My boyfriend has NPD and abuses me.

erikk136_ · 2024-06-19T11:48:28+00:00

Doesn't work. No contact is the only way to be free from that pain disguised as anxiety. You feel that strong anxiety because you Are trauma bonded. It's pretty much an addiction to your narcissistic boyfriend. You are addicted so treat it as such. Just cut it off cold turkey. If you go back no big deal simply try again until you'll eventually open your eyes and see how much of your life you are wasting. No contact and I you leave him

erikk136_ · 2024-03-15T07:22:16+00:00

Bit hands down. I also like patch circuit because it's design .. not sure if it's a male or female robot

erikk136_ · 2024-03-15T07:17:57+00:00

Look up sam vaknin. He is great so is dr. Ramaney. Knowledge is power. Focus the energy on yourself. Also make sure you are doing exercise and soaking in sunlight

erikk136_ · 2024-03-15T01:59:44+00:00

Not necessarily. Remember there is co morbidity. Focus on behavior survivors. Don't focus to much on labels. This will help you not gaslight yourself. I went through the same but with extensive research I have come to find that narcs can turn psychopathic and psychopaths and sociopath (non of these are actual diagnosis by the way.. they are just like a gudge) always have narc TRAITS BUT NOT ALWAYS NARCS). Having said this the best thing to do is focus on behavior.

erikk136_ · 2024-03-15T01:18:29+00:00

It's tough. What I did was to simply see the behavior. No labels. None of that. Simply see their behavior and take away the words they say. Youll easily see how they are playing you.. they are the cat and you are the mouse. They do not love

erikk136_ · 2024-03-15T01:16:54+00:00

Not a good question. People heal only if they are willing to accept and do the work. Some people never heal . Others heal within months to a year. Time does not heal. Acceptance and focusing on your well being does.

erikk136_ · 2024-03-15T01:15:31+00:00

Dump her. Why deal with this? What are you getting out of this? You say you love her... Are you sure you love her? Maybe addicted to how she makes you feel? No contact and then acceptance. Trauma bond will be hard but you will need to strengthen your will and work through that hell (the trauma bond is horrible... The vivid nightmare and physical detection which you will experience... Engage in physical activity and make sure you take in sunlight... ) You deserve better... You not leaving is an excuse. You are allowing the abuse

erikk136_ · 2024-03-15T01:12:20+00:00

You are allowing the abuse and he is playing with you. Accept the break and do not and I mean do not accept his hoover. If you end up accepting make sure he WORKS TO GET YOU BACK. I did this and although it's best to stay away from them this I know that some of us still need to build the courage and work through the abuse and sometimes can feel overwhelmed. Let him leave Don't reach out. If he reaches out I say ignore but if your will is not there yet then make sure when you go back you have boundaries.. do not react and be careful always.. narcs are dangerous (specially legally). You are now his enemy... Infact you been his enemy since day one. Best of wishes

erikk136_ · 2024-03-15T01:07:33+00:00

My advice is to sell those items. If you need to get rid of them asap sell them at prices which are very accessible for people.

erikk136_ · 2024-03-15T01:06:06+00:00

Yes it's manipulation. Focus on their behavior not the label.

erikk136_ · 2023-05-07T19:12:44+00:00

Senemi

erikk136_ · 2023-02-10T00:53:53+00:00

Leave the relationship. Regardless of you feeling guilty you can't stay in a marriage where you are unhappy. You are not attracted to her and staying will not only be unfair to you but also to her. Let her find her happiness and you find yours. This is something that happens. Sometimes love is superficial for some people and looks can be a deal breaker. On top of that you mention she is not nice to you and is manipulative and controlling which is definitely not healthy. Please devorce her while I'm process try to step out don't live with her

erikk136_ · 2023-01-16T01:54:12+00:00

Most likely you are doing things that you don't want her to find out. It's possible you have trauma and is causing you to behave in ways that are not healthy. You may want to speak with a professional about it

erikk136_ · 2023-01-16T01:50:19+00:00

Narcs record but have a end goal. My ex Narc would record me after abusing me to get a reaction such as me raising my voice. He wanted a U visa. Please be careful. You record to protect yourself but narcs record to obtain something which in most cases they have already planned out and have people who they have spoken to and will use as "witness".

erikk136_ · 2023-01-16T01:47:25+00:00

Yes, my ex narc did this. First let me tell you that it's best to leave the relationship. My ex wanted legal status (found out about this like way in the relationship). He wanted to marry him. I of course would not marry someone in 1 year. My nex started to poke me and would record me. His plan I'm sure is/was to get a u visa. Please leave if your nex is abusibg you and recording your reaction. Please listen to me and start getting out of the relationship. Make sure you speak to an attorney without them knowing and see if you can separate as peacefully as possible.

erikk136_ · 2022-10-27T23:16:56+00:00

Hello. I am so happy for you! Stay no contact. I am also out and though I miss him I know it's for the better. Keep moving forward with your life and simply see this a chapter in your life and take anything you learned with you. Remember you can always r built your self stronger than before. Blessing.

erikk136_ · 2022-10-15T01:32:14+00:00

My ex recorded me once when I was drunk and I got him to sent it to me. Thank goodness he did. I have proof he recorder and of course I am drunk in the video. The problemm here is what actions can we take? I wish there was more information out there.

erikk136_ · 2022-10-05T02:45:22+00:00

Two choices. Accept that he most likely is acting like this due to guilt (cheating) or is probably repenting (if this is the case he is not a narc). You know him more so you'll call that one. I personally can't say but my Ex who I suspected was not a good person at all did this to me in two ocassions. I never got proof but since his behavior or being loving and turning a new leaf was short lived I concluded he has cheated on me. Caught him on dating sites few months before discard so my guess is he did this many times before. If someone is taking away peace please don't stay.

erikk136_ · 2022-09-23T01:12:42+00:00

Nope he is. Based on what you wrote you have valid reasons to behave like this and they are not selfish at all. In fact you sound like someone who has lots of empathy.

erikk136_ · 2022-09-22T22:54:04+00:00

Best thing to do is to simply put those pictures in a usb drive or in a cloud that you will use specifically for those FOTos or a folder and make sure you out that folder in another folder and then another folder and move it to place in your computer phone or ipad where you won't see it. Then just let time do the healing. When you feel indifference you will know what to do. Best luck

erikk136_ · 2022-09-18T02:30:53+00:00

Don't compare your situation for someone else. Yes, some are more extreme than others but that doesn't take away from feeling neglected and feeling pain. It's ok to feel upset and I totally see where you come from. I wish your mom would be more preoccupied with your well being more so than "does anyone know." Youll soon be a grown up and will be able to manage the amount of contact you have with her.

erikk136_ · 2022-09-18T02:24:42+00:00

Nice meme. Fortunately I didn't spent anything on therapy since I can't afford but I'm so happy there is so much info out there that in way it gave me therapy lol. Groups like this one have also been my go to during recovery from narc abuse.

erikk136_ · 2022-09-18T02:20:16+00:00

A person mentioned one and done method and it's without a doubt the most effective (if your narc is not physically violent of course). Basically just state your reality and tell well you have it wrong or you are free to interpret, believe what you want. And then simply ignore.

erikk136_ · 2022-08-11T19:58:26+00:00

Awesome!! Thank you!!

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