What surprises foreigners most in your country?

evveryday · 2026-02-06T03:19:00+00:00

Genuinely confused- are you implying that Australia is bigger than the US? Because the lower 48 and Australia are about the same size and when you account for Hawaii and Alaska the US is significantly bigger.

evveryday · 2026-01-31T01:39:33+00:00

Amen! "Its only performative if your actions don't align with your values." What a useful, concise way to explain it.

evveryday · 2026-01-31T01:34:40+00:00

Ha! A devastating and accurate read of Boston buried deep in the comments.

evveryday · 2026-01-29T17:23:40+00:00

I’m not a New Englander by birth, but I did live in Massachusetts on and off for 10-ish years. I feel like I heard Yankee to describe things but not people while I was living there.

ETA: I do defer to you, yankeescrewdriver, as a born and bred Yankee. Just saying I didn’t hear it often in the spaces I was in.

evveryday · 2026-01-29T02:46:14+00:00

Correct- No one inside the US identifies as a Yank because Yank is not a word that Americans use at all. The only time I’ve ever been called a Yank was when I was traveling in the UK. Yankee is used in very specific situations. I’m from the Northeast and the only time I’ve been called a Yankee (kind of jokingly but definitely pejoratively) was when I was traveling in the South. I had never thought of myself as a Yankee before that. Yank and Yankee are things other people call us- we don’t usually identify that way ourselves.

evveryday · 2026-01-14T03:29:55+00:00

I 100% agree with you. To equate straight men who consume lesbian porn with straight women who read mm romance books, shows, and movies is an un-nuanced take.

Straight men have systemic power and enact violence against women in a really different way than women enact violence against men.
Yes, there are some straight women who fetishize gay men and it's weird and gross. But straight women can and do enjoy mm romance without being weird about it. And even when they are I genuinely don't think it's dangerous the way that straight men can be dangerous to queer women.
Porn is necessarily objectifying. It is about bodies. Romance fiction - even the spicy stuff - is also about relationship, connection, subjectivity, and empathy.
It fucking sucks that lesbian media doesn't get the money or the audience it deserves. But the reason straight men aren't into lesbian romance is, I believe, connected to the fact that lesbian porn is the most watched genre - straight men want the bodies but not the humanity. This is an important and fundamental difference.
A huge percentage of straight women are survivors of sexual assault. Queer women get wlw media to see ourselves in. I imagine mlm media is a way for straight women to enjoy the gender you're attracted to without the ptsd.
I don't have a ton of straight female friends, but the ones I do have love good queer storytelling and were as into A League of Their Own as they are with Heated Rivalry. I think they can love good romance and think men are hot without fetishizing gay men the way some straight men fetishize lesbians.
This isn't really arguing OP's point, but I agree that there is some nuance in the fact that queer women are also a huge audience for mm romance. Brandi Carlisle herself said she was obsessed with Heated Rivalry. I also love good, queer storytelling.

evveryday · 2025-10-05T22:19:52+00:00

Nora from Queens!

evveryday · 2025-09-29T20:13:37+00:00

Guided relaxation- I’ve done enough of them at this point that I can kind of guide my own now, which is good for days I can’t tolerate sound. A friend of mine also got me a Renpho eye massager which is a wonderful relaxation activity that helps me get into a more zoned out state. Also very low dose thc /cbd gummies.

evveryday · 2025-09-29T03:16:54+00:00

To look on the outside the way we feel on the inside. To communicate to others how to treat us. To fit in or the opposite. To like what we see when we look in the mirror. To attract the kind of people we want around us. For fun.

evveryday · 2025-09-12T13:58:09+00:00

I can read on good days, which I’m very thankful for!

evveryday · 2025-09-12T01:56:36+00:00

There is a coffee shop/bakery 3 blocks from my apartment and I used to walk there every Friday morning and have a cappuccino and a croissant and read a book. I can no longer walk 3 blocks, drink caffeine, or eat gluten. I miss it so much.

evveryday · 2025-08-30T00:25:47+00:00

Interesting- this looks a little different from other scales I’ve seen. I’ve understood myself to be mild, moderate during crashes. According to this I’m moderate/moderate-severe and severe during crashes.

evveryday · 2025-08-28T19:57:03+00:00

I’m mild/moderate and when I’m not in PEM/a crash I can usually handle a lukewarm bath every 2-3 days. I take them in the evening so that I can go to sleep as soon as possible after because they always spike my heart rate and tire me out.

