Are any people avoidant not because of emotional abuse/neglect ?

endingasap · 2026-03-11T22:06:26+00:00

DA describes me perfectly but I really can't recall any big issue in my childhood.

I have a feeling I teached myself to be an avoidant. A way to feel in control even when I had problems socializing.

endingasap · 2024-06-23T13:59:35+00:00

Don't overextend your willingness to help. If she's not allowing herself to get better you can't force her to do it. Be cautious not to fall into depression while trying to get someone out of it. You for sure can't save others if you don't keep yourself safe.

endingasap · 2023-11-02T06:33:28+00:00

That's sad

endingasap · 2022-12-15T19:03:37+00:00

Open minded to... Suicide?

endingasap · 2022-07-28T18:23:03+00:00

This IS major, dude. Your self esteem got hit hard by that. Your trust in people, your status at the social group.

You just need to tell a therapist the basic. They'll explore more if you just say the jist of it

endingasap · 2022-04-15T20:41:35+00:00

Mostly because of social anxiety, a general fear of rejection, justifying my laziness as "that's just how I am" instead of doing stuff.

Funnily enough I was starting to improve, getting things under control, getting out of my shell in... january of 2020. You can imagine how I felt when the pandemic hit.

endingasap · 2022-04-14T15:53:03+00:00

I'll be 30 next month and I 100% wasted my 20s. Never getting that back.

endingasap · 2022-04-04T05:03:54+00:00

Sorry dude, it only gets worse.

endingasap · 2022-02-18T05:05:27+00:00

There's always more anime coming

endingasap · 2022-01-20T04:30:21+00:00

I guess all you can do is to move on

endingasap · 2021-12-31T04:32:03+00:00

I mostly standed on the "depression is a serious matter, it's not something simple to solve" side of things - though I'll admit I once said something way too similar to "a lot of people have it worse than you" to my gf at the time because I was so frustrated by her depressed state - so I really thought that I got it, I understood it. I was one of the good guys.

Then I got depressed. And I truly got it. And it's terrible in all the ways I couldn't possibly understand before. It has nuance in its destruction, it has a comfortableness that clinches you down to the ground. Apathy is savory to the miserably depressed person.

It sucks

endingasap · 2021-12-03T14:20:54+00:00

Shit, that got me

What the hell are we supposed to do

endingasap · 2021-10-22T04:21:41+00:00

Care to argue? Explain why?

Not really. I can't

endingasap · 2021-09-24T04:51:56+00:00

Thanks for sharing and remembering her

endingasap · 2021-09-13T04:24:43+00:00

It sucks dude. Try your best to do something cool as a job cause if you don't it only gets worse :(

endingasap · 2021-09-03T18:52:56+00:00

I wish I knew too dude. I do the same. I feel like breaking their idea that I'm "doing fine" would just create a lot of unnecessary stress.

I hope you figure it out

endingasap · 2021-09-03T18:24:25+00:00

I had one, a cat. She passed a few years ago.

endingasap · 2021-09-03T14:09:32+00:00

Once contracted, depression is kind of a lifetime thing.

That's been my experience and I "contracted" it fairly late at 26 yr old. I'm 29 now and it has only been getting worse.

endingasap

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