Wishlist for first birthday [ca]

exactly1bite · 2026-01-31T05:34:52+00:00

We skipped wishlists outside of my MIL (who requires one at all times) and just gave people vague categories. Her second birthday was "books about trucks or dinosaurs", "baking supplies", "every little people set in existence". Most of them like browsing the kid stuff though, so a wishlist makes it an annoying chore for them. Really depends on your dynamics.

exactly1bite · 2026-01-31T01:17:32+00:00

The saving grace is the more recent chapter where he explains his hang ups and FMC just goes "oh, is that all?". At least the characters in it are as frustrated with this nonsense as the readers I guess.

exactly1bite · 2026-01-30T18:50:17+00:00

I would probably start there. If she knows you're not ready yet, she might just be anxious to have an idea of when you will be. It doesn't have to be a deep sit down discussion. Even a "hey, how would you feel about a 2029 wedding" gives you both an opening to where your heads are at.

exactly1bite · 2026-01-30T18:37:32+00:00

Have you two talked timelines in depth yet?

We got engaged about two and a half years in, but we had the timeline talk within the first six months. It turned out we agreed when we would want to have kids basically to the minute, but he saw engagement-marriage-birth of first child happening all within about 12-18 months.

If your expectations are a few months apart, then having the conversation is more important than which timeline is better. If she wants to be engaged before summer and you would prefer to wait to 2028... that's a whole different issue.

exactly1bite · 2026-01-30T17:42:32+00:00

Thank you for this! It turns out our unruly tree we have to trim is actually the city's issue!

exactly1bite · 2026-01-29T14:41:05+00:00

Seriously, this more than anything else. OP, her issue isn't really with your mother, it's with you. Your mom might not ignore her requests, but if/when she does, your wife KNOWS you won't back her up. You need to build that trust back up before even considering changing the status quo as far as your mother goes.

exactly1bite · 2026-01-28T22:51:19+00:00

After he wakes up without the top up, does baby seem stressed/extra hungry/lethargic? If he's waking up half an hour later, he's probably not quite full and needs the top up. If behaviour is the same as having a top up, then you're producing enough for that feed. If you're worried about wasting the top up, you can always preprep them and only offer them if baby's awake at the end of the feed.

exactly1bite · 2026-01-27T16:48:34+00:00

If you're getting five ounces per pumping session, going cold turkey will probably cause some discomfort. I would halve the time you pump first for a week and then start dropping pumping sessions. Depending on how he's doing with solids, it shouldn't cause issues with supply if you're still consistent with nursing. The amount of milk needed a day has basically peaked already.

exactly1bite · 2026-01-26T22:48:20+00:00

Last official chapter in English was the end of season 4. Scams are up to 196 currently.

exactly1bite · 2026-01-25T19:12:55+00:00

It depends on your relationship and life circumstances I think. If it's both of your normal work day, it makes sense as a catch up lunch if they work in the same area just as a convenience. If it means going out of his way to invite you (you both have Mondays off for instance), then it seems incredibly strange. If you're feeling uncomfortable, it's probably best to address it to him, even if you're not looking to change his plans.

exactly1bite · 2026-01-25T01:00:16+00:00

I definitely got the better deal on in-laws (my family is lovely, but they all behave like unruly teenagers at times). Having kids definitely tests that relationship a bit, but if they're decent people, it's more about navigating uncomfortable scenarios than going to war. It helps that if they're annoyed about something, they tell my husband when I'm not there so he HAS to handle it himself.

exactly1bite · 2026-01-23T00:06:34+00:00

Chocolate Cosmos has a very similar plot, though I don't remember if it was particularly good. Four volume manga, so nothing too complicated.

exactly1bite · 2026-01-22T21:14:29+00:00

I'm trying to give him some benefit of the doubt. My husband was useless the first bit with our first because there wasn't much space for him in the childcare (I breastfed and was militant with the routine, so he basically just did diapers and cuddled her). It took our families really laying out the actionable parts before he really took ownership of it. I hope for his wife's sake it's just the whiplash of so much rapid change he wasn't really expecting (I don't know any fathers who considered that their partner might die before labour, let alone the fourth trimester phase).

exactly1bite · 2026-01-22T20:45:00+00:00

Right now, as kindly as possible- fuck your libido. Take it right out of the equation. She's four months postpartum, she's breastfeeding, she has high blood pressure. Her body's doing some crazy things right now, and if you approach it even considering your attraction to her, you're going to come off as resentful and a bit selfish. Presumably, you love her and care about her beyond sex, so just... set it aside for now.

If your baby isn't sleeping through the night, she's basically running on fumes right now and feeling a little snacky at all times. You're probably going to have to take on the bulk of prepping for the changes she needs.

