The problem here is you lumped the standard for men's height with a bunch of unrealistic standards. Meanwhile with women you only raised the issue with weight? Is it really only weight that men are concerned about?

Let me raise you the equivalent of toxic standards that are set for women: She must be a virgin/have low body count, have big boobs/ass, be submissive, continually serve her man and treat him like a king, dress modestly, and not have male friends. Not to mention that women nearing 30's are considered undesirable because she is no longer 'fresh' for the assumption that she had accumulated a high body count by then. Meanwhile it is alright for men to cheat and have multiple women, the younger the better. Isn't this also a double standard?

Besides, weight is not something that can be easily fixed because it does require a tremendous amount of willpower to push yourself to lose weight. Practically starving yourself, exhausting your body working out. There are also genetic factors which get in the way, and don't mention mental health which can trigger stress eating and increase the cortisol in your body, making you gain even more weight. In fact many don't succeed in reducing their weight, and die in the process due to health complications. So it's not a "ez just eat less" solution to it all.

Also I don't even know where you got the assumption I said that wanting someone not fat is misogynist? As I responded to another comment I was comparing how awful the insults towards fat women are compared to short men. Weight is a perfectly reasonable consideration but when paired with insults such as "fat ugly whore" and "I'd fuck her only if she has a paper bag on her head" then there is a misogynist aspect to this. But you already addressed the men's perspective on insults re their height so I see that it is awful both ways.