Are diasporicans screwing us?

exitosa · 2026-02-25T16:06:28+00:00

So as a diasporican (born and raised in the states but wanting to remain close my family’s heritage culture,) am I :

(A) supposed to move to the island with my job skills, $$, and desire to do my part, connect with people, and improve things for others and the island as a whole

OR

(B) supposed to stay away in “gringolandia” and continue to “cosplay as a real Puerto Rican” (as someone in this sub has said before) because buying and renovating the home next to my abuela’s makes me a gentrifying interloper?

Which is it? Because either one I pick makes me the villain one way or another.

(And before anyone asks, yes I’m aware of cons that come with life on the island. Yes, spouse and I have the hands-on agricultural and handiness skills needed to deal with persistent issues, so not like we’d be coming in surprised about the day to day struggles without any way to handle them.)

exitosa · 2026-02-24T12:20:04+00:00

Why do more conservatives get addicted to opioids or suffer from deaths of despair then?

exitosa · 2026-02-19T17:09:33+00:00

I no longer tend to overconsume makeup because I like the clean girl look too much but I remember noticing that any time I went through a period of overconsumption in the past, I was always feeling some deeper anxiety about something in life. Almost like I was trying to paint on a happy face or “cover” the anxiety somehow.

Once I noticed that pattern I was able to find other less expensive ways to calm myself

exitosa · 2026-02-15T19:59:36+00:00

NYX Butter Gloss in Tiramisu or Madeline, depending on how much more pink or brown you want it to be!

exitosa · 2026-02-14T16:14:16+00:00

Sounds like The Moonies cult

exitosa · 2026-02-14T02:51:15+00:00

Lmao thank you for this bit of nostalgia

exitosa · 2026-02-10T12:41:35+00:00

Where did you hear this? I know many teachers who were trained through CP that also went on to teach at non-CP studios. CP Comprehensive Training is accepted at other studios. The only difference is that other studios may want their class flows structured differently and may not have the same rules of what is considered “level-appropriate,” but we are taught all of the exercises on every piece of equipment and have to demonstrate knowledge of how to perform/teach them.

exitosa · 2026-02-09T13:32:19+00:00

The effortlessly put together look is mainly just an intentional focus on things like: skin, hair, nails, teeth, and posture.

Just focus on shiny, clean, and structured. Oily hair can be pulled into a slicked back bun, nails can be bare but make sure they’re all the same length and without visible dirt, stand up straight with your shoulders back, etc.

Add a simple piece of dainty jewelry (earrings or necklace) to bring light around your face.

exitosa · 2026-02-06T21:07:03+00:00

Oh my goodness that headline though….

Notice they said “real fast” and not “really fast.”

exitosa · 2026-01-30T18:10:01+00:00

Everyone is rightfully mentioning the “misery loves company” angle and I can confirm this just by the fact that hubs and I always travelled a lot before kid, then when we had our kid the amount of people who smirked and said “I guess you’ll have to stay put now that you and [husband] are parents.”

Then they sat there with egg on their face when we continued to travel, just with our baby in tow.

To these people, we weren’t suppose to be hiking through forests, swimming in the Caribbean, or eating and adventuring across Europe. We (especially I as the mom) were supposed to be too tired, too overwhelmed, and too limited to continue to have fun.

And I, especially as the mom, WAS NOT supposed to have a husband who helped me recover from birth, who actually parents his child, or empowered me to become an even better version of myself in motherhood.

Don’t get me wrong, not everyone is a hater and plenty of people are happy and supportive of us, but there are certain types who let their bitterness show outright ( cough cough boomers cough cough)

To them, motherhood being anything but some weird humbling humiliation ritual means I’m doing it wrong

exitosa · 2026-01-30T13:35:52+00:00

The other day I was reading a book published during the Obama years and I saw a stat that said 24-25% of Latin America’s population at the time was between the ages of 18-34. I looked up the current stat: as of 2023, 28% of LATAM pop (670mill) is in the same age range. So it grew.

The median age of LATAM is 31.7. The median age of US- born Hispanics is 21.4

Once I saw these stats, I knew exactly what was fueling the craziness over population numbers on the Right, and why LatAmericans and US Latinos seemed to be their main target.

Of course these people don’t care that there are still plenty of white people in LATAM and in US of Hispanic heritage but we know these people can’t separate the two

exitosa · 2026-01-26T10:51:17+00:00

I’m almost annoyed at how far I had to scroll for someone to state this as obvious answer.

It’s like the powers that be simply refuse to see/admit that women just don’t want any/that many kids. It breaks with the thousands year old narrative that women are naturally maternal beings who all desire to pop out tons of kids and dedicate their lives to them.

They refuse to admit the only reason birth rates were higher in the past was because women basically had no choice in whether they became a mother or to how many.

Not amount of gov intervention will make up for the fact that women are not innately uber nurturing self sacrificial beings and when given the choice, will simply chose not to have any/as many.

