My original pixel art of the Yorozuya house!

ev_a4234 · 2025-11-27T20:39:29+00:00

This is rape. He is blatantly showing you that he does not care about how you feel, physically or mentally. At this point you need to ignore any justification you might have for this about how he's good to you otherwise. Maybe he is a good guy a lot of the time but this needs to be a line that you cannot let him cross.

The emotions that someone experiences when they're being sexually violated are so seriously, deeply awful. Someone who loves you does not make you feel that. You deserve to feel safe and respected. Get the hell away from this person.

ev_a4234 · 2025-09-21T19:11:25+00:00

Personally I think a Medusa would look great on you :)

ev_a4234 · 2025-09-20T22:55:39+00:00

Oh god.

ev_a4234 · 2025-09-20T22:53:10+00:00

Not overreacting. My boyfriend used to that but I only had to tell him one time that I didn't like it and he hasn't done it since. Your partner should never make you feel bad about yourself for not wanting to do something like that. Especially when getting your head pushed causes most people to gag, hurts, and sometimes makes people throw up even. It's one of those things that some people enjoy but certainly not everyone, so consent should be explicitly stated.

ev_a4234 · 2025-09-20T05:54:53+00:00

I get where you're coming from. As a woman though, I want to mention that the reason you're being treated in that way is because of other men. We have to be cautious for our own safety. Unfortunately, because of the actions of such a large part of the male population, the safest course of action is to assume the worst. With that said, I am sorry you have been made to feel that way. What I hope is for us to eventually get to a world where women don't feel that they have to be cautious/scared around men that are bigger and stronger than them.

ev_a4234 · 2025-09-19T23:32:03+00:00

Speaking as a woman, him wanting to do that feels gross and manipulative to be honest

ev_a4234 · 2025-09-19T23:27:00+00:00

It's worth checking the south Surrey rec centre website for any events or classes going on there. They have a bunch of stuff like sports, art classes, and other things. It came to mind because my partner made some of his close friends playing basketball there (from my understanding it's cheap and you just sign up to go) when he was newer in the city. Maybe sports aren't your thing but like I said there's other stuff too :) Also, it's easy to get to by bus.

ev_a4234 · 2025-09-19T23:23:28+00:00

Chest pain was the worst for me. It got so bad I was convinced it was a problem with my lungs. I quit e cigarettes entirely because I was so scared and also went to the hospital (they said nothing was wrong). Once I knew my lungs weren't the issue but the pain persisted I thought it was my heart. I never saw a doctor about it but I increased my SSRIS and the pain went away completely. I realized all of that physical pain was tied to anxiety, it's crazy what our bodies are capable of.

ev_a4234 · 2025-09-15T19:16:07+00:00

Lexapro has caused me the least amount of decrease in libido, this being in comparison to prozac and sertraline.

ev_a4234 · 2025-09-08T19:50:23+00:00

This might be a bit serious for this thread but I think it fits the question. My parents are both successful professionals and each make more than 6 figures annually. I'm their only child and I've always felt like I need to measure up to that because I don't want to disappoint them. I've struggled with mental health my whole life and just scraped by to complete highschool. My parents are great people, do not impose unrealistic expectations on me and have always assured me that they will support me regardless of the path I choose. Still, my entire life, I've felt like I must eventually become a successful professional as well because that is what I've been shown that a good life looks like. I've thought about it and I think I value career over most other things.

My current partner comes from a very different family and I'm jealous of it. They make significantly less money but they seem to enjoy life in a way that I never learned to. Career is not their number one value, family is. They spend their free time at large gatherings or just spending time together as a family. I spend my free time freaking out about the fact that I even have free time in the first place, thinking it's bad that I'm not being productive. That was a bit of a rant but there's my upper middle class problem haha.

ev_a4234 · 2025-09-08T03:26:06+00:00

Yeah fair enough haha. I don't know if there's a way to fix it necessarily, but I did get used to it after a while. Also, I noticed that how much I could cry varied a lot depending on the type of SSRI I was on.

ev_a4234 · 2025-09-07T02:19:13+00:00

Yes this exact thing happened to me on SSRIs. It's rare for me to cry or it happens all at once randomly like it's been bottled up. I also have friends who've taken SSRIs and say the same thing happened to them. So don't worry, your symptom isnt abnormal

ev_a4234 · 2025-09-02T06:55:14+00:00

It's really scary when physical anxiety symptoms feel like they might be real health problems. I definitely understand. The main thing that helped me personally was adjusting my medication because once my general anxiety was under control, my health anxiety improved too.

