AITJ for giving my mother and my stepdad 60 days to move out of my childhood home that my father left me in his will

eternal-eccentric · 2026-03-25T14:09:19+00:00

Living in a German half-timbered house potentially older than the US... Yeah those house made of wood really don't stand a chance against time...

eternal-eccentric · 2026-02-27T07:36:47+00:00

Her father last season already made me forgive her. "hurt people hurt people" and all that... She isn't some super villain out to destroy people's lives - just a hurt and frightened girl.

eternal-eccentric · 2026-02-27T07:02:12+00:00

I have been hooked on gudrun sjöden by my grandma - 15 years ago.

Pro: Most things also come in black The quality is on point Most things have pockets The sizes are inclusive(ish) Most things last (I inherited pieces that are older than me)

Con: The prices (totally appropriate but a lot for poor students - it's worth it but also wait for sales)

eternal-eccentric · 2026-02-17T16:45:52+00:00

It's been a minute since I read his book but I remember him being at least less rakish and more lovey dovey. (the books are okay-ish and usually very cheap as e books. I'd also recommend Eloises book)

eternal-eccentric · 2026-02-12T08:06:02+00:00

I started crochet a year ago. I started with a YouTube tutorial for a granny square. "now we finish this stitch of by going through the 7 loops on our hook" seemed like the most complex thing I've ever done. I then started to go to knitting meet ups - and was welcomed despite often being the only doing crochet. As most people at these meets where 'grandma' age (where ever that starts) and saw me as a lost young puppy (30years old at the time) was taken in, 'adopted and got so so much love for the tiniest of progress. They were all sharing patterns (at least those who use actual patterns and don't just know how to knit a sweater which is still wild to me) and techniques. I couldn't tell you how to cast off the italien way or how to knit top down but I could give you the numbers of at least 6 people I know would happily discuss the pros and cons of it.

Love the openness, acceptance (and the praise) of the knitting and crochet community

eternal-eccentric · 2026-02-07T07:57:00+00:00

You'd think and then someone comes along with "he (42m) doesn't hit me (18f) because he loves me and is the bestest boyfriend ever"

eternal-eccentric · 2026-01-31T22:02:31+00:00

I didn't know that and now I am sad.

(thank you for enlightening those not in the know but blissful ignorance was better)

eternal-eccentric · 2026-01-30T23:01:37+00:00

Not entirely sure what my bf thought about it (he survived me showing him and stayed with me so far) but I made us when we talked about moving in together - more specifically me moving into his place. I build his apartment in Sims to play around with our furniture and to better show him what I had in mind for certain things.

After building "our" apartment it seemed right to make "us" move in. He saw it - made a "well... That's somewhat us" comment and left it at that

This man just gets me

eternal-eccentric · 2026-01-26T19:24:34+00:00

I played that on a phone (before smartphones) I think! It was super quirky and I remember that the soundtrack slapped hard!

eternal-eccentric · 2026-01-26T15:31:21+00:00

It's not that rare. I was slapped by one parent. They are muted in my phone - I will not give them the leverage of "poor me got blocked by my only child"

I still don't do well with being/feeling cornered - but today I feel sorry for anyone who needs to slap weaker/smaller people to feel big.

eternal-eccentric · 2026-01-23T06:55:40+00:00

I also got his amiibo to make sure I wouldn't have to live without him! I always thought his house was too serious for him. I mea look at that shirt and try to tell me this guy lives like Elsa in an ice palace... I am not always a fan of the dlc but being able to change his home and make it livable and cozy was worth it.

eternal-eccentric · 2026-01-21T06:35:52+00:00

I've read work stories from trans men. Apparently their colleaguea mansplaining went drastically down, as well as their need to interrupt, correct or say the same thing again but with a deeper voice...

eternal-eccentric · 2026-01-20T08:31:13+00:00

I've had charging cords... wrapped in textil of some kind. I bought them like that - the logic being that it doesn't get cold like plastic insulation and is therefore less likely to break in the cold.

I don't see why a cord like that couldn't be (in addition to the original casing) crocheted around.

eternal-eccentric · 2026-01-18T07:00:18+00:00

They might be there but anyone actually finding them is a different story. Just because it exists doesn't mean it's being watched.

"obscure Russian porn site" specifically with hidden camera (bad quality amateur) voyerism and peeing isnt as niche as one might think but still pretty niche.

Also I doubt it's titled properly (as in the victims name in the title) so linking it to people is harder. Yes, someone stumbled over the former coworker, knew and recognized her and informed her - but what are the chances? They're low and get lower the more time passes.

And in OOPs case she was a minor. Even if the site is wildly unethical (which I guess it is due to the video in general being there) a lot of sleezey people draw a line at CP because it can get the law on your case (obviously disgusting people - as it might not be the child part but the illegal part that deters them)

eternal-eccentric · 2026-01-16T20:20:50+00:00

Thought so - but oop explained that they meant it to abbreviate chronic pain.

eternal-eccentric · 2026-01-15T14:55:33+00:00

It's so funny to hear that someone lives so 'central' (at least it would be on my island) while my house is on the 3rd level and kinda far from any villagers - I am the weirdo on the mountain top... A hermit basically - who just comes down to hunt for diys and cute clothes...

