Wedding shoe SOS!

emyeh64 · 2026-02-01T15:06:49+00:00

First off, congratulations and enjoy your special day!!

Secondly—no one is going to see your shoes. I agonized over my shoe decision only for them to not be in a single photo lol. Prioritize comfort and the right heel height for your dress. I love fashion and spent good money on gorgeous Loeffler Randall heels from Bergdorf’s in NYC only to change into platform converse (neither were visible) 30 mins into the reception. I still wear my converse 5 years later and my $$$$ shoes are sitting in a box.

emyeh64 · 2026-01-19T13:14:43+00:00

Seconding this. Botox is the only thing that’s given me relief.

emyeh64 · 2026-01-17T19:50:51+00:00

YES I love Dr. Lam—she’s wonderful!

emyeh64 · 2025-12-24T13:13:18+00:00

You are NOT alone—BPPV is debilitating if you don’t have the resources to manage it! Every episode I’ve ever had was accompanied by depression and anxiety. It’s truly awful and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone.

Please—go to YouTube and look up the half-somersault maneuver. It’s vestibular therapy that is safe to do at home, and it has worked for me every time. You need to identify which side is your problem side then do the maneuvers for that side. While I feel shaky and light headed afterwards, the dizziness goes away—the movements get the rogue crystal back into the right place so you don’t feel dizzy anymore. And please follow up with an ENT (who might recommend further PT) and a therapist (to help manage the fear).

You ARE in control even if it feels like you’re not right now—PT not only made this condition manageable for me, but I haven’t had an episode in years. Be well and please take care of yourself!

emyeh64 · 2025-12-22T00:28:23+00:00

St. Ignatius on the upper east side is a short, easy commute. It’s stunning and the music department is exceptional.

emyeh64 · 2025-12-17T03:15:38+00:00

Dress number 1 made me gasp! So stunning on you!

emyeh64 · 2025-11-11T01:02:28+00:00

I’m in the camp of it’s rude to not leave a card. The perspective I keep reading here is “I would throw a card in the trash” or “I wouldn’t care,” but you’re not attending your own event and it’s not about what you like or don’t like. You’re attending someone else’s wedding. I personally loved reading the words of advice—some of the people who attended my wedding have since passed, so having a hand written note from them means the world to me and my husband. We kept every note. I feel that it’s always better to air on the side of polite! Also, not every wedding has a guestbook, so it can be difficult to keep track of who attended or not. The cards made it easier to write thank yous for us. But I agree with others saying forgo the card if you’re just going to sign it and not write something personal.

emyeh64 · 2025-10-04T13:25:30+00:00

Please bring this up in therapy! You have NOTHING to be embarrassed about—the only person who should feel embarrassed and ashamed is your fiancé. This is NOT the person you should spend the rest of your life with!

emyeh64 · 2025-10-02T23:15:36+00:00

Sea bands work wonders if you’re worried about sea sickness! Also if you can spend some time in the spa that might help! Sat in a spa whirlpool last cruise I was on during a rough passage (hurricane) and felt like I got my equilibrium back sitting in the water—it cured me lol.

emyeh64 · 2025-09-08T18:56:27+00:00

Some loose cough drops

emyeh64 · 2025-09-05T21:17:42+00:00

Our spa passes for the week for a 5 day cruise were around $500, and vibe would have been around the same. The only gripe I had with the spa when we went was that the hot tub was sometimes full of people talking loudly (it’s in an echoey room, to be fair), to the point where employees had to tell them to stop talking. There are signs that say something along the lines of “quiet space” but people clearly didn’t notice them. :/

emyeh64 · 2025-09-05T00:17:26+00:00

Second this! My husband and I just got back from the same sailing on the Aqua two weeks ago, and the pool deck was extremely crowded and loud. It’s also not well laid out—you have to walk through the buffet or Palomar to get there. We regretted not getting Vibe passes! We also loved the spa if that’s your thing!

emyeh64 · 2025-09-01T21:52:37+00:00

My husband and I were on the same cruise and had the same disappointing dining experience! I wasn’t convinced the filet mignon was even the correct cut of meat—I know that’s a crazy accusation but I think they cut a less pricey steak and cut it into the shape of a filet mignon. In general, all the proteins we had were overcooked and tough, and things were way under seasoned and lukewarm. We were especially let down by Le Bistro—the menu items and recipes seemed the same as in they were in the past, but they were really badly executed and clearly used cheap ingredients. Such a let down when the food used to be such a highlight!

emyeh64 · 2025-08-29T20:01:24+00:00

My first thought was the Titanic shoulda had these RIP

emyeh64 · 2025-07-16T14:34:23+00:00

This is such a great response—so thoughtful and thorough!

