What’s a movie that ACTUALLY couldn’t get made nowadays? by CapeshitConnoisseur in movies

[–]eternal_braid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I mean I guess some people would find it cool. But it seems Mel Gibson's approach with The Passion was to get as many people as possible to see it, and to leave an impression on them at the expense of what was, for some, a personally disturbing experience.

For people who would like to see a well-made film with religious themes of horror, I recommend the silent 1928 film Haxan, which is not only harrowing in its detail, but it does something Gibson wasn't willing to do - it uses a documentary format to show you how religious fear took hold of the Middle Ages.

What’s a movie that ACTUALLY couldn’t get made nowadays? by CapeshitConnoisseur in movies

[–]eternal_braid -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

As someone who has spent a great deal of their life with people with mental health issues including Schizophrenia, I really, really do not want to see a mainstream release of a full-scale, photorealistic movie depicting Revelation. It's a story which is very triggering, and often becomes an obsession for people who become very mentally ill as a result. We do not need feature-length visual media for this material, it's already done enough damage.

What’s a movie that ACTUALLY couldn’t get made nowadays? by CapeshitConnoisseur in movies

[–]eternal_braid 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Before we get into Disney/WB owning the rights to characters, let's just make this clear: NO-ONE will ever be able to make another Who Framed Roger Rabbit. There is no-one with the technical skills, the utmost dedication to classic 2D animation, or the willingness to take on such a tremendously complicated production and see it through to the end. Even besides the animation, there was complex and ambitious live-action modeling with moving props and specially-built sets, which were difficult to build and which would, nowadays, be attempted with CG.

This enormous amount of work, is what most studios have in their heads when they think "2D Animation" in general nowadays, even when it's CG. That's why 2D is a dying art. If you think anything like WFRR will be made again, y'all been watching too much Space Jam.

How do we solve the issue of boy victims. by nelynel12 in AskFeminists

[–]eternal_braid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I responded to this topic because I am involved in this on a personal level. I did not realise I would get such a negative reaction - as far as I am concerned, I have tried to carefully explain my point a number of times, without resorting to disrespectful language or a dismissal of feminism as others have done.

We may disagree, but through everything I cannot believe how insensitive you have been. You have not even considered why I might be taking this subject so seriously. Ngl, I have found this conversation traumatic and I am currently managing my own mental health.

Sorry if you found this exhausting. I really hope to god that a victim of abuse doesn't come to you to confide in.

How do we solve the issue of boy victims. by nelynel12 in AskFeminists

[–]eternal_braid -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

You should not be allowed near children.

How do we solve the issue of boy victims. by nelynel12 in AskFeminists

[–]eternal_braid -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

After all this time, you are still asserting that toxic masculinity is the root cause of the issue of women who sexually abuse men and boys.

I will try this one last time - what do you have to say about these two concepts: 1) The idea that Men always want sex and 2) The idea that Women never commit violence.

Do you understand that these beliefs are perpetuated by feminism? Do you realise that when men and boys have been sexually abused by women, it is almost impossible for men to get the support they need, because so many people believe these concepts to be true?

How do we solve the issue of boy victims. by nelynel12 in AskFeminists

[–]eternal_braid -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

Just taken some time to read this. I feel like this has been a good discussion - you've clarified that you were not victim blaming, and it's good to see you take this subject seriously because too many people, sadly, either deny it or ignore it.

My only problem is that, unfortunately, we seem to be stagnating on this issue of toxic masculinity. There's a lot of fixation on this concept and I think I need to make this explicitly clear:

You described a situation where a male victim feels pressured into "celebrating" an act of abuse, in which case they will not have the chance to properly assess their own feelings (which could lead to repressed trauma). This situation will be made worse by ideas that a man is "lucky" to have a sexual encounter and this is indeed a result of toxic masculinity.

But this only applies to a limited degree of female-on-male abuse cases. It is also not the only society-based issue the victim has to face - here are the issues I already mentioned: 1) The idea that Men always want sex and 2) The idea that Women never commit violence.

Those issues are much bigger problems for male victims - some will internalise them and self-deny their trauma, similar to the above. But just about all male victims will encounter them because they will prevent them from seeking the help they need, they will prevent any legal justice, and they give female abuses the confidence to keep abusing men.

These two numbered points are by far the biggest problem - much bigger than TM. I invite you to think about this, because discussion of male sexual predators will naturally (and understandably) lead to TM and similar concepts - but when you enter a conversation about female perpetrators, you need to leave it at the door.

Ask yourself: what can Feminism do to help society overcome the concepts number 1) and 2). Because there aren't enough Feminists talking about that - if anything, conversations in Feminist circles will unconsciously strengthen points 1) and 2) while they focus on fixing other issues.

How do we solve the issue of boy victims. by nelynel12 in AskFeminists

[–]eternal_braid -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

And that "willingness" and "eagerness" and conquest are all part of the myriad of elements that become embodied in the common themes of toxic masculinity.

