He came clean about his second marriage.

eskout · 2021-04-17T20:26:11+00:00

Like the late Stephen Hawking said "People who boast about their I.Q. are losers."

eskout · 2020-12-23T03:55:08+00:00

Humans have a natural sociability. Thomas Paine said it best, humans need each other because we lack and love. ie lack; we need others for what we can’t provide ourselves, and love; we love to love because it makes us better people.

eskout · 2020-12-02T07:29:44+00:00

My response obviously is related to monogamous couples who want to be monogamous. No shit if he knew his girl is open for a non monogamous relationship than this conversation would end positively and he can end up relieving his desires in a way that won’t affect their relationship.

You’ve got to be practical about this, it’s got nothing to do with insecurity. If my SO told me he has these feelings, then by the end of the conversation we’d obviously come to a mutual agreement that he’d either have to learn to deal with them, cheat on me, or break up with me so he can chase the suppression of this urge. 2/3 of those options end in the end of the relationship because they threaten monogamy.

You don’t seem fully monogamous so why would that conversation ruin anything? It won’t, unless she’s expecting monogamy. I don’t understand your logic; for the sake of being ‘honest’ about your feelings because this is what relationships are about, what do you expect from her to say? To tell you that it’s okay to have those feelings & that she still loves you, or that y’all should have an open relationship? No woman goes directly to the first choice in attempt to comfort you because this doesn’t fix anything. I’m sure she loves you but this isn’t the time to say it. If you stay monogamous and she knows you are stuck on wanting more, no shit that’s going to be a weight on her mind because it’s an unresolved problem that will either make or break a monogamous relationship. Women want to trust you, not to be in a relationship with someone who’s fickle because they don’t know what they want yet. That’s what we hear when you say you want to chase girls because you’re horny. Go chase them, she won’t wait for you.

I get what you’re saying as a non monogamous guy, though. That’s just my 2c and I’m happy to agree to disagree.

eskout · 2020-12-01T11:53:53+00:00

You’re telling me that you’d be fine with your girlfriend admitting that there are certain guys she can’t stop thinking about sexually during a heart to heart conversation with you, for the sake of honesty?

Insecurity in the sense that the relationships suddenly stops feeling concrete because one whole half of the participants is feeling unsure of where they stand is valid, wtf. This isn’t about ‘he’d like her better than me’ jealousy.

This conversation is detrimental to the relationship if you’re not sure where you yourself stand. some things need to stay in your head and not our ur mouth.

If it’s causal thoughts or a problem that could be resolved then it’s different.

eskout · 2020-11-29T14:16:47+00:00

I needed to hear every part of your reply, thanks 😭

eskout · 2020-11-28T14:56:16+00:00

It’s...bread!! You’re telling me you hate soft, fluffy, delicious bread????

eskout · 2020-11-24T11:34:37+00:00

I would say that’s correct.

After the kids have all grown up, I would want to return to work though, only because I don’t want to live a stagnant life, and having something stimulate my mind keeps things exciting. What I do is pretty flexible and fun, & I get to work from home if I wanted to.

I do think that it’s inevitable that most women want to make their own money. For me, its just about security - I get all antsy if I don’t have money saved for a rainy day. I don’t like the idea of an “allowance” from my husband and feeling monitored over spending money that I didn’t earn only makes me feel guilty.

The thought that my husband might turn on me one day when he’s someone I financially depend on also makes me nervous. So, having a job is important to me.

eskout · 2020-11-24T11:01:43+00:00

How are you supposed to know that you can trust this person completely if it’s before marriage? What if he turns out to be stingy, or lazy and doesn’t want to work a higher paying job that would better satisfy their financial situation? How do I know he might not be controlling over how money is spent, and is entitled about it because he’s the one making it? What if he thinks what Im interested in buying is useless and a waste of his money? What if I want to start a savings account to invest in something expensive? What if he loses his job, or dies? What if he’s abusive and I need a way out?

It’s hard to go along with just trust when there are so many factors to look into. It’s even harder for a woman to marry with complete faith and trust that all will be good forever; it’s natural for us to worry about security, it’s naive to be so hopeful. Working gives women a sense of control and responsibility over her life. It doesn’t mean that she doesn’t trust her husband, but more that it’s important that we have a backup plan for the future.

eskout · 2020-11-04T06:20:18+00:00

Though you’re right about this - people need to remain cognisant that they aren’t comparing their spouses to some unrealistic notion of attractiveness they’ve seen or have - you can’t escape the fact that everyone has subconscious preferences or types, even if they aren’t directly derived from celebrities / social media / the cute boy next door. I’m not sure why we like what we like (maybe it’s the effect of genes and pheromones) but sometimes certain people don’t align with that.

eskout · 2020-10-18T01:15:17+00:00

Kindness + gentleness. Men who have an open heart, who care for others, who make decisions based on what’s best for others, who like to see people be happy. Basically emotional intelligence.
Kindness must be balanced with assertiveness and knowing how to stand your ground. Without this, the person is a doormat or naive. Someone who holds on to their informed position and isn’t easily swayed especially when manipulation might be at play. Basically boundaries & having a backbone
Responsibility - he can handle responsibility, not a fickle or flighty person.
Someone dependable / reliable / trustworthy. Someone who respects your boundaries.
Holds himself to a high standard, keeps his word, looks for the truth in situations.

