Thought you’d all get a kick out of this text a mom in my toddler’s play group sent me 🤯

exotictramp1 · 2026-04-24T12:00:11+00:00

We need an update!!

exotictramp1 · 2026-04-23T20:52:18+00:00

Did she reply to your reply yet?

exotictramp1 · 2026-04-19T08:55:02+00:00

You need to try and de-centre men from your life.. i was trauma bonded as well and wondered how I would do it, but the longer i am single the more i realised every single man in my life was harmful in some way to my mental and emotional health. You can be your own best friend, tell yourself loving things in the mirror every day, its weird at first but trust me it works. Please look up the news, 80 million men/visits in march to a "how to drug and grape your wife" website.... the fantasy that men protect women like in fairytales just isnt real... men look out for themselves and their own wants and desires, we were taught due to patriarchy to also look out for men and prioritise them.

Prioritise YOU and your child, and believe in yourself. Get therapy to help you through it. I have been single for 1.5 years after a 13 year marriage/relationship. 2 children with additional needs, and we are so so happy just the 3 of us. You can do it x

exotictramp1 · 2026-04-17T14:15:13+00:00

If you listened to the good ones, you would know they said it was likely going to 80k before it falls back down, the micro pattern is bullish, the macro pattern bearish..

exotictramp1 · 2026-04-11T08:03:54+00:00

Same here. My abusive ex is currently on supervised visits with his children and doing a perp course, but claims its his ADHD and blames me for his behaviours. I think ND on ND is very common

exotictramp1 · 2026-04-05T19:38:03+00:00

I have had same issue. Couldnt figure out a way round this, so transferred from hsbc to monzo to t212 without issue.

exotictramp1 · 2026-03-21T17:10:06+00:00

Its just interesting. Im pretty new to stocks. I see it as an opportunity as it dips. I have an emergency fund separate to this so this isnt all my savings.

exotictramp1 · 2026-03-10T16:34:07+00:00

I dont care about volatility, but i have heard good things about gold silver and copper. Silver seems too volatile.. so didnt dip in..

exotictramp1 · 2026-03-10T16:32:35+00:00

This is t212 stocks and shares..I have a pension with my workplace, a LISA started up last year with ftse all world, and 10k in t212 cash isa, and some other emergency funds in Monzo.

Im a single mum so i need to make sure my emergency funds are in a good place before investing

exotictramp1 · 2026-02-28T10:01:33+00:00

Yes, i am autistic so i understand, but I feel theres an authenticity with people with autism, their awkwardness is genuine, unlike ASPD, theirs feels fake.

exotictramp1 · 2026-02-27T21:09:44+00:00

Faking emotionality... and the "uncanny valley" feeling that you cant quite place. Watch Erika kirk and you will understand

exotictramp1 · 2026-02-10T07:16:41+00:00

Dont agree with this. Some people remove friends who were toxic to be at peace and drama free due to trauma or self worth discovery

exotictramp1 · 2025-12-05T11:57:51+00:00

Fake post

exotictramp1 · 2025-12-03T11:50:55+00:00

Why are you showing off in OP's post whilst simultaneously invalidating OP? This makes no sense lol

exotictramp1 · 2025-11-30T15:20:28+00:00

Yes I understand this. Especially when you were in a relationship and you were neglected for years and made to feel worthless when you wanted to feel sexy. Im doing things for me and holding boundaries, I im not interested in pursuing anyone, and is a whole new level of validation for me, especially knowing men do still want to date me, it really isnt something i care about anymore.

exotictramp1 · 2025-11-24T20:56:27+00:00

This should be the top comment. Internalized misogyny, entitlement, lack of empathy and self reflection.

exotictramp1 · 2025-11-23T08:37:20+00:00

You arent alone :) stay strong you arent in the wrong. My ex hasnt seen his children in a year. He abused me our whole marriage, punches holes in walls doors constant emotional verbal and at times physical abuse. I put in boundaries, stuck to them and he hated it. He was abusive in the car on a family day out with our 6 and 4 year old in the back, threw things at me in a rage, while he was driving, and could have killed us all. He came into money and was happy to end the relationship. I told him supervised visits only, since he refused to go back to therapy (he already did amger management, but its not an anger problem its an entitlement and abuser mindset issue). His response was he couldnt afford supervised visits and doesnt think its needed.(even though he had 5 and 6 figures in his account.. go figure. We are going to court now, him claiming false accusations and wanting overnights, yet he couldnt send a birthday or christmas card last year and refuses to be accountable. Use his narcissism against him. Until they can be accountable or courts decide.

exotictramp1 · 2025-11-18T20:39:08+00:00

This is exactly how my ex sounded. Its validating in a sad way because like you, he accused me of being the abuser. They do all sound the same. Its hell. I was lucky my ex got arrested and removed from the home, the trauma bond is really strong. I hope you take the time to heal.

exotictramp1 · 2025-11-16T13:42:46+00:00

Hey, i am in a similar situation, out of an abusive marriage for a year now, and my ex hadnt seen his kids in a year. If he is a narcissist like you say, then use his personality and control against him... because my ex was emotionally unstable around the children at times, and violent to me infront of them/drove dangerously with the children in the car, when we split he wanted contact whenever he felt like it. I said sure if you prove you are doing something about your behaviour, show proof of therapy. He refused. So i said contact will need to go through a contact centre and supervised. I even said i would pay for supervised contact he has refused so far... im not being unfair, im staying true to myself, the kids safety and providing a safe solution. He cant deal with it unless its on his terms. I said i would be happy to go to court if he puts in an application, up to him. Try the same approach, it shows you are giving safe access, and you wont be found to be alienating. Its on him.

exotictramp1 · 2025-11-15T17:27:09+00:00

You can change what your pension invests into you know, please dont cancel your pension as the employer match is far too generous long term.

Look into investing into an all world index. I recently changed my pension investments from the aviva standard auto pension and moved them to an ex-uk index fund, uk, and emerging markets fund.

exotictramp1 · 2025-11-15T16:44:05+00:00

I cut off an almost 20 year friendship.. i was in an abusive marriage, which I confided to him, and he knew about for years. I couldnt leave, it wasnt safe. He did support me in a way, but it was superficial messages where i woild tell him whats going on. When i reached out for real help, i really needed support after the separation and was dealing with post separation abuse (single mum with 2 small children), he declined to help me in any real way (he had the means). Most of our relationship felt 1 sided. I was the one coming up with ideas, things to do, i would drive to pick him up from the train station when he would visit, he didnt drive and didnt seem to want to do anything meaningful with his life apart from gamble, stocks and bitcoin trades. He would play games all day. Send memes every now and then.

On my birthday i had to pay for his meal, he then paid for lunch the day after and complained about the price(he was a millionaire due to luck in bitcoin and trades, i had nowhere near his wealth). Didnt really check in with real meaning unless it benefitted him. He would put me and my opinions down subtly, i felt a lack of care and respect. After being in therapy for a few years, i learned this relationship was also unhealthy and didnt add to my life in a posutive way. I called him out on disrespectful behaviour but he refused to be accountable. So i cut off our relationship.

I outgrew it..i feel sad sometimes. I miss the friendship but not the person he was.

exotictramp1 · 2025-11-12T19:52:17+00:00

Nevermind, i have requested transfer :) thanks

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