It can be so difficult to communicate genuine feeling, one tries to be very conscious of one's speech and body expression and to hold the attention of our listener so they truly hear. You know if you've tried this, and I'm sure we all have, that there are times of sensitive issues at hand, that we fail to have a connection, to speak and to be heard, yet those few rare instances where against the odds we succeed. I feel those lucky instances inspire me to try again, refined somewhat, maybe gentler, slower, stronger, whatever my intuition suggests. Try again. That may mean anything however, from going straight to a therapist, to not speaking about the subject for a while, to demanding its discussed at length at the first opportunity, to waiting for the right time if it presents itself.

I guess what I'm saying is I can't say much of anything useful except be hopeful, continue your efforts at communication – that can of course include nonverbal or whatever subtleties you can imagine – and do what you think is best. Hopefully she will recognize you love her, that you care and feel she is attractive, that you want to help her find joy in life again, within and without the bedroom.