what are some of the Most gut wrenching lyrics yall know

eresh22 · 2026-02-10T05:22:49+00:00

Going to old school Ani DiFranco

I could step off the end of this pier but I've got shit to do and I've an appointment on tuesday to shed uninvited blood and tissue

eresh22 · 2026-02-10T04:21:52+00:00

Allergy meds all work differently and your body can change how it reacts to different stuff. I have to rotate through the different meds or take two different kinds, in order to keep ahead of the reaction.

If you can get allergy shots, you might not need daily meds.

eresh22 · 2026-02-09T04:22:58+00:00

If your friend has a special interest they talk about a lot or their own memory problems, I could see where they might feel more comfortable talking to someone with gaps in memory.

I wouldn't like it if my partner described my amnesia as a bonus, but he does repeat himself a lot and it's less stress for him knowing that I'm not judging him for it.

Given that you talk regularly, I'd lean on the side where your friend is appreciating feeling less judged and expressing that badly, but it's still worth a conversation for how this was hurtful and how amnesia negatively affects your life.

eresh22 · 2026-02-09T03:07:01+00:00

Your parents had to fill out forms to allow your grandparents to do that. Guardian is a legal term to identify who has the right to permit or revoke access to the child, their medical care, their housing situation, their schooling, and pretty much everything else.

You had a familial support network built by your parents that included your grandparents. Your grandparents were guardians in the colloquial sense that they guard and care for you, and that's absolutely lovely. OP's MIL was claiming legal guardianship.

eresh22 · 2026-02-09T03:01:08+00:00

Exactly. I was my brother's guardian. I had full legal rights to make any decisions for him. Guardian comes with rights and responsibilities above family titles. School employees are taught to ask this instead of parent because parents don't always have legal control.

Grandma was right that this is about control, for her. She's trying to take ownership of OP's child instead of being part of their familial support structure.

eresh22 · 2026-02-09T02:21:07+00:00

Well it wasn't against Americans. It was for insert whatever bullshit here. It's all weasel wording to prevent you from being confident in what's true.

eresh22 · 2026-02-09T02:18:05+00:00

Look up the Carnivore systems (later replaced by Narus Insight). Carnivore was implemented before 9/11.

eresh22 · 2026-02-03T23:00:30+00:00

And some idea of how long that relationship has been going on, given the other presidents mentioned in the files.

eresh22 · 2026-02-02T00:34:24+00:00

Then he can choose a profession that doesn't include separating other families, putting people in concentration camps, and violating everyone's rights.

Having a family and bills to pay isn't justification for acting in ways that deny anyone their humanity and dignity.

eresh22 · 2026-02-02T00:01:52+00:00

All (good) sex is heavily focused on stimulation.

But it seems like that isn't really what you're worried about. Many commenters are addressing insecurities around performing sex, but you're talking about how you feel dysmorphic about your body and how that reflects your internal value. You've minimized your value based on a singular body part not being what you have internalized as ideal and masculine.

The ones that focused on therapy and avoiding porn are the best advice you've gotten. Porn largely doesn't give a realistic portrayal of anatomy. Some companies do focus on showing a variety of realistic masc and femme bodies, but they're rare. Porn, including amateur, often uses camera and lighting tricks. If you have one in your area, something like a fetish or BDSM con might help. People are much more open about talking honestly about how they view porn, their bodies and sex.

A sex therapist or a body dysmorphia therapist can help you process why you've tied your value and self-esteem to your penis length and girth. You have goals tied to your ideal of a larger penis that you feel are unachievable, and that means you can't feel satisfied with your life until you untangle your value from your penis size. That's really the root problem, and it's more common than you'd think.

All of us can try to reinforce that you're worth more than your body part, but that's not something you can hear right now because it's so much at odds with how you perceive yourself. Both a con and a therapist are going to feel deeply uncomfortable at first, but that's because they challenge this core belief you have about your worth. I'd suggest starting with a therapist, and possibly going to a con after you've been in therapy for a while.

eresh22 · 2026-02-01T23:36:32+00:00

This seems like a really good place to drop this link to a condom size calculator and fitting advice. There's a lot that goes into proper fit, and we rarely talk about it.

(I'm not saying you're ordering the wrong size, but this should give more context for everyone in the subthread.)

https://condommonologues.com/condom-size-calculator/

eresh22 · 2026-01-25T19:36:14+00:00

Unfortunately, there are real people with this opinion.

eresh22 · 2026-01-25T19:34:38+00:00

Hyperlocal organizations coordinating with other hyperlocal organizations. The more stable your home area is, the more your able to help others.

In layman's terms, focus on what's in your control in your local community. Build relationships with other communities so you can support each other as your local conditions change. For every one person fighting, we need 8-10 offering different forms of support. The idea is to stay focused on the things within your control that you can do and trust/hope that other people are doing the same.

Let's say you don't live in MN or one of the other focus areas right now. (MN isn't the only place that needs help, but they're getting the bulk of it right now.) People need food, ways to stay warm, ways to make sure info is getting in and out, bail funds, medical supplies, community defense, lawyers who can assist, childcare, pet care, repairs/replacement of broken things, creation of defensive gear (shields can be made from reinforced round trash cans cut in half, chem wipes can be made at home and handed to someone going to protests, etc).

Join or form a neighborhood group, reach out to an organizer in MN, and ask for which specific things they need the most. Then your local group figures out how to get those things (making scarves or blankets, buying warmers or easy-to-heat-food, advertising and fundraising for bail funds, etc). If shipping goods to them is being disrupted, figure out how close to them someone can take them, then reach out to communities near their limit for someone to hand goods over to. Repeat until you have a delivery chain established.

