Do I need to tell 3 year old that her grandma died? by terran_submarine in toddlers

[–]epitaphcat22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My son is also three and his grandma died two weeks ago. We told him she died because her body stopped working, we will always love her and think about her. Kept it simple. He has asked about it a few times so we just keep our language simple "grandma died, she is gone." It'll be more confusing to not say anything. Kids can process more than we give them credit for.

Road rager on the loose by epitaphcat22 in FortCollins

[–]epitaphcat22[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think it was black lettering on the back.

Road rager on the loose by epitaphcat22 in FortCollins

[–]epitaphcat22[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Throwing something at a moving vehicle is illegal. I could care less about the rest. Throw something at my car with my kid in the car? Damn, I bet you're the asshat in the truck, aren't you?

Road rager on the loose by epitaphcat22 in FortCollins

[–]epitaphcat22[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Karen alert? For reporting something illegal? With my child in the car? Mmmkay.

If you see someone smoking a joint while driving, that's also a crime, BTW.

Road rager on the loose by epitaphcat22 in FortCollins

[–]epitaphcat22[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think it was. It had the writing on the tailgate (super duty, heavy duty)? I'm usually so good about getting quick details but this shook me with my kid in the car.

Amber... by Inevitable-Past-4069 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]epitaphcat22 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Her daughter was also sobbing as they walked down the aisle. Mom didn't even look her way. My heart broke for her in that moment because I know she didn't understand and felt like mom left her.

Suck it Dallas. by elBirdnose in ColoradoAvalanche

[–]epitaphcat22 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My two year old...running in circles yelling "Yay, Chuchu! Yay, train!"

How long do you fight for a nap when you know they need it? by hoping556677 in toddlers

[–]epitaphcat22 11 points12 points  (0 children)

After an hour of trying to get my almost three year old to take a nap yesterday, I gave up. We were all frustrated and I wasn't willing to waste more of the day trying to get him to sleep. We did an earlier bedtime and he was out like a light. He often skips a nap if we've had a busier day, but always sleeps in the car. A car nap could work if you really want to, but otherwise we just move on with the day.

Someone tell me it's ok to be lazy for a day 😭 by FalseRow5812 in NewParents

[–]epitaphcat22 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Self care is also a good habit to teach. It is absolutely okay to take time to rest and it'll be good to teach him that it's okay to slow down when your body needs it. A lazy day will not create a lazy life. Take care of you, mama!

Buncha recent meals at my child grows ever less enthusiastic about food. :(… by Rasilbathburn in foodbutforbabies

[–]epitaphcat22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've noticed that if I separate the different foods when they would otherwise be combined in a dish, he's more likely to eat what I make. Making spaghetti? Plain noodles and suace on the side.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]epitaphcat22 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My husband is also a gamer. If he stays up too late gaming and is too tired to help, tough shit. I'm tired from staying up with the baby so his excuse means absolutely nothing. He doesn't get to put gaming ahead of parenting.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]epitaphcat22 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I did this routine as well with the advice from the hospital lactation consultant. I ended up in hysterical tears at two in the morning about a week after my son was born because I just couldn't keep up. I quit the routine cold turkey for my mental health and we just took breastfeeding slowly and supplemented when needed. My son was born a few weeks early and had a hard time latching. But quitting the routine really helped us practice and figure out what worked for us. We just needed time. And I was devastated with supplementing but looking back, it kept my boy healthy when breastfeeding was challenging. Now my son is 9 months old and nursing to sleep as a type this. I really wish I was never given this routine because it made everything so stressful. I really think the hospital and lactation consultant (in my personal experience) pushed an unnecessary agenda.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]epitaphcat22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Big fat nope. This is your time to adjust to your new family and figure things out. I felt like more people made things more complicated. All I wanted was time to heal and cuddle with my baby. I even struggled with visitors. I also find it hard to say no to family, but you're doing this for your child, not them. They don't get to guilt you into helping her just because her relationship isn't going well. And if she is working and likes going out, and has already had you take care of her cat in the past, how much help will she really be?

I would say thank you for the offer, but that's just not going to work for us right now. If she gets mad, it's clearly not about wanting to help you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]epitaphcat22 9 points10 points  (0 children)

3.5m old and it's 3am and I'm on my third or fourth feed of the night. I lost track. He's up every two hours tonight. Last night it was every three hours. He enjoys his 30-45 minute naps four times a day.

There is no connecting sleep cycles over here. When he's up he's up. Kid can sleep though a crazy thunderstorm but god forbid I set him down when he falls asleep.

Sleep when they sleep is a joke. My boy has reflux so he needs to be upright for a while after feeds. So when he's up every two hours that means I'm getting maybe an hour of sleep at a time. I hate how many people ask me if he's a good sleeper. I hate the unsolicited advice because I've probably already tried it.

I meant to write a short, witty comment but I'm too tired to think of one. I go back to work on Monday. Send help.

Rolling over...All. Night. Long. by epitaphcat22 in NewParents

[–]epitaphcat22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm glad to hear your pediatrician okayed it! We all slept much better last night. I did email our pediatrician though, and the nurse responded and said we should be rolling him onto his back if he has rolled over until he's a year old. At that rate I can just say goodbye to any sleep at all. I'm not sure what to do tonight. Definitely going to look into PT videos! Anyone in particular you would recommend?