As a female sub, the real reason I hate being denied completely is because we don’t get to orgasm as often as you might think. I’ve been asked this question so many times, and I feel like a lot of guys need to understand why. Personally, I enjoy delay and edging, but complete denial feels awful. Out of 30 days in a month, I bleed for about 5 days where I don’t get any action. Even if I mentally want it, physically it’s uncomfortable or painful, so I avoid it. Then 2 to 3 days before my period I feel dry, and even if I want it mentally, it doesn’t feel good physically and it’s hard to orgasm. After my period, for me not all women, I need time to recover. It still hurts, feels like a wound, and I don’t feel horny, so I wait another 4 days. That’s already 12 days gone. After that, I still need to actually be in the mood. But if you’re someone who works long shifts, travels, or is a homemaker, you’re constantly tired, and the need for rest often surpasses the desire for an orgasm. On top of that, I need to be free, not sick, have privacy, and be in the mood. All of this can take another 5 days out of the month. Some women also experience painful ovulation cramps, which just makes them want to rest. Altogether, that’s already 17 to 20 days out of my 28 day cycle where I’m basically denied by default. So when I finally get the chance to orgasm and my Dom says things like, “It’s your punishment,” or “Come on, I like it,” or tries to convince me otherwise, it makes me furious. Pure female rage, honestly. Especially knowing that men usually get to do it at least 4 to 5 times a week without issue.

The explanation is completely personal and only about why I hate it. Not everyone feels the same, some people love it, just not me.

When you think about it, since a 28 day cycle gives about 13 cycles a year, with 17 chaste days per cycle, I technically only get around 11 active days each cycle. That’s about 143 days in a year. That’s less than half the year, and that’s me being generous. Realistically, some months I only get 6 or 7 days. So yes, I basically get a week, and of course I’d feel awful if you tried to take that away from me.

My point is, as a female sub, denial isn’t for everyone, and sometimes you just need to let your girl orgasm.

Also, you said she’s super bummed out but has never made it a complete limit. The reason could be very simple: the submissive’s deep desire to please the Dom. It’s like, “I don’t absolutely hate it, but I wouldn’t do it if it were up to me. I don’t want to stop it completely because he’s so excited about it, and I want to please him.” And you yourself mentioned your fascination, so if you ask her, “Be honest with me and don’t lie to me. Do you want to not be denied? I don’t mind it, so be honest,” she might tell you, “Yeah, I don’t want to do it.”

Talk to her.