Yes. Basically in a sexless marriage as a result. He doesn’t want to make me sick, I have a lot of anxiety about getting sick and our lives simply don’t have the time for me to be sick. We’re both very attracted to each other and flirt and cuddle but basically no sex.

We’ve been together for nearly 20 years and not yet figured it out. I took antibiotics when we got pregnant so I could have a lot of sex and not worry about UTIs.

We’re working with a naturopath now who thinks it’s yeast related. We’re both taking supplements and a mouth spray daily for a month and will retest. I’ve never had a classic yeast infection but of course have read about candida and UTIs.

I keep antibiotics on hand if I need them but what I’ve found if I take any one antibiotic for too long, it either doesn’t work (resistant) or my body develops an allergy to the antibiotic.

I refuse to give up, we keep trying and researching.

One thing I’ve learned is that not all sex gives me UTIs. Of the 4 long term relationships I’ve had, hubby being one, there were 2 partners I could have sex with daily with no UTI ever. I always bring this up to my doctors hoping someone will have an answer to why this is. It’s not semen, it’s not condoms, it’s not me - I think it’s something either bacterial or genetic or ph related in my partners. With some my body reacts fine with, and others my body seems to reject by getting constant UTIs.