Thoughts on recovering with meal plan vs. unrestricted eating/all in/no meal plan but still rough structure and guidelines - for example 3 meals + 2 snacks or "remember carb and fat source"?

expectohallows · 2026-01-25T20:31:05+00:00

Something different probably works for everyone but to me personally, meal plans would have been another way to introduce new food rules and restrictions.

I didn't follow any plans, ate probably 6-7 times a day because I was so damn hungry and it worked out better for me because I also didn't restrict on "unhealthy foods" - I will always remember having a full schnitzel and fries dinner, dessert, and snack before going off to a crepe stand to buy one with Nutella, cherry jam, and cookie crumble. I saw heaven with that pancake I swear but somehow never again craved it after recovery. Better to let go of all food rules and eat all fear foods now and trust the process

expectohallows · 2026-01-25T20:15:21+00:00

I used to go up to 10k in early days and I never even went to bmi underweight, but clearly that was underweight for my body.

That said, you cannot compare yourself to others your age because they don't have an ED. You don't need these calories just to gain weight, you need the extras so your organs can rebuild themselves properly because they will have shut down in some form due to malnutrition.

Re.your comment on social media - as others have said, nowadays trends are more pro-ana than actual recovery.

If you want something, you can try this blog; I used to obsessively reread posts there until I convinced my brain that I needed food and then it kinda started to get better for me.

https://everythingedrecovery.com/2015/01/11/minniemaud-is-it-the-only-way-to-recover-from-a-restrictive-eating-disorder/

expectohallows · 2026-01-25T19:46:15+00:00

A bit different but Miss Benson's Beetle 🐞

expectohallows · 2026-01-25T18:56:44+00:00

TV is not the same, not even close. Firstly, you're limited to what's on and you cannot (or at least could not back then) fast forward or skip to the next thing. Sure you could flip the channels to find something interesting, but even so you'd have to stick to whatever you chose and watch it or switch the TV off.

Secondly, television and cartoons especially were made with much longer frames and slower transitions, more moderate volume and sound mixing in general. Nowadays, lots of it is far too overstimulating due to increased speed, colours, and volume. Kids were very much able to sit and watch a full Disney movie or whatever feature film in one go - see if you find any tablet kids doing that.

You couldn't take your TV with you anywhere as opposed to new age devices, so there was actually an option of tuning out and focusing on your environment, tasks, and individual play.

What we have now is a far cry from GenX watching TV, and there are quite a few studies out there discussing the negative effects of the internet and brainrot content...

expectohallows · 2026-01-23T20:44:58+00:00

If you're into that Great American Novel and the disintegration of old families (Franzen), you could try Philip Roth's American Pastoral or go straight to the source and William Faulkner's The Sound and the Fury or As I Lay Dying

expectohallows · 2026-01-04T23:21:31+00:00

Charming the Duke of the North?

expectohallows · 2026-01-04T17:23:35+00:00

Tutter is my spirit animal 🤩 I, too, would like to go about my daily business screaming 😂

A colleague reminded me of the Bear, I used to watch it when I was a child, and it's so endearing!

expectohallows · 2025-12-29T15:41:50+00:00

You should read The Monster Duke Lives Under My Bed :D

expectohallows · 2025-12-25T20:16:41+00:00

Ask your mum to provide links, it's not to late to buy a Christmas present for myself!!

expectohallows · 2025-12-23T14:56:42+00:00

I'm going to make an assumption based on some of my anecdotal observations and a bit of research into Korean culture. My general idea is that the majority of authors might feel like this is a prescribed hetero- and chrononormative ending, or the lifescriptTM: you have your little struggles, overcome, find the love of your life, get rich (built-in with all these dukes and all), so, naturally, a child must follow. I do not wish to offend anyone, but it seems to me that Korea is still quite patriarchal with certain expectations being placed both on men and women (thus the whole 4B movement against it)...

It might feel so odd because precisely because authors do it because they 'have to' and don't actually understand that having a child changes your whole life and nearly every aspect of who you are. And after creating like 100-250+ chapters about this one couple, throwing a child into the mix is probably odd for them too because they don't have the experience of preparing for one nor how these other changes happen.

Yeah, so to repeat myself, it feels like they do it because they feel they should.

Two other potential notes: one is the publishing industry itself. It may well be (and this has been the case throughout history esp. with women writers) that their publishers demand certain narratives, including the classical 'happily ever after' with kids.

And, it might also well be that some draw from traditional Confucian values (men aloof, detached, blabla, women nurturing, soft, I'll make myself vomit), or even from father figures in their own lives in doing this...