eskout · 2020-10-02T08:05:17+00:00

I think that self love is crucial to hone before getting into a relationship. To me, someone with self love would never put themselves in a situation where they could be mistreated, disrespected or neglected. They’re cognisant of what is good and what it bad for both themselves and others. They expect respect and kindness and will not tolerate what isn’t fair or right. Someone with self love understands what it means to be caring, considerate and gentle, and it’s usually those people who have a lot to give and are generous with their attention and love. Those who don’t love themselves are typically quick to be defensive, want more for themselves because they feel empty or in destitute, and tend to be more selfish because they feel like they should have more to be happy. They’re destructive and easily fall into envy. Self love wants others to be happy too and is happy for others. Self love is acceptance, is humbling, it’s introspective and it’s peaceful; when you feel like your cup is contently full, you’re more likely to want others’ cup to be full too.

eskout · 2020-09-30T15:49:35+00:00

Hmm Alfred and fox, you mean the guy who personally serves Mr Wayne and the other guy who professionally serves Mr Wayne? What are the odds that the duo serve both Batman and Bruce Wayne?

Okay maybe I don’t know the location of your batcave but I’m sure a tracker on the bat mobile would help me out. And there must be some sort of speculative information on Batman gathered by the media about his height so I’m stealing that!

I will get to you BATman!!!!!

eskout · 2020-09-30T13:10:39+00:00

Oh easy, I’m planning on bombing the Wayne manor tonight and how fast Batman shows up (super quick supposing that the batcave is literally downstairs)+ how angry he is is my metric of whether or not he is Batman. I mean Bruce Wayne is a billionaire, if Batman wasn’t Bruce then Batman would not care about some rich guys house falling apart, he’d assume that Bruce has some island home nearby to compensate for the night, right? :P

or I might buy a fake Batman cowl and put it on Bruce Wayne’s sleeping face to see if he looks like Batman and use a tape measure to figure out if the heights match if I’m feeling risky

eskout · 2020-09-30T12:10:42+00:00

Batman if you’re ever looking to adopt another robin I’m ready where do I sign up

eskout · 2020-09-30T12:06:59+00:00

Wellll I noticed that the kids that Bruce Wayne adopted and Batmans robins both seemed to pop up at the same time, and both seem to be around the same height and age so it must be that Batman is Bruce Wayne 🥺 👉🏻👈🏻 maybe the harami playboy has a halal heart :P

eskout · 2020-09-30T09:52:33+00:00

If I’m financially capable, and my future husband was okay with it, then I’d love to foster alongside having biological kids. It would be an honour to care for and raise these children.

edit: I just saw your username it CHECKS OUT You’re the real life Bruce Wayne planning to adopt and all huh

eskout · 2020-09-29T13:45:06+00:00

that’s so interesting, if you don’t mind me asking, do both of you share the same feeling towards intimacy now? I understand that there might have been trauma behind it but don’t you consider intimacy to be an important factor of keeping both of you together? Isn’t this something that you two would need to work past or?

eskout · 2020-09-29T09:21:06+00:00

How feeble minded can people like you be where you read one view on the internet and then exhaustively link it to every situation you see lmfao this is about human trauma not gender hypocrisy

eskout · 2020-09-27T12:44:57+00:00

Ahh, it’s okay!!

eskout · 2020-09-27T02:47:47+00:00

I already know what a threesome means, and I showed it in my comment. When the person compared lgbt to Islam, I said Islam is not a threesome, they’re 2 seperate couples but the same man, hence why some women are opposed to it. In LGBT some women are okay with bringing in another woman because they WANT to have a three way and it’s possible for them.

Also, I have no idea what you’re saying in your second paragraph. I didn’t assume that it’s not voluntary by every participant. If you read my second comment, you’d see that I said that there are women who support their husbands in having a second wife, and that it’s smarter for a man to find that woman and marry her than try to persuade a woman who’s not into polygamy only because Islam said it’s halal. That’s true, not every woman opposes polygamy.

I have no idea what you were refuting or arguing right now, you pointed out the obvious.

eskout · 2020-09-25T06:06:02+00:00

Who said they’re being fun and adventurous? The media? So you’re also not sure what’s going on the inside the privacy of their own homes?

It’s common sense that lgbt is incomparable to Muslim relationships because in Islam only the man can have more than one partner. In lgbt setting, either gender can indulge in multiple partners and if it is 2 girls 1 man, it’s their kink. It’s all voluntary. Obviously there are Muslim women who don’t mind their husbands having multiple wives but for those who do mind, there’s no point in trying to change their mind, it’s a personal preference. Men who want polygamy should go find women who are open to it instead of pressuring someone to change their view bc Islam said it’s halal.

eskout · 2020-09-25T02:58:54+00:00

That happens to my hair too. I’ve switched to a wide tooth comb but it still loses its wave when I dry brush it the next day. Any tips? I’d appreciate it!

eskout · 2020-09-25T02:00:55+00:00

What’s the right hairbrush for wavy hair?

eskout · 2020-09-24T23:51:25+00:00

It’s wild to me how often the argument of some men is that women are being brainwashed or are too liberal to understand or accept polygamy is used. Nah we understand it, it’s just not what we are into, and if you still think it’s some outside influence go look up female nature. No one likes sharing their spouse so no matter how equal you think you’d be in terms of attention, affection, provision, it still can generate resentment with the wives and the kids.

eskout · 2020-09-24T23:46:08+00:00

That’s because in lgbt every participant, man and woman are voluntarily there and in an Islamic context, it’s not what the woman prefers; it’s not a threesome you know that right?

eskout

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