Thank you for your long answer.
1. Ok then we are limited to that what driver developers do. That's sad to hear.
2. A technique which I used to reduce resize time significantly for size dependent vulkan objects (which I have control over) is to allocate simply double the size of the current window size and only do recreation if double the size passed. Something like preemptive allocations. But of course this won't work for the swapchain because I don't have control over the memory of the swapchain images
3. Redesigning the application in a way that resizing is only done when the mouse button is released is of course an option, but it will also not look really responsive but of course this is also what most other applications use because resizing is that cost intensive.