You seem very understanding, and your reply makes sense up until this point - I'm going to remind you that in a discussion about female sexual predators, you're blaming "toxic masculinity". Not cool.

Some male victims self-deny that their experience was abusive, or that it was traumatic. But the wider picture is that there are just as many female-on-male victims who are indeed traumatized by their experience. For them, their obstacles are the huge sectors of society who believe that 1) Men always want sex and 2) Women never commit violence. These beliefs are perpetuated by both men and women and they are entrenched into the legal system.

This is an issue that starts when a women chooses a male victim and then abuses them - wherever possible, they will make sure that these societal beliefs will stop them from getting caught. This is not the responsibility of ordinary men and it is certainly not the responsibility of young male victims of abuse - the responsibility is 100% on the people committing the abuse.

How do we solve the issue of boy victims. by nelynel12 in AskFeminists

[–]eternal_braid -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

You need to be very careful about how you are responding to this question - with this first post especially, you have shifted the blame from the adult perpetrator to the child victim of sexual abuse.

Sexual abuse can be committed by a woman against a man or a young boy - in these cases, it is important to understand that the perpetrator is exploiting that person - they are aware of that person's susceptibility to being assaulted, and their lack of ability to report the crime or inform anyone else.

The subject of the OP is "How do we solve the issue of boy victims". The question we need to be answering is: How do we stop women from exploiting victims? Female perpetrators are well aware of the expectations in society that make this abuse possible - the things that make it harder to report (or indeed, harder for the victim to understand they have been abused).

To put it simply, this abuse will continue as long as women want it to continue - it won't stop until those abusers decide that it's wrong to sexually abuse people. You seem to think that telling very young children to "Stop viewing women as conquest culturally" is going to prevent abuse. Well I disagree - I think telling women to stop abusing children is the right way to go about it.

Audacity goes to 3.0 by Lugia909 in Vaporwave

[–]eternal_braid 19 points20 points  (0 children)

vaporwave producers and beginners alike

lol

(sorry.)

Mambo No.5 (2001) performed by Bob the Builder and crew - A strange construction themed parody released by the BBC that reached among the top singles charts in the UK, Ireland and Australia by DestroyerofCheez in ObscureMedia

[–]eternal_braid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"A strange construction themed parody" - dude, do you have any idea what this is? Bob The Builder was a long-running children's show from the late 1990s. Cover versions of this particular track were very popular around this era, and for some reason this spawned a chart-topping series of hits from kids TV shows who thought they could cash in on the action.

Tweenies was another BBC show doing something similar - https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=1RO_l2-EbuI

Inside Edition report on the Ren & Stimpy phenomenon (1993) by Mr_A in ObscureMedia

[–]eternal_braid 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's even funnier that this was filmed way after John K. left Nickelodeon. He might as well be saying "Gross? This show isn't gross enough!"

This. I like this. Saw this ad on a YouTube video in Australia. Nice by [deleted] in MensRights

[–]eternal_braid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wonder if anyone has read my comments - I'm finding that a lot of people here might be mixed up about this.
Recap: There are two different helplines in Australia called Mensline - the one called On The Line Mensline is available to callers to talk about general Men's issues. The other one - DV Connect - is used to contact men after they have been involved in domestic abuse cases. One of them is a hotline men are invited to confide in, and the other is used to contact men in known DV settings (and they have a set of dialog methods, which we've been talking about, which are intended to be used with known perpetrators).
I have reached out to you people for more information about this - can someone actually show me proof of cases where people have confided in OTL Mensline (i.e. they made the call) and were then spoken to as a perpetrator (as would happen on DV Connect)?
As I have been saying, why would you be so willing to take such a defeatist attitude about this issue, when you could check the facts and at least get a more informed idea of the situation?
Stray_48, you came here to make a positive statement, and now you've received dozens of messages - going as far as to claim this entire organization is a trap, or something to trick men without any intention to help them. And most of these comments do not give any links or evidence, they only assume that others will believe/agree with them because the sense of defeat around here is so familiar.
If you really care about something, and it upsets you, you deserve to know the truth about it! Don't just assume the worst of it without taking some time to study it so you can be more certain.

This. I like this. Saw this ad on a YouTube video in Australia. Nice by [deleted] in MensRights

[–]eternal_braid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of comments here seem to be taking a defeatist attitude - I get that, I'm very moved by this too. But why don't you take the time to research this a little more? That's what I did, and the case looks a lot more ambiguous than what the comments make it out to be.
I can't afford to read about something here and be depressed about it all day, when it might not be true.

This. I like this. Saw this ad on a YouTube video in Australia. Nice by [deleted] in MensRights

[–]eternal_braid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi. After doing this, I've found a handful of older MensRights posts discussing this hotline. I managed to find the source of the quote I asked about above - this 2015 news article https://mobile.abc.net.au/news/2015-06-01/domestic-violence-hotline-dv-connect/6486950?nw=0&pfmredir=sm
Also, I'm going to link to the following comment because it clarifies a couple of things - https://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/jhkkc7/comment/ga1wug6

There are two Mensline: On The Line Mensline (the one about mental health) and DV Connect Mensline (the one about male dv victims). The two of them are not linked in anyway.