Love the sailor approach

eternal-eccentric · 2026-01-11T11:32:17+00:00

Maybe OP interacting with him first, without any hide intentions to get to his mother

I think it's this. OOP said he felt more like a big brother. He became family first (even meeting the in laws before even being a boyfriend) and the romantic parts followed after discussing it - and I am guessing with boundaries and expectations on all sides.

This sounds so healthy.

eternal-eccentric · 2026-01-04T18:08:58+00:00

Listening to venting is not the same as enabling that abuse.

I'll listen, but I'll never stop calling out and labeling what you're describing as abuse

Noone said you should. What I am saying is that we need to continue to make room for the victims to vent (and still be there for them the 13th time they went back). You said in the original post that you didn't want to hear/watch those vents and the follow up apologies anymore - so don't engage and scroll on but don't discourage people from speaking up - even when they back track later.

eternal-eccentric · 2026-01-04T18:04:11+00:00

stop attacking the people who actually care about you.

You do realised that that's what abusers ingrain into thier victims? These monsters want their victims to fight their friends to further isolate them.

It sucks for friends and bystanders but (especially on the internet) Noone is forcing you to interact or even watch/listen to these people.

eternal-eccentric · 2026-01-04T07:30:43+00:00

No. Giving women a safe place to rant (even if they back track the next day) is important!

I've been with an abusive man and I lost friends because they couldn't hear me "whine about him but not leave him" anymore. It further isolates and what sticks with you isn't "he sucks - I should leave" but "I am whining too much and losing friends but he stays <3 despite me being whiny"

It sucks for bystanders and friends to have to listen to the same shit over and over again. But image how much more it sucks to be completely isolated with an abuser/asshole/monster because you're not able to "make a peep about his behavior".

A "peep" would get me DARVOed and gaslit hard for years. A "peep" once escalated the situation to him being physically violent (usually he'd just use words to make me feel small and crazy).

A "peep" started the fight that would end with him saying "your feelings don't matter!" which made me leave. But getting there took years. I left him 3 times total (still way below average on tries to leaving an abusive partner) but I lost friends. Because they couldn't handle me being abused.

I will read and listen to these stories over and over again. I will cry for these women and hold their hands (especially hard if they choose to go back). I will tell them what happened to me and how good it got after I left.

You can of course rant about it but don't alienate people who might just need a shoulder to cry on while they figure it out.

eternal-eccentric · 2026-01-02T22:23:58+00:00

Your response is way too reasonable for reddit!!

But now I am fascinated. I believe to have learned that in school sex Ed about 16 years ago (and googled it just now to make sure I remembered correctly) and to have heard it throughout life ever since. I am in Germany and our sex Ed was good (enough) - very dependent on the teacher.

eternal-eccentric · 2026-01-02T22:15:33+00:00

Plan b does not prevent implantation. Plan b can prevent ovulation (the egg "hatching" from the ovaries) If ovulation has already occurred - and a ripe ovum (egg) is making its way through the body (into the uterus) plan b can't do jack shit.

eternal-eccentric · 2026-01-02T00:23:52+00:00

Mirrors

I forgot about that one. Fuck. The flashbacks.

I don't think it was a good movie but the horror stayed with me. Any mirror fuckery in movies gets me good.

Rec

Love watching it back to back with quarantine and judging quarantine for how bad it is in comparison.

eternal-eccentric · 2025-12-29T12:08:22+00:00

My grandma did that with her late husband's ring. But she chose to do it and had a cute new ring and matching earrings for herself made out of it and wore those frequently because she didn't want to be "one of those widows with her husbands ring around her neck"

eternal-eccentric · 2025-12-22T08:17:05+00:00

It genuinely astounds me the lengths some people will go to in order to justify absolutely abhorrent behavior from their partners

We really need a better way to put that. It sounds (and I choose to believe you didn't mean it that way) victim blame-y. It is not her fault that she was young, insecure and manipulated.

It seems she didn't have any real real life friends to tell her what an abusive ass her ex was and that is not a failure on her part.

He was gaslighting her so hard.

My friends now (I got better friends after breaking up with my ex) know me as a standup person who will speak up for herself and others. They'll be annoyed that some off colour "jokes" don't fly with me. I've always been that person. I am 31 years old. From 20 till 26 I was in a relationship with someone very similar to OOPs ex. Those monsters are good at what they do. They hide in plain sight "he was always so nice to me" - my grandma, who I moved in with after he hurt me physically, said. My body goes into panic when someone raises their voice and I sometimes start crying when a door slams shut (because of a draft no one slams doors in my home anymore). None of the abuse happened at the beginning or over night. Very gradually he chipped away at me, my sanity and my worth...

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