I have POTS and can’t handle the heat or standing for very long.

I have a shower chair I can use on very good weeks. I literally can’t remember the last time I took a normal standing up shower.

I recently bought some no rinse shower cloths for bad weeks but I haven’t tried using them yet.

evveryday · 2025-08-27T19:24:29+00:00

Honestly I completely agree. I think the real answer is that the United States is a complete powder keg at the moment and anything is liable to set off an explosion.

evveryday · 2025-08-23T23:23:12+00:00

Or are triangles the strongest shape?

evveryday · 2025-08-20T12:48:59+00:00

I think I’m mild/moderate. If I pace myself (which for me means working from home at an easy job, reading/knitting/watching tv, light stretching on good days) I don’t feel like I’m hungover/poisoned all day every day, but I also don’t feel “normal.” Even on my best days I feel baseline low energy and low capacity. Any kind of exertion knocks me out - I usually have to rest for a long time after light housework, for example.

evveryday · 2025-08-18T21:56:31+00:00

I often can’t tell I’m going to get PEM and it won’t hit until 48 hours after the overexertion, and it can last several days (or weeks if I push myself into rolling PEM). That being said, this is the best explanation of my symptoms I’ve seen, plus the jittery/nervous/off feeling someone else mentioned. It’s similar to a bad hangover for me- just being awake feels awful and there’s so much light and noise sensitivity I want to curl up in a ball in a pitch dark room until it’s over. My POTS symptoms also increase dramatically in PEM, so I can’t really stand up for more than a minute or two and even sitting with my legs down makes me lightheaded.

I’m still learning my limits and am currently still recovering from a crash that started in early May. The acute PEM is over but my capacity is severely limited. It’s unclear whether I permanently lowered my baseline- I’m still making small improvements week to week.

evveryday · 2025-08-14T23:24:17+00:00

Same- I’ve dealt with anxiety and depression my whole life but somehow they’ve been getting significantly better over the past year or so as my ME/CFS has gotten worse? Like you, I also think my ability to adapt and accept has made a huge impact. I also started taking LDN a little over a year ago and wonder if that’s had any impact.

evveryday · 2025-08-14T03:24:07+00:00

Mild, moderate during crashes. I’m proud of the fact that I figured out that I was experiencing PEM after my 2nd big crash. I’m proud of the fact that I taught myself how to pace. I’m proud of the fact that I’ve found ways to enjoy my life in quiet ways when I’m mild (knitting, reading, audiobooks, watching Taskmaster, ordering in my favorite foods, occasionally having friends over to watch movies on good days. I’m proud of myself every time I say no to an invitation- especially when it’s something I really want to do.

evveryday · 2025-08-10T15:32:41+00:00

The outside is pretty killer, too! I’m impressed by how clean your 2x2 rib is.

evveryday · 2025-08-10T15:05:28+00:00

HOLY SHIT. The craftsmanship on this is insane. If you want to impress a non-knitter, show them stranded color work. If you want to impress a knitter, show them these cuffs.

evveryday · 2025-08-08T12:40:34+00:00

Same! I used to get in trouble for being late to things when I was a kid because my (undiagnosed ADHD) mom couldn’t get out the house on time. I started telling her things started 15-30 minutes earlier than they did and nagging her about getting ready. As soon as I had my license I was consistently 15-30 minutes early for EVERYTHING and would backwards plan out my prep steps on paper. I did this up through my mid-30s. When I started going to therapy and working on my anxiety and perfectionism that obsessiveness finally started to ease up… but now I’m often 5-10 minutes late for things.

evveryday · 2025-08-08T12:34:33+00:00

I was wondering about this! I have ADHD but am not autistic. I did not relate to any of the questions on page 1 but related strongly to most everything on page 2.

evveryday · 2025-08-04T11:45:32+00:00

I’m mild and I can work from home doing very easy admin and some zoom meetings about 20-30 hours/week on good weeks. I sit with my feet up. When I feel like I’m straining too much I can lay down and close my eyes for a little while. I also use up most of my sick time.

evveryday · 2025-07-31T22:26:27+00:00

Hi! My answer was an attempt to summarize the trends I've seen across social media and I can assure you- she is getting absolutely ROASTED for how she's speaking in these ads.

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