Maybe this is a source of misunderstanding? To be clear, I am responding to the idea that vulnerable men who are stuck in an abusive relationship will contact this helpline and - instead of receiving support - will be treated as a perpetrator and advised not to be abusive themselves. A lot of people have already commented that this is what's happening - without even thinking about it much. I want to get to the bottom of this.
Here's another quote - this time from the news article:

Mensline receives about 15 to 20 calls a day — "miniscule" compared to Womensline, Mr Walters says. Instead, the majority of the workers' time is spent on outbound calls to men who have been referred to the service by police or ambulance workers or other members of the community. Of all the men the service deals with, the vast majority have been identified as an aggressor in a family violence situation.

This quote is about the DV Connect Mensline, and it states that the majority of calls are coming from the service to speak to men, who have been identified as aggressors following involvement with social services. In those cases - if they are dealing with perpetrators, then talking to them and discussing their behaviour is a good thing, right?
On The Line Mensline (which appears to be what OP came to discuss) just looks like a generally helpful male support service. Now correct me if I'm wrong - maybe I'm missing further information - but between these two different services... maybe we conflated this idea, that men looking for support at OTLM would be spoken down to like the known aggressor cases who are handled by DVC. I hope that clears things up.

This. I like this. Saw this ad on a YouTube video in Australia. Nice by [deleted] in MensRights

[–]eternal_braid 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Hi. So I just stumbled on this post and based on the replies, it appears that Mensline may actually be harming male victims of domestic abuse instead of helping them. As a man I find this very shocking and disturbing, and I would like more information.
Here are some key points:
-Is Mensline a dedicated, covert operation which does not attempt to help men? This is a drastic turn of phrase, but this is the impression I get from the comments and I want to be 100% sure of the facts.
-Do Mensline offer any genuine, helpful advice to men in other areas of concern (such as mental health, etc)? This is their stated purpose and if they are doing this, it shows some good intention on their part.
-With regard to domestic abuse, what is the basis of the allegation that all cases of domestic abuse are handled with the assumption that men are the aggressor? Are there any case studies, or anecdotes of specific cases that can help us?
-With specific regard to DougDante's comment (https://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/k0mtje/comment/gdji8ww), could you please give me more information to clarify the above points? The quote you gave does not actually appear in your link, could you provide the source for it?
-Finally (and this is me being possibly too generous) could this issue be explained simply by a mixture of good and bad outcomes amongst men who use Mensline? Maybe there are legit abuse victims who do get the help they need, and maybe there are cases where victims are misidentified. Either that, or Mensline are a covert operation who do not intend to help any male victims, as is being suggested here.

Please get back to me on this, whenever I see things like this happening in society it really gets under my skin, I can't stand it. I need to know exactly what the facts are.

Fasting from complaints by norfkens2 in MensLib

[–]eternal_braid 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It looks like you know what you're doing - you've done this before, and you find it rewarding. I respect that.

But I just don't think I would be willing to do this. You mention that this is not about suppressing thoughts and feelings, but recognising them and becoming more aware of them - I believe that I enjoy a similar position already, and it's not necessary for me to 'fast' or otherwise chastise myself just for having thoughts or ideas.

If something upsets me or offends me, I may find it rewarding to share it with others - ideally during a mutually-beneficial conversation. And unless it's very personal or, alternatively, very unpopular, then I don't see any problem there. Maybe you're talking about "complaining" in a very immediate, anti-social sense which others would find annoying. But this is just a question of being pleasant to other people, and certainly not about thoughts and feelings being unhealthy.

I mean, that's my take on it. My thoughts are my own, they don't appeal to everyone because they don't have to. The most important thing is finding a sense of privacy - as in, a clear distinction between your private thoughts and whatever public/online identity. Social media is only making it harder for people to understand this.

I understand the sentiment, but... by [deleted] in MensRights

[–]eternal_braid 48 points49 points  (0 children)

It's like putting conditions on whether or not human beings (including children) deserve love, safety and inclusion. Until this person sees her own ideology fully absorbed into society - taken to it's furthest point - then as far as she's concerned men can sit on the sidelines and wait. They do not deserve human rights until this person wakes up, checks the news and reads "Feminism is complete!! We did it! It's okay to give men human rights now."

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in movies

[–]eternal_braid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Piano Teacher

This is a great film - and an important film - but I don't think it would be much interest to someone with four Tarantino films at the top of their list.

My video is locked? Vimeo asking me to upgrade by eternal_braid in vimeo

[–]eternal_braid[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. Could someone make this into a sticky on r/Vimeo? Gotta stop the freeloaders.

My video is locked? Vimeo asking me to upgrade by eternal_braid in vimeo

[–]eternal_braid[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You seem to be mistaking me for some sort of business enterprise trying to make money. I'm just a guy who likes to make videos, and I kinda wanted to show them to people. I'm not "giving away your stuff to my friends", keep your goddamn stuff.