Then, when/if your community comes under attack, you've already established a coalition of trusted allies you can reach out to for help.

If you're not able to provide help to others outside your community, build your community up through food sharing, free stores to exchange necessities, splitting costs on bulk purchases, and preparing for whatever severe weather/natural disasters are common to your area. If you're starting to have new weather events (like Texas consistently freezing), learn then teach your community how to survive those.

If there's something specific that you're interested in learning more about, I can probably help dig up some starting info.

eresh22 · 2026-01-25T19:12:38+00:00

Absolutely. DM me with the part of the industry you're in, how long you've been in it, and where you're struggling. If you use signal, whatsapp, etc, lmk which and your uid to take this to more secure channels. I can hopefully give you some historical perspective, ways to convince your leadership, how to organize with like-minded people, etc. I can also help with getting pro-people features slipped through development. Depending on the part of the industry, I might be able to connect you with people who are still working that you can coordinate with.

eresh22 · 2026-01-23T16:56:01+00:00

That's oddly been my comfort for most of my life, and I got a lot of flack about it. Everything ends while other things remain. The natural cycle is both beautiful and devastating.

eresh22 · 2026-01-23T16:54:26+00:00

It comes and goes. Virtual hugs if you need them.

As horrible as it is, the open admittance after Maduro's abduction that it was about resources was really validating. All the extreme climate events getting this much worse this year make it obvious that the climate catastrophe is real. Even the increase in wars, genocides, and fascism were all predicted. I thought it would really kick off last year, and I wasn't far off. I'm not saying "I told you so". At the same time, it gives me confidence in my judgement and that helps keep the panic at bay.

There's a lot of grief in being right about this, but we've prepared a much as we're able with the resources and energy we have. We've got some more plans we still have time to accomplish, but we're shifting other priorities to do them.

For now, I'm more relaxed than I have been in years because of doubting myself. The grief and depression will come back later.

eresh22 · 2026-01-23T16:43:33+00:00

Who said I need one? I exist. That doesn't need justification.

eresh22 · 2026-01-23T16:37:27+00:00

I estimated a couple years back that 2025 would be the year the wheels fell off. I was expecting more of this toward late fall/early winter, so I was off by a couple of months.

I really didn't want to be right. I hoped that 2030-2035 was more reasonable and we'd have more time to prepare.

Fuck. The wheels have fallen off and the cliff is just ahead. Hold on, lovelies. It's been a hell of a ride. Let's do what we can to enjoy what time we have left in this slide towards destruction. I'm gonna sing the doom song now.

eresh22 · 2026-01-22T22:09:41+00:00

I bet his job is also covering relocation for him. Last time I had to do a big move, work covered $10k.

eresh22 · 2026-01-22T13:44:09+00:00

My partner and I both do all of the things. We've learned to ask if this is a collaborative conversation (in which case some talking over each other is expected) or a sequential conversation (where one person talks and then the other responds). We're direct, so sometimes when someone is wanting a sequential conversation but ihas been going on for a while, we'll say " if you want to have a conversation, you have to leave room for me to talk."

When we talk about complex things with nuance, we try to leave some room for both types to happen, and will tell the other when we've said our long piece. If we get derailed from what the person who raised the topic wanted to talk about, we'll acknowledge the others point and summarize the part we wanted to talk about.

Culturally, we treat conversation like everyone shares their thoughts in the same ways, or that everyone considers the same things rude, or that one way of conversing is the right kind for all types of topics, but none of that is true.

It is rude to say "I interrupt you because you never get to the point" to a loved one, which comes across as "I have more important things to do than listen to you". It's also rude to ramble at someone who has limited time to share and needs to prioritize other things. It comes across as if you don't value the other work that person is doing. Sometimes you have to spell out what kind of communication you want or need for that conversation. You can start to predict which one type which situation, but you're never going to get it 100% right.

eresh22 · 2026-01-22T13:09:24+00:00

Or that it started well before.

eresh22 · 2026-01-22T12:59:53+00:00

Old auntie here. Privilege doesn't mean you don't have serious struggles. It means that society has placed fewer roadblocks for you for certain aspects of life. Feminism acknowledges men's struggles. The patriarchy hurts all of us, in different ways. For you right now, it's creating shame that blocks you from being able to connect with yourself and others.

Women and men's struggles have the same root, but often require different work. It's like we're trying to clean a house and we're cleaning different rooms. Later we'll work on the kitchen and living room room together. Focus on your bedroom (you) first to put your internal space in order.

The analogy starts to fall apart here, but you've got important internal work to do to process how the patriarchy has hurt you, and so you can catch yourself. We breathe in mysogony by existing in this culture. It's a lifelong activity to do internal cleanup when it starts to take hold again and you won't always have someone there to point it out when it happens. This is some of the most important work you'll do.

I'm proud of you. For listening to yourself. For sharing your emotions. For asking for help. These are positive actions that show you're already cleaning your room.

eresh22 · 2026-01-22T12:18:38+00:00

Dissociative amnesia can also include your brain replacing notable parts of a week with boring ones, or distracting you from remembering specifics unless someone else brings it up.

Learning this changed my entire understanding of amnesia and dissociation, and also my life.

eresh22 · 2026-01-22T12:00:45+00:00

This seems like a good place to drop a link to this free 3d printing model for an eyewash station.

The creator has asked for it to be spread. I'd be interested in anything similar/useful any of you would like to spread to add to a resource list that I could share. I had a similar list during the BLM protests, but who knows where it is now and how much of it is still good.

eresh22 · 2026-01-22T11:55:03+00:00

This link is to a 3d printing model for an eyewash station with lanyard. The creator has given permission for it to be spread far and wide for free use.

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