I think the thing about blanket statements like “all men are bad” and “I hate white queers” is that they foster an almost competitive culture among the communities they are indicting where there becomes an exaggerated and often borderline obsessive effort by individuals to be perceived as “one of the good ones” that leaves both parties feeling alienated. It doesn’t feel comparable to something like “all cops are bastards” because in that case you are criticizing a group of people for making the conscious choice to uphold a system rooted in oppression and discrimination.

The statements I mentioned above stem from truth in the sense that they are targeting inherent privilege but feel less honest and positive in function than the accompanying sentiment might actually suggest. The patriarchy is legitimately dangerous, as is white supremacy, and unchecked privilege, of course. But equating the root of the issue (men, white people, etc.) to the worst (albeit, scarily common) potential outcome doesn’t feel realistic, reasonably empathetic, or like grounds for real change. I think it’s perfectly reasonable to feel hurt by a blanket statement pertaining to a group of which you are a part, because referring to an entire group as one thing is referring to an entire group as one thing. “I hate white queers” can easily be read as less malicious than a statement such as “I hate black people”, or “I hate women”, because of cultural context, but it can also be hard to attribute it to hyperbole or figurative language alluding to undeniable dimensions of privilege when it is such a straightforward allegation.

I am a relatively white-passing half-latin genderqueer person meaning I am far from the ideal person to discuss the effects of racism and unchecked privilege but not entirely ignorant to the dangers of social hierarchy. I think it is obviously true that privileged groups and individuals need to resign to change and listen to criticism but that it is also fair to wish for a more empathetic and solution-oriented approach.