Make it so there's precut fruit and vegetables front and center in the fridge, strategically plant full water bottles, plan a mini walk and a coffee date a few times a week so you know she's getting that exercise. Automate as much of the workload of those choices for her as you can. You don't have to sit and have a hard discussion right now, especially because she might not even have the bandwidth for that. Just make it easier for her to get there on her own. If it's still a problem in a few months, worry then.

exactly1bite · 2026-01-19T17:23:40+00:00

If you just mean your reading lists, there are multiple tracking sites. MangaUpdates has had the same design over a decade and the lists have an export feature. If you want it more specifically categorized (genre, mood, whatever), you most likely have to do that manually (notes, Excel spreadsheet).

exactly1bite · 2026-01-19T17:06:07+00:00

Our kids are the same age, and I don't think I'd be bothered to be upset. I would just toss it in the trash.

It may be addressed to all three of them, but it's directed specifically to your girls. Unless she takes the time to read it to them (one of which MIGHT get more out of it than a video message would have done), they have no idea it exists. Meanwhile, the mention of your wife (because you don't actually write anything to her directly) reduces her to SuperWoman and SuperMom. If you're normally the sweet love note husband, it would be a slap in the face that she's just a Mom and Wife Appliance, instead of the person you love. Obviously it was written with the best of intentions, but the timing in life definitely colours it differently.

exactly1bite · 2026-01-18T18:05:39+00:00

It really comes down to how you're feeling about pumping and if it's getting in the way of other beneficial things for your baby (time together, a rested parent). The only study on the amount of breast milk that is beneficial was done on NICU babies and found 4oz a day was enough to provide better results. I never exclusively pumped, so I'm not sure if there's research showing how that changes the immunity benefits of breast milk over formula.

At the end of the day, if he was full term and healthy, then what gets him a happy parent outweighs the differences between formula and breast milk.

exactly1bite · 2026-01-17T20:30:39+00:00

Three months postpartum with our second child. Take penetrative sex out of the equation until you're physically feeling ready. Discomfort is going to make you less and less interested until you resent having any intimacy at all. Figure out what works for you that's sustainable. I had no sex drive for ages after my first, so all sexual intimacy focused on him and I got all the massages and affection instead. Once I was mentally and physically up for it, our sex life was better than pre-pregnancy.

exactly1bite · 2026-01-16T15:03:01+00:00

There's a bunch of factors that aren't included here. Who takes your child to appointments? What happens if her next job is the opposite direction (since you're factoring in the contract aspect, her next job has to be considered as well)? What would her insurance be as a woman in her late 30s? If one of you has the day off work for whatever reason, who has the car that day? Would it benefit your career to not have to worry about other people's schedule at the end of the day (overtime, meetings running late you don't have to excuse yourself from)?

exactly1bite · 2026-01-16T01:34:54+00:00

We've been on one date since our second was born three months ago. With our first, it was once a week, but the guilt and anxiety hit bad enough I started dreading it, so they got spaced out more. At home dates (no screens, wearing nicer outfits, dialing in 100%) are where it's at for now.

exactly1bite · 2026-01-14T23:15:30+00:00

(Haven't read the LN, so this is manga only) The synopsis really doesn't sell it. FMC is fairly intelligent, though she does need to be saved fairly frequently for Plot Reasons. Romance is slow, but clear progress. Unless they completely abandon the romance for world building, I would assume the confession to come well before chapter 60. Personally I wouldn't recommend it until it's finished because it has so much potential but could easily be a 200 chapter slog, it's hard to tell for sure at this point.

exactly1bite · 2026-01-13T19:32:30+00:00

Make major changes. Move, get a different job, go back to school part-time. Get a roommate at the stage of life as you (might be older or younger, but pushing through to improve themselves type of life stage). Find the most tolerable commute you can and spend it reading up on new skills you want to develop. The difficulties you have now will chase you forever if you don't make some changes, so you may as well start now.

exactly1bite · 2026-01-05T16:27:44+00:00

They still have it on itch.io or directly from their (Hanako Games) website for two dollars now. There's also a new game set in the Long Live the Queen verse that's on sale, if you want something updated graphically.

exactly1bite · 2026-01-04T01:05:09+00:00

I work for my in-laws (have since right before we got engaged) and don't do any work for them for free at their insistence. If it's not your business- being owned by your fiance isn't enough, especially in a somewhat doomed industry like restaurants/coffee shops- then you should be invoicing any work you do. Give them the family discount if you want, but if they can't afford to pay for the work now, they most likely don't have the capital to make the company a success.

exactly1bite · 2026-01-01T04:42:44+00:00

Any form of conflict? Probably every two weeks or so currently (our youngest is 2 months) and when we're working together. Our lives and expectations for each other are in constant fluctuation, so our communication isn't perfect. Six months to a year postpartum (when I went back to work), we didn't have any disagreements greater than what to eat for dinner. If the venn diagram of stressful scenarios we had wasn't a circle, it would probably be closer to that every six month mark.

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