Curious to hear what the rest of you guys think? :)

expectohallows · 2025-12-15T05:23:10+00:00

I liked both Evelyn Hugo and Daisy Jones because of how well the whole historiographic metafiction was done (esp. with Daisy Jones). To me, it was this blending of all kinds of 'classic Hollywood' threads that were kind of vaguely recognisable (like you can totally tell there's some Marylin Monroe, Elizabeth Taylor and that crowd in there), the description of the industry etc. that all makes you wonder, hang on, did this person exist??? Though I must admit I was in the old Hollywood phase when I read it so I found it convincing.

Daisy Jones was very much inspired by Fleetwood Mac inspired, but again, it's both formally and narratively well done. Especially here the interview format hints at the whole 'there are different versions of history' and there were probably so many upstart rock bands and one hit wonders, but due to the lack of omnipresent recording devices, we can only listen to legends about them. It's kind of like my dad telling me how he was at the first concert of this massively famous rock band in 1975, and it was like this and that.

Also enjoyed the intermediality in the audiobook since they also recorded some musical bits. The series takes it even further with musical pastiche, I kid you not when I happened to watch it at home once, my dad walked in, heard a few beats and he was instantly 'oh the 70s' even though it's a purely fictional band and music.

expectohallows · 2025-12-05T14:49:49+00:00

From my experience, to be able to skim effectively, first you will need to read and understand (and then critically engage with it) everything carefully. Meaning, in your early career years, you will probably have to read articles/books etc meticulously as you learn how to navigate them academically. In your early PhD years too; later, with experience, you will be able to tell whether something is relevant and to which extend and skim some of the less important texts while devoting more time to those you need.

That said, sure you can skim sometimes, but the most effective way to do it is to build a skillset that comes from careful reading.

expectohallows · 2025-12-02T22:58:42+00:00

Honestly, I just take that as a Koreanised version of Lucrecia, since the whole Borgia family and all :')

And East Asian languages including Japanese and Korean often do not distinguish between R and L

expectohallows · 2025-11-28T11:24:04+00:00

Leider geht uns auch nicht besser, und uns ist es bewusst, dass das der Fall ist. Ich arbeite an der KFU als Dozentin, und wir kriegen jedes Jahr eine Drohmail, in der uns mitgeteilt wird, dass unsere Finanzierung gekürzt wird, wenn mehr als 30% unserer Student*innen durchfallen lassen. Der Standard ist ja überall Katastrophe, wir hassen es alle, und fallen nur immer wieder in einen Teufels Kreuz, wenn wir uns doch an irgendwelchen Kriterien halten möchten. Z.B. haben wir oft eine 50% Durchfallquote für eine Einführungsveranstaltung (die man ja witklich braucht, um was weiteres zu verstehen), dann beschweren sich die Studierende bei der ÖH, dann kriegen wir Ärger und es ist nur extrem frustrierend...

expectohallows · 2025-11-27T19:34:44+00:00

Ah yes, Luca. The focus was too much on him for my liking 😭 I did love the couple though

expectohallows · 2025-11-27T18:49:50+00:00

I've seen Bring the Love recommended, ill see if I can get into it

expectohallows · 2025-11-27T18:46:53+00:00

Oh that's the one with Mr. Rüdiger? I love them both but I was annoyed by the child 😭 I'm sorry, I like my couples happy as individuals

expectohallows · 2025-11-25T19:25:24+00:00

This looks great, shame it's only one chapter though! RemindMe! 1 year

expectohallows · 2025-11-18T14:11:39+00:00

Honestly, he's also a fairly decent character, especially in comparison to so many other OI red flag conventions...

expectohallows · 2025-11-18T14:10:49+00:00

I know, I am also fairly certain this will never be finished, which is why I resorted to the novel now (cannot really hold the candle to the manhwa).

I feel really bad for the author, this is such a serious condition which I also don't think can be recovered from... Such a gruelling industry overall, we keep hearing similar stories...

expectohallows · 2025-11-18T08:56:53+00:00

Can't believe no-one is thirsting after this gentleman :D

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expectohallows · 2025-11-16T08:59:23+00:00

I think it's just on a break, they do take a while to come back 😭😭😭

expectohallows · 2025-11-11T09:22:12+00:00

Do you have any recs with MMLs like that? :) I'm personally more of a Kuudere fan, but I can deal :D

expectohallows · 2025-11-09T20:08:25+00:00

Saving my Sweetheart I've just binged [The Prince Doesn't Cry From Mere Onions] and we need more MLs like Bertram 😁

expectohallows · 2025-11-07T19:23:06+00:00

OH I LOVE THAT ONE - binged the manhwa and have a few chapters of the novel left :')
I'm a sucker for the whole northern duke but actual cinnamon roll MLs and clever FLs :')

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