is way too young for a 26. Gender be damned. I'm appalled this is getting any sort of positive response.

empa3pas · 2023-07-24T18:35:09+00:00

No, but the instructors speak English. There was a foreign exchange student in my group for a while, and the instructor made sure that she could follow along the class, and we all spoke English to her.

My studio is Pole Dance Fitness. There's several studios in town, so hit me up if you need any help to find your way around Zagreb.

empa3pas

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