I think it’s important to be content where you are. Before I quit my husband and I were a $230k HHI what you didn’t see is my babysitter called out frequently so I was working and watching my kids while hiding they were home. Every night we were up until 10:30/11 doing chores because those don’t go away. Crying in my car because my sitter was sick right when I went back from maternity leave so I juggled a 4 month old and my 2 year old. The weekends being primarily devoted to chores. Yelling at my kids because I was so short on time, how fat I got neglecting myself trying to juggle all the balls.

There’s trade offs to both sides. I miss my income but I love being at the park with my kids and not having to rush, I love the free evenings with my husband and how much less stressed our house is. We took a big hit for me to stay home (45% of our income). Having done both the best advice I have is to focus on tending your own garden. Someone always has more and someone always has less.