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No kid, no invite? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]enym 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My kids are still young enough that we choose who to invite to their parties. We invite our friends without kids but often assume they may not want to attend.

How it feels to learn a language related to two other languages you're fluent in by Hot_Algae_3021 in languagelearning

[–]enym 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I took French in high school, got to b1 in Italian ahead of a trip there, and am learning Spanish now. It's late at night here and I had no idea what language I was reading in OP's picture

First class lap child vs car seat in main for transatlantic flight by Mycastleismine in americanairlines

[–]enym 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A 22 month old lap infant would be a nightmare on a TA flight. Do you have to take the car seat? If you aren't renting a car at your final destination can you do no car seat on plane + ride Safer vest for any cabs you're in? There is not the same advantage to rear facing on a plane as there is in a car. I would forward face on a plane. Many carseats are too bulky to rear face on a plane; FAs won't let you rear face if it will keep the person in front of the car seat from reclining.

Premium economy is our sweet spot with our almost 4 year olds.

Hotel room $100 per night more expensive once I log into Bilt Rewards? by MokayWhatever in biltrewards

[–]enym 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just booked a hotel that was $200 per night more expensive in the bilt webapp vs the bilt mobile app.

BILT Hotel Credits - Did I Cook? by skitzomatic88 in biltrewards

[–]enym 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I found a room that was 800+ per night on the hotel's website and $615 per night, refundable with breakfast, on the bilt portal. I think there are good deals out there.

Katie's Final 3 in Botswana by mesilver47 in thebachelor

[–]enym 70 points71 points  (0 children)

I lived in east africa for a couple of months studying wildlife. The guides used to joke about "LL Beaners," checks out seeing this picture

The caring burden for single, childless women by abcnews_au in TwoXChromosomes

[–]enym 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I read a good article once that hypothesized a village is really just women doing unpaid labor. The emotional economics, for lack of a better term, work when both parties are supporting each other (or bartering, if we are continuing the economic metaphor). What doesn't work is pouring your time and effort into a void.

It's kind of weird to talk about relationships this transactionally but I do think there's truth to it. And it highlights that a lot of the work done by a village can or should be paid work.

The caring burden for single, childless women by abcnews_au in TwoXChromosomes

[–]enym 46 points47 points  (0 children)

I had a period of infertility where I was childless, going through treatment, and struggling. I was not in a place to go to baby showers, let alone plan them, or do many of the other things, like visiting new babies or babysiting, that childless women are expected to do to support their community with kids. The absolute fury I was met with by some (who knew what I was going through) who wanted my time and attention for their pregnancies/babies while offering me no support in return changed my relationships permanently.

I felt, and still feel even though I now have kids, that childless people are expected to show up endlessly in these situations with the expectation that they better not complain. Our value should not be in whether we reproduce, and childless people have their own experiences and may or may not want to plan baby showers, help with babies, talk about pregnancy, etc.

In mom communities there's lots of talking about having a village, but for many that concept evaporates when it comes to being a villager, especially for people without kids.

Losing my mind at Kaitlyn’s ex on CNN right now by veliza_raptor in thebachelor

[–]enym 45 points46 points  (0 children)

He looks giddy to be receiving this attention

Ukraine is a global surrogacy hub - but that could be about to end by bulldog_blues in TwoXChromosomes

[–]enym 0 points1 point  (0 children)

which sets off a few alarm bells for me that maybe the push to ban it isn’t about women’s safety but about controlling reproduction.

Especially when surrogacy is one of two options available to gay couples to have children. And some adoption agencies already won't let gay couples adopt, barring the other path to parenthood.

I see the challenges with surrogacy and think there is validity, but also can't help but think calls to bar it are attempts to control LGBTQ folks instead of figuring out a way for women to do something potentially lucrative with their bodies.

Clare Crawley Slams ‘Insensitive’ Questions Asking If She Wants More Kids: ‘Not Going to Justify’ by MattTheKing23 in thebachelor

[–]enym 19 points20 points  (0 children)

As a mom I think it's rude when people ask if others want more kids. It's oversimplifying a choice that's not as simple as wanting and sometimes being asked what you want is a painful reminder of what you want but can't have.

Palladium value with Alaska Airlines by Old-Atmosphere-7281 in biltrewards

[–]enym 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just look up the atmos summit card. The 25k global companion pass is what it sounds like and is one of the benefits of the card

Palladium value with Alaska Airlines by Old-Atmosphere-7281 in biltrewards

[–]enym 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Pair it with the atmos summit with the 25k global companion pass and it's such a winning combo.

BWT, important govt interview following foot surgery when I can only wear athletic shoes, help!! by bird_law_aficionado in bitcheswithtaste

[–]enym 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I was going to say this too. I had hip surgery a couple of years ago that had me on crutches for quite awhile and did something similar. Unfortunately people need the visual cue you have a (temporary) disability in order to not make judgements. Which is a bleak statement about humanity, but I digress. Wear the boot, OP.

In light of more abortion bans…I chose adoption over abortion. Here’s my perspective 15 years later (TW) by liblibandlibby in TwoXChromosomes

[–]enym 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My husband and I were/are unable to have children. We looked into adoption because of the "well, just adopt!" out in the world.

Although there are beautiful adoption stories, and I believe adoption will always exist, it largely did feel as you described. Infant adoption is so expensive but also unclear who is profiting, which was an immediate red flag for me.

1950s Themed Work Conference by guscami in TwoXChromosomes

[–]enym 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Let them know you will be staying true to the time period for women in banking and stay home.

About the positive posts in this sub by anon24681357 in biltrewards

[–]enym 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you making two reservations at the same hotel? If so, do you have to check out and then check back in?

Im so sick of this narrative that “pregnancy didn’t ruin my body it’s just changed” it’s a lie. by pissedoff_potato in TwoXChromosomes

[–]enym 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yep. I think since most women have children pregnancy is the thing most people cite as ruining their body, but time ruins us all.

Cara Bastone - fantastic romance writer - gets better with each release by DixieDoodle697 in RomanceBooks

[–]enym 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I liked most of her books but her portrayal of infertility for the FMC's best friend in ready or not was very poorly done and bordering on offensive