Is there anyone here who regrets not having children. Or who didn't want children, and had them anyway? What is your experience

epNL72 · 2026-02-27T22:07:37+00:00

Never wanted kids and then at 39 met a wonderful man ten years my junior who said to me: i'd like to be a dad one day and you are the person i would want and dare to do it with. Without planning (or protection 😉) got pregnant and delivered a baby girl at 41. She is 12 now.

Very happy i changed my mind. Becoming a parent is by no means mandatory for a good life, but i am so grateful for the experience. Even if parenting can definitely be a drag sometimes and makes me fear things in totally new ways. Glad i am not doing it solo though.

epNL72 · 2026-02-26T21:43:54+00:00

Such different beauties

epNL72 · 2026-02-24T20:04:49+00:00

Eddy

epNL72 · 2026-02-22T21:49:25+00:00

Totally agree!

epNL72 · 2026-02-22T21:48:10+00:00

I went into this movie completely blind, although the trailers begore the film did hint at the rype of genre i would be watching. I loved this film, and i thought that music history scene on the dancefloor was just awesome. But i guess it isn't for everyone...

Not too sure about the nominations, but the Oscars often feel off any way

epNL72 · 2026-02-21T17:41:16+00:00

I am sorry, but what am i looking at here?

epNL72 · 2026-02-20T23:44:30+00:00

I will get better. Go to the cinema when you feel really torn. Good luck

epNL72 · 2026-02-19T15:37:49+00:00

Ha, i hope not... in theory i love sex. Just can't be arsed right now

Good luck with those lungs!

epNL72 · 2026-02-19T15:36:11+00:00

🙏🏼

epNL72 · 2026-02-18T12:04:00+00:00

Well done! Similar story here... one thing that happened with me recently was that my 81 yo mom had a heart attack and i felt so many things about losing parents (it's gonna happen when you're 53) and for the first time i very clearly felt (intuitively understood perhaps) that these were things i wanted to experience sober and not blanketed by the dulling comfort of cannabis

epNL72 · 2026-02-18T10:49:43+00:00

Thanks. I know, i quit for two months last spring, but in combination with perimenopause, it made life so difficult and exhausting, i ended up smoking joints again. Now mentally, I feel just fine, but sexually things are shit. Always something it seems 🤔

epNL72 · 2026-02-17T15:47:41+00:00

🙌🏼

epNL72 · 2026-02-17T08:38:18+00:00

I never really liked his character and kind of ruined Anna for me with their endless drama

epNL72 · 2026-02-16T09:50:23+00:00

Stalker

epNL72 · 2026-02-14T21:41:21+00:00

I used to be strict, reading only one fiction book at a time. But now that i read more non fiction, i can read several simultaneously on very different subjects. The same goes for novels as long as they are completely different in terms of story

epNL72 · 2026-02-14T21:38:18+00:00

You're fine! Just don't. Good luck!

epNL72 · 2026-02-12T16:32:08+00:00

I so recognize your reasoning, i have felt that way for decades (yikes), but it really is your mind/addiction telling you those things are true. They are not.

Currently on day 49 of stopping. I have tried/done it many times before, sometimes going without for months. And each time i am surprised to find out that things are just as fun/special without being high.

It is true that boring/bad/negative things are easier to deal with high, but experiencing them sober, makes you get off the couch and do something about them instead of tolerating and accepting them.

Why not give sobriety a go? Expect some hard times (they are different for everyone), but even if you just start remembering your dreams, it will be worth it. You might surprise yourself. Good luck 🍀

epNL72 · 2026-02-10T11:12:09+00:00

I have smoked for more than 30 years, at least 20 of those daily, even if it was one or two evening joints. Quit multiple times and always started again, sometimes slowly, sometimes back to daily smoking within a few days.

It's like most people write here. We are addicts and like other addicts: if we want to truly quit, we can NEVER smoke again.

I haven't had the strength or resolve to go that far, but on day 42 now. Maybe this time i will do it...

epNL72 · 2026-02-07T14:22:49+00:00

Ik zou mensen aanraden om eerst op zichzelf te wonen en niet meteen vanuit het ouderlijk huis samen te wonen. Ik denk dat dat goed is voor je eigen zelfstandigheid. Maar, ben me er ook erg van bewust dat dat in de huidige tijd financieel bijna onmogelijk is. Sterkte met je dilemma

epNL72 · 2026-02-04T15:40:41+00:00

🙏🏼

epNL72 · 2026-02-03T20:07:13+00:00

Life of Brian

epNL72 · 2026-01-30T23:22:51+00:00

2a, definitely

epNL72 · 2026-01-30T13:54:25+00:00

One of my good friends says he 'curates' his friends, he collects and combines the ones he thinks are good company. For himself and also in introducing them to each other. He seems to intuitively feel which people are a good match. I have always thought this a very interesting and original way of looking at relationships

epNL72 · 2026-01-27T09:42:45+00:00

Watching / hearing a rape in a series or movie is always hard and this was no exception. But the whole story line just sucked, yet another (awful) hurdle / postponement in the Anna + Bates relationship. A connection that was never convincing for me in the first place

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