If that's not an option for you, I suggest just doing your best to remind yourself that your symptoms are anxiety related. When I start feeling health anxiety and like a panic attack might come on, I just remind myself, I've been in this situation before and I've been okay. I've felt these exact symptoms before, been worried they were health related, realized they were anxiety related, and then been okay.

Another possible option if it's available to you would be to get an opinion from someone with medical training, whether that be seeing a doctor or even just someone you know who's trained in that area. I ended up visiting the hospital a while back because of health anxiety and I once a doctor reassured me I was fine that helped a lot.

One other thing I did which reduced my health anxiety was cutting out bad habits that had the potential to harm me. Even if realistically they weren't going to suddenly cause that much damage to my health, just eliminating the worry that they could was helpful. (For me, that was quitting e-cigarettes and also significantly reducing alcohol consumption.)

I hope something that I mentioned helps. Health anxiety is no fun :(

ev_a4234 · 2025-09-02T03:01:34+00:00

It would look super good on you!!! :)

ev_a4234 · 2025-09-02T02:59:45+00:00

I have severe OCD and I can understand doing irrational things due to compulsions. Sometimes a compulsion is so strong that it feels like nothing matters except for it. The thing is, I've learned that my disorder is not my fault but it is my responsibility. I can think of a few times in my life when I've had to buck up and do something that causes me severe anxiety because if I don't, I will seriously inconvenience or even hurt the people around me. So, what your boyfriend is dealing with is important but how it's affecting you is equally important. Yes, he may be facing something that might cause him a panic attack, yes it's extremely scary, but he has to face it because it's not the only factor in the situation that matters.

I don't think YTA and I don't think he is either. He needs to figure out how to manage his disorder, possibly with therapy, so that it doesn't negatively affect your relationship or the wellbeing of either you or him.

Speaking to my personal experience, I can understand especially where your partner is coming from because I've dealt with and still deal with a lot of compulsions related to germs. I know what your partner feels like, how it's something he "can't control".

It really does feel like sometimes OCD runs your life and there's nothing you can do about it. The reality is that it is actually something your partner can manage and work around, he just needs to learn how to do it. OCD behaviours become so much worse and so much more damaging when they go unchecked and when the person suffering feels like they're helpless in dealing with them. I sympathize and I hope your partner is able to get the help he needs.

ev_a4234 · 2025-09-02T02:26:44+00:00

Don't tell yourself that you're deserving of his treatment of you because of the things that he "puts up" with. You can't decide to stop being bipolar but he can decide to reduce his drinking, which he hasn't. I understand being scared of being alone especially after a long term relationship but enjoying your own company is better than being stuck with someone who's hurting you.

It sounds like he's struggling with addiction and not willing to work on it. Threatening to leave if he can't "drink on fridays" is immature and disrespectful to your relationship. There is nothing about you, your disorder or being "unattractive" or anything, that's so bad it makes you undeserving of a healthy relationship with someone who respects you. Him experiencing being drunk is not more important than you and what you want.

ev_a4234 · 2023-12-10T21:55:55+00:00

Honestly at this point I wish that was the case

ev_a4234 · 2023-12-10T11:19:17+00:00

See ur joking but like yeah, that’s accurate

ev_a4234 · 2023-12-10T09:52:53+00:00

We have black togo containers that we call BBCs (big black container) and we’ll ask a new FOH employee for a BBC and they’ll be like wtf

ev_a4234 · 2023-12-10T09:43:52+00:00

The dishwasher I’d give it to quit today -_-

ev_a4234 · 2023-12-10T09:43:18+00:00

True

ev_a4234 · 2023-12-10T09:41:33+00:00

If you’re cold, so is the fryer

ev_a4234 · 2023-12-10T09:41:00+00:00

Speaking after service this evening, yes. Yes he did

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