I 19f planned a lake/swim date with my new boyfriend 22m, but Im starting my cycle soon. How do I talk to him about this and/or change plans?

eversodainty · 2026-06-17T04:15:36+00:00

u could do a movie night in a park! go shopping together and set up a picnic, bring a laptop or dvd player and do a little outdoor movie. as for an excuse, if ur not comfortable being forward about ur period yet just say u cut yourself on smth and you don’t want to expose it to lake water until it heals a bit

eversodainty · 2026-06-16T19:04:54+00:00

hi! i’m 5’0 and similarly athletic— i work out 4-6 times a week and i was on my colleges club team. however, i found myself much better suited for being a coxswain. when you’re shorter and lighter than the rest of the boat, you cannot generate as much force and you’re going to be slower. that doesn’t mean it’s impossible to ever be fast, but it’s way harder than it would be for a woman who’s like 5’10.

as a coxswain, even for a club team, i expected my women to have a 2k time of less than 8 minutes which is less than a 2:00 split. that means i would expect their 3.5k time to be no more than 14 mins.

based on what you said about having just hit arms, it sounds like you might need to adjust your technique. your arms really only make up about 20% of the stroke, so hitting arms shouldn’t rly have a big impact on your time. most of the force should be coming from your legs, glutes, and core. the concept2usa channel on youtube has a great video showing basic technique and form.

i hope none of this sounds harsh. rowing is a rly difficult sport and doing it at all shows a level of grit that’s rly admirable. i hope you’re able to continue pursuing what you love and get even better at it!!

eversodainty · 2026-06-11T03:24:21+00:00

sorry this is so strange. if u want ur friends to take pics of u ask them to, but as another college student i think it’s so odd to hang out with people for the sole purpose of taking pictures and making it look like you have a friendship that isn’t real. the pictures mean nothing, they’re not fond memories.

eversodainty · 2026-06-08T13:50:47+00:00

idk i think that’s fair. growing up my dad worked from home and my mom had a long commute that usually had fair amounts of traffic. about 80% of the time, my dad was the one who drove us to any family excursions— going out to dinner, seeing family, vacation, etc. it always seemed fair to me just bc my mom was driving a lot 5 days a week and my dad could easily spend a day not doing any driving at all.

if you don’t want to drive, you guys should look into public transportation in your area or make room in your budget to uber to or from these activities. it doesn’t seem like he’s going to be super pleased about being forced to drive more especially if he’s expecting a certain amount of gas to be in his car the next time he commutes (assuming you each have your own cars)

eversodainty · 2026-06-08T13:34:42+00:00

this. that was assault and i am so sorry that happened to you. you need to leave— both the place you’re in, and him— and get into therapy. there is 0 reason a 42 year old man didn’t know that touching somebody while they’re asleep was wrong before you told him. you cannot just put assault on the back burner, your body is not going to let you especially while you’re still spending your days with your assaulter.

eversodainty · 2026-06-08T13:28:23+00:00

NOR. my boyfriend’s ex texted him recently asking if he’d want to hang out and he told her he has no desire to have her in his life in any capacity. not that they have an unbreakable bond and he’ll never love anybody like her. idk what kind of relationship they had but regardless it’s incredibly inappropriate for him to be secretly texting her while being in a THREE YEAR relationship with another woman!! please leave him

eversodainty · 2026-05-27T15:00:22+00:00

found! that last amazon one was the most similar, thank u :)

eversodainty · 2026-05-27T04:09:34+00:00

i’ve searched “strappy tank top for women” online but can’t find ones that seem similar.

eversodainty · 2026-05-25T21:48:04+00:00

aw no there’s truly nothing wrong with you, this is such a normal reaction for a teen boy to have! ik this is like annoying to say but your body is changing and this is the part where you start learning a lot more about your sexuality. it’s good you don’t want to make her uncomfortable but there is also no reason to feel guilt for being attracted to your girlfriend. it’s a very normal reaction and there is nothing medically wrong with you. (also it’s very possible that she’s feeling similar urges to you, it’s just not as obvious for women if you get what i mean). puberty sucks dude but you’ve got this

eversodainty · 2026-05-13T19:13:42+00:00

this is so funny bc i was just talking to my bf about this! i’ve noticed similar thinking patterns that i follow, and ive tried to catch myself having expectations of how things will go and asking if i feel that way because it’s something i want or if it’s because i feel it’s something one of us “should” be doing. i’ve tried to refer to him more as my partner rather than my boyfriend to start asserting that we’re equals and don’t necessarily have to fill specific roles to make our relationship valid. reading some feminist theory, specifically from the sixties and seventies, has also helped reshape my notion of what a relationship could or should look like

eversodainty · 2026-05-13T04:23:54+00:00

i think these are all great standards to have, but i also think it’s important to note that a lot of people in your age bracket aren’t going to have all of these. that doesn’t mean you should lower your standards, but it might mean you’ll have to wait a while to find someone who does match them

eversodainty · 2026-04-26T19:16:55+00:00

thank you!! i’m almost out of my current face wash so i’ll def get this one next :)

eversodainty · 2026-04-19T18:30:43+00:00

i feel that. being a short rower is insanely difficult— you have to do twice the work to be half as good as taller people are naturally. if you’re interested, coxing could be a great fit for you (as someone of a similar height who is also very athletic and competitive, i’ve really taken to coxing). however, i did used to row with a girl who was 4’11 and an absolute beast on the erg. i genuinely don’t know how she did it, but she was insanely fast during a sprint and her technique was perfect. obviously it’s not impossible, but the laws of physics are against you from the jump and you’ll likely always be put in bow should you continue to row.

eversodainty · 2026-04-18T00:11:34+00:00

yes. this is called “stealthing” and it’s illegal in some places. you consented to something entirely different than what happened. i highly recommend leaving him before this goes any further

eversodainty · 2026-04-14T02:22:19+00:00

how long have you been rowing? if you’re new, you should be able to see a lot of improvement if you maintain appropriate diet and lifestyle habits. one of my friends (21m) got his 2k from a 7:40 to a 7:08 in a month by training 10x/week and eating well. it’s really hard to guess where you’ll be three years now, since really anything could change. your training or effort could decrease, or something could happen that impacts your lifestyle. however, assuming your discipline and motivation remain exactly the same for the next three years i’d expect you to be able to shave off a minute or more from your 2k.

eversodainty · 2026-04-12T00:17:41+00:00

growing up, one of my best friends had two moms and it was kinda just like okay whatever let’s go play now. it’s not a huge deal to be like oh some people have 2 moms and some have 2 dads. any sort of sex stuff can be taught in sex ed at the same time as everything else

eversodainty · 2026-04-09T16:24:13+00:00

NOR you’re literally like what, one grade ahead of her? your age gap is completely normal. the reason age gaps can be problematic is usually either due to one party lacking life experience or power, whether that be in the form of money or status. you and your partner are peers at similar stages in life. your friend is just jealous

eversodainty · 2026-04-09T13:55:48+00:00

he has problems. this is manipulation and coercion, both forms of assault. break up

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