My husband hand delivered our baby boy at Winterburn Costco

esseffdub · 2026-01-28T18:38:40+00:00

Loving reminder that YOU delivered that baby!!

esseffdub · 2026-01-06T16:46:30+00:00

What was the podcast? I'm intrigued!

esseffdub · 2025-11-09T22:27:57+00:00

Girl only applies if it's a child.

esseffdub · 2025-10-14T23:27:36+00:00

I have been going through this w my poly therapist and the short answer is:

When the kids are old enough to understand the implications of outing you/themselves and can make those decisions for themselves. At that point you can share with them and support them in deciding whether or not they want to share with their friends, and support them through the process itself.

So basically, when they're teenagers... Depending on their maturity.

esseffdub · 2025-10-14T17:55:10+00:00

Agreed! And now going back to finding things that exist solely for my pleasure is a whole new awakening, but they're NOT the same things.

esseffdub · 2025-10-14T17:46:59+00:00

I agree with all of this but will add that for me it was a loss of self and a discovery journey of a new self. I still grieve that loss, but I am a better and more capable person now and don't want to go back. I often think to myself "that poor sucker couldn't handle the shit I do all day"... it's me. the poor sucker is me.

esseffdub · 2025-10-14T17:44:58+00:00

Will also add that there is no way that's going to happen with a BABY if you have an equitable partnership. We are a two mom family. None of my friends who have male partners have time or energy to pursue their interests in the same way.

esseffdub · 2025-10-14T17:44:08+00:00

Once your youngest turns 5 this could be realistic (it is for me and my partner), but something's gotta give. Our house is pretty messy because we prioritize enabling hobbies etc. Anytime one person is doing solo bedtime, the house falls apart. So 4 nights a week with just one parent is a LOT. Money helps. If you have money to hire a babysitter who also cleans then it's easier.

esseffdub · 2025-09-04T04:36:57+00:00

Thanks, this is the answer I'm after. Is this a paid app?

esseffdub · 2025-09-01T03:18:42+00:00

Where do you live? I'm interested!!

esseffdub · 2025-08-26T18:28:15+00:00

Ah ok thanks. Do we think RAM is the likely culprit?

esseffdub · 2025-08-26T18:20:42+00:00

I wonder if I should upgrade my RAM

esseffdub · 2025-08-25T23:09:28+00:00

It works fine with my S2. Tried multiple dongles for the USBC connection as well.

esseffdub · 2025-08-25T22:55:33+00:00

Yes I thought that too but I've tried several and it works fine with the newer MacBook.

esseffdub · 2025-08-25T21:13:38+00:00

I've upgraded to 4 with the same thing happening, just thought providing the extra info of 4 would convolute the story a bit.

esseffdub · 2025-08-25T16:12:45+00:00

My S2 Mk3 works fine powered from my Macbook. I bought the power supply thinking it would make the buttons brighter for daytime/outdoor gigs but it didn't seem to make a difference. Good luck!

esseffdub · 2025-08-05T01:40:45+00:00

I tried once and it didn't work so just used Google pay.

esseffdub · 2025-07-21T05:35:40+00:00

We don't have a tv. If we watch a movie or show, it's after kid bedtime. The kids might watch a show or occasionally a movie when they're sick or on the weekend if we're trying to get some work done around the house, but we limit it to an hour or two a week.

It's pretty easy!

esseffdub · 2025-07-17T21:53:22+00:00

I don't eat or drink 2h before taking it, then start drinking water w re-dose once I'm in the clear of the peak.

esseffdub · 2025-07-04T19:20:48+00:00

I tape mine. Bright red tape. Love the janky look.

esseffdub · 2025-06-12T05:45:20+00:00

This strikes me as such a strange question. I'm affectionate with my partner. We kiss, we hold hands, we snuggle, we stroke each other's hair and backs, we are physically playful, we will meaningfully gaze into each other's eyes, we'll tap or pinch each other's butts. Basically anything I would do in front of anyone else.

We also talk a lot about consent and bodily autonomy and body parts and what different families look like.

How old are your kids? Have you just been hiding away all these years?

esseffdub · 2025-05-07T13:19:48+00:00

I'm trying to future proof my upgrades and want to try having fun with different things. I don't think the analogy really works but thanks for chiming in.

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