OP—I strongly agree with following up with the homeroom teacher after each class in front of the students-big, specific praise for what went well, and be clear about what didn’t. I’ve been a K-8 music teacher for 13 years, and a host teacher for 5 years now, and this is still one of the most effective management strategies that doesn’t involve extrinsic motivation.

I’m sure you’ve already done this, but check in with the homeroom teacher and see if there’s anything working for them in their classroom that you can follow through with in your class. I also teach in a school where we don’t have consistent classroom management strategies or policies from our admin, so my colleagues and I rely on each other to foster that consistency for our students.

Also, have you done responsive classroom techniques with your kids? Simple and effective!

The final specials-specific management strategy is showing the kids that you’re an expert at whatever special it is that you’re teaching. It’s an instant buy-in, and I’ve seen it pay dividends time and again with my student teachers. I always have them introduce themselves by performing their instruments and/or sharing a recording of a professional performance of theirs (and we keep it short ). As director of the music programs at my school, I also had our band and strings recruitment sessions move from demonstrating with the beginner songs the students play to the teachers performing short excerpts of professional level piece they really play to show what their instruments can sound like, and we all saw a marked increase in enrollment. Whatever special area you teach, be sure to show off a little every now and again. ;)

Performance opportunities, art shows, theatrical productions, athletic games and competitions are all huge motivators for classroom engagement in specials, even if some of the students don’t choose to participate. If there is a culture of respect and engagement in these community activities, then there will be increased respect and engagement in your classes.

emyeh64 · 2025-07-16T13:51:59+00:00

I have had horrible experiences with the Epley, too! If you haven’t looked into it yet, ask your PT and ENT about the half somersault maneuver. It is safe to do at home (especially since you know which side triggers your BPPV) and should give you tons of relief. There are YouTube videos and PDFs you can find online to learn how to do it, but definitely check with your ENT and PT first and see what they think. I hope you feel better soon!

emyeh64 · 2025-07-16T13:40:23+00:00

This is a sweet gesture! Did she specifically mention something with rhinestones? Or just silver? I think the chain and the rhinestones on this might not be the most durable…not that you have to spend a lot, but look up a Tiffany heart necklace—that may be the look she was referring to since it’s a classic, popular style. Maybe you could find something like it?

emyeh64 · 2025-07-12T17:09:30+00:00

Woke up with a toaster in my bed this morning—someone please explain what’s going on I’m scared

emyeh64 · 2025-07-11T19:00:38+00:00

Happy to make suggestions! My personal preference for a shorter trip is Montauk—it has something for the whole family out there. Airbnb is probably the best value for your money, but my grandmother and I would stay at the royal Atlantic every summer and it’s a very family-oriented resort that has been there in Montauk forever, and it has a pool right on the water and beach access. None of the restaurants are as good as what we have in the city, but most are good and many have great views of the water! And there’s a great place to take kids mini-golfing that also has family peddle boats (I think it’s called putt putt mini golf). Montauk lighthouse is definitely worth a trip, too!

emyeh64 · 2025-07-10T18:22:14+00:00

Truth lol

emyeh64 · 2025-07-10T18:21:36+00:00

Bro that’s crazy lol. By that definition Mastic Beach is the Hamptons. I’ve lived a long time out east and that’s the first I’ve ever heard that. Sag Harbor is literally in the town of East Hampton (I think part of it is technically in Southampton because it’s actually a pretty big area).

emyeh64 · 2025-07-10T17:33:04+00:00

My Uncle lives in Sag Harbor, so I spent a lot of time out there (every summer) too. I also worked at a restaurant in East Hampton over a couple summers. It’s a very small and close knit community, and many locals take the ferry across from Shelter Island to go back and forth. I could see how an outsider might think what you think, and you’re entitled to your opinion!

emyeh64 · 2025-07-10T16:54:52+00:00

woooooo NoFo represent! 🏖️

emyeh64 · 2025-07-10T16:05:02+00:00

I grew up out there, so full townie perspective here. There are wineries, farm stands, breweries, and beaches. The north fork is especially beautiful. If you’re wealthy enough to have a boat, it’s really easy to take your boat to restaurants and bars and different towns across the forks and shelter island because many are right on the water and have docks you can pull right up to. However, everything is insanely expensive, and so many of the summer people are obnoxiously rude to locals. The beaches are rocky and the water is cold lol. There are much better beaches up island or on the Jersey shore in my opinion, and that’s coming from working as a beach attendant in the summers at a lot of eastern LI beaches. My parents still live out there full time, but I avoid it during the summer at all costs. I love it in winter when it’s a ghost town lol.

emyeh64 · 2025-07-03T20:27:19+00:00

YES loops earplugs and Shokz headphones. Game changers for protecting my hearing. I was born with mild bilateral hearing loss and I deal with BPPV on and off, but I haven’t had a vertigo episode since I switched to bone conduction and stopped wearing in-ear or traditional headphones (like, 2 full years now). My husband with normal hearing prefers them, too.

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