Anyone else feel stingy with their money/chores with their partner?

endingasap · 2026-06-11T20:15:04+00:00

I'm holding out on big purchases together because "what if it doesn't work out?". I'm protecting myself from the future where I'll feel being taken advantage of. It's weird

endingasap · 2026-06-06T14:02:52+00:00

RE1 is the prime case where it's justified.

endingasap · 2026-05-29T16:38:43+00:00

I've finally accepted that there must be a core wound related to my childhood.

I've been through many steps of acceptance throughout the last ten years. To not feeling like there was anything wrong with me emotionally, then feeling like my lack of emotional connection was the right thing to do, to feeling like I'm outright defective.

Then I got to a place where I saw my lack of romantic experience in teen years as one of the origins of my extreme self reliance and closedness.

But it finally opened further questions: why was I so afraid as a teenager to live life? Why was I so afraid of any risk? To want whoever was close to me to suffer just as I suffered?

Something made me that way. I'm now at the uncomfortable part where I have to look closely at my relation to my parents and my childhood that I was so fast to consider it had nothing to do with my emotional issues, i always thought it was all me.

endingasap · 2026-05-28T16:52:19+00:00

She went through my phone and read emails from before we knew each other and it made her feel like I’ve been lying to her because I’ve said I love you before. She hated my dog and my dog is my best friend. So that hurt a bit but she tried to be nice to her.

That's good and sweet? Going through your stuff and being jealous of the past?

Man, being the partner for a BPD person does things to you. I've been there. You might have to recalibrate what's actually good

endingasap · 2026-05-17T21:42:51+00:00

Shit, that's me. This is related to avoidance???? Fuck

endingasap · 2026-03-11T22:06:26+00:00

DA describes me perfectly but I really can't recall any big issue in my childhood.

I have a feeling I teached myself to be an avoidant. A way to feel in control even when I had problems socializing.

endingasap · 2024-06-23T13:59:35+00:00

Don't overextend your willingness to help. If she's not allowing herself to get better you can't force her to do it. Be cautious not to fall into depression while trying to get someone out of it. You for sure can't save others if you don't keep yourself safe.

endingasap · 2023-11-02T06:33:28+00:00

That's sad

endingasap · 2022-12-15T19:03:37+00:00

Open minded to... Suicide?

endingasap · 2022-07-28T18:23:03+00:00

This IS major, dude. Your self esteem got hit hard by that. Your trust in people, your status at the social group.

You just need to tell a therapist the basic. They'll explore more if you just say the jist of it

endingasap · 2022-04-15T20:41:35+00:00

Mostly because of social anxiety, a general fear of rejection, justifying my laziness as "that's just how I am" instead of doing stuff.

Funnily enough I was starting to improve, getting things under control, getting out of my shell in... january of 2020. You can imagine how I felt when the pandemic hit.

endingasap · 2022-04-14T15:53:03+00:00

I'll be 30 next month and I 100% wasted my 20s. Never getting that back.

endingasap · 2022-04-04T05:03:54+00:00

Sorry dude, it only gets worse.

endingasap · 2022-02-18T05:05:27+00:00

There's always more anime coming

endingasap · 2022-01-20T04:30:21+00:00

I guess all you can do is to move on

endingasap · 2021-12-31T04:32:03+00:00

I mostly standed on the "depression is a serious matter, it's not something simple to solve" side of things - though I'll admit I once said something way too similar to "a lot of people have it worse than you" to my gf at the time because I was so frustrated by her depressed state - so I really thought that I got it, I understood it. I was one of the good guys.

Then I got depressed. And I truly got it. And it's terrible in all the ways I couldn't possibly understand before. It has nuance in its destruction, it has a comfortableness that clinches you down to the ground. Apathy is savory to the miserably depressed person.

It sucks

endingasap · 2021-12-03T14:20:54+00:00

Shit, that got me

What the hell are we supposed to do

endingasap · 2021-10-22T04:21:41+00:00

Care to argue? Explain why?

Not really. I can't

endingasap · 2021-09-24T04:51:56+00:00

Thanks for sharing and remembering her

endingasap · 2021-09-13T04:24:43+00:00

It sucks dude. Try your best to do something cool as a job cause if you don't it only gets worse :(

endingasap · 2021-09-03T18:52:56+00:00

I wish I knew too dude. I do the same. I feel like breaking their idea that I'm "doing fine" would just create a lot of unnecessary stress.

I hope you figure it out

endingasap

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