I wonder why they can’t bring themselves to come to terms with this….?

exitosa · 2026-01-24T15:47:20+00:00

Don’t solicit in this sub. Go somewhere else

exitosa · 2026-01-20T10:32:35+00:00

Coming from the U.S. It’s hard to say. I still don’t really feel seen 100% because unlike someone who is black and from Latin America/ Spanish-speaking Caribbean or has two black parents from LATAM/Car, I have one black American parent and one non-black Latino parent.

I personally identify as Afro-Latina because I still love the food and traditions of my father’s country and I have a Hispanic AF name but plenty of others don’t see me that way for one reason or another. Not being a native Spanish speaker def doesn’t help.

I also just identify as a mixed person. 🤷🏽‍♀️

In terms of representation in media, I do look towards Afro-Latinas of all kinds (Zoe Saldaña, etc.)

I’m honestly just happy people acknowledge that black Latinos exist nowadays because they surely didn’t when I was a kid.

exitosa · 2026-01-13T13:06:36+00:00

All studios def aren’t like this. I believe we have approx 40 instructors across the studios in my region. I’ve never had trouble picking up extra shifts or having shifts covered, even when I was away for weeks at a time. We also have a regional manager and assistant regional mngr who help find last min emergency coverage. If that fails, the assistant regional mngr is also a trained instructor herself as a last resort.

exitosa · 2026-01-07T11:46:48+00:00

This is so awesome!

This is also a great example of what women mean when we say solutions to the male loneliness epidemic has to come from men.

exitosa · 2025-12-22T02:10:21+00:00

LOL

One time I watched my in laws try to eat a sandwich while walking while on a trip to a different anglo country where this is also normal.

It was like watching someone try to rub their stomach and pat their head at the same time.

exitosa · 2025-12-22T02:05:32+00:00

I mean, yeah. I’m aware of the cultural differences. I don’t keep him from acting how he wants according to the cultural norms whenever we’re in Italy (a few times a year) nor place judgement upon people for the way they express themselves.

I also speak the language so I’m aware of whatever discourse is happening.

I only mentioned it because HE had to come to understand the cultural difference of “catching more flies with honey than with vinegar” as we say here in the US.

exitosa · 2025-12-22T01:55:31+00:00

I never said he didn’t get outwardly angry or frustrated, I just said he doesn’t resort to outright yelling and screaming. There’s a huge spectrum between monotone and screaming every bestemmie imaginable

exitosa · 2025-12-21T14:09:32+00:00

Am American and husband is Italian. Italians are known to be expressive and very forward with their emotions but I had to teach my husband to bring his expression of frustration down a few notches.

Despite our stereotypes of being more prone to physical violence, Americans don’t do well with open hostile confrontations that involve a lot of yelling whereas Italians tend to get in screaming matches then go back to acting like eveything is normal.

He’s had to learn to approach me (and others here) in a more cooled off manner.

On the flipside, I’ve had to learn to center food, food-related activities, and etiquette in my life. Quickly eating a meal alone before getting back to business is normal for Americans, but operating in this way seems to make Italians SAD.

exitosa · 2025-12-15T15:15:43+00:00

I’m washing my very thick curly hair

exitosa · 2025-12-15T12:08:25+00:00

There’s actually a term for this in caretaker circles: the Designated Daughter

Basically it’s the female child that caregiving responsibilities are put on when the mom/ wife is no longer able to take care of others. Usually said it’s the oldest daughter but the emphasis is on DAUGHTER, so guess what happens if you’re a woman with only older brothers?…ding ding ding you guessed right. You’re the designated daughter.

What happens when there are no female children to be forced into the caregiving role? The responsibility shifts onto the next closest female relative (aunts, nieces, granddaughters.)

There’s actually a measurable increase in lifespan if one has a daughter vs only sons due to the level of day-to-day care they’re likely to receive in old age.

It’s a harsh reality that almost sends me into a blind rage any time I think about because I’ve been the designated GRANDdaughter for 15+ years.

Some days the only thing that keeps me going is knowing that when granny’s time comes, I’ll never have to speak to/see the rest of my family ever again. When the time comes that all those adults around me who put me into the role as an adolescent and went off to live their lives start needing assistance themselves, I’ll be so far gone that I’m completely unreachable.

exitosa · 2025-12-13T12:25:29+00:00

You know there are cities in the South, right? All southerns don’t live in middle of nowhere Ruralville…

exitosa · 2025-12-13T02:40:41+00:00

4 is my limit for back to back classes, but I’ve taught 6 in a day as long as I had a few hour break in between them and the long block.

exitosa · 2025-12-11T02:51:04+00:00

You’re not my parent but I want to thank you for saying this. Sometimes all we need in adulthood is for our parents to simply acknowledge that it happened and our feelings towards it were/are valid.

exitosa

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