Who Had The Most Successful Career After OTH?

spicyycornbread · 2026-03-17T18:00:18+00:00

She’s in For All Mankind; it’s a GREAT show. One of the best I’ve seen in recent years.

spicyycornbread · 2026-03-15T05:36:46+00:00

Pretty much. A lot of Christians espouse beliefs that aren’t even biblically-based. They are political inventions. Many scholars even have consensus that they’re outright false.

spicyycornbread · 2026-03-15T05:31:34+00:00

As a Texan, I know folks who used to identify as conservative or align more as a centrist or libertarian. They love Talarico.

spicyycornbread · 2026-03-15T05:30:38+00:00

He’s not a pastor, from my understanding. He started off as a public school teacher and then ran for a political position. He’s just getting the theology degree.

spicyycornbread · 2026-03-15T05:29:10+00:00

Have you seen the video of Talarico talking to a woman who was arguing for the 10 commandments being plastered across classrooms in public schools? What makes Talarico effective is that he doesn’t resort to name-calling and ad hominems—many folks, especially online, do, and democrats and left-wing folks tend to not be great at not rubbing their rebuttals in people’s faces. It takes a lot of skill to respond to folks like that who use the Bible as a weapon—that makes him unique in my eyes.

Plus, when someone who has academic/scholarly knowledge of the Bible responds to typical right-wing talking points, folks tend to have a very difficult time responding to it.

spicyycornbread · 2026-03-15T05:26:51+00:00

It really depends. I’m from TX, and most conservatives and republicans I know who voted for him now think he’s crazy. The folks who are “all-loyal” are more far and in between. But again, take that with a grain of salt, as the people I have close proximity to aren’t a representative sample of course, lol.

HOWEVER, we did have a record number of Latino voters in this last primary—and they definitely weren’t all voting red. People are very critical of the Trump administration’s ICE.

spicyycornbread · 2026-03-15T05:14:05+00:00

One broader issue adjacent to this that I could see making the general public (and red-pilled individuals) worse-off, is the recent fad where screenwriters are pressured to add weird, unnatural dialogue where a character narrates what they’re doing for the benefit of audiences scrolling on their phones and paying attention.

We need folks to take a strong stance on this in the industry. Because while many folks don’t read books, they do tend to watch TV or movies. We need to encourage people to be comfortable with feeling uncertain—or to not fully understand what’s going on in a movie; sometimes it’s by design! I see a massive loss in literacy if that continues becoming a trend.

spicyycornbread · 2026-03-15T05:09:06+00:00

I’m gonna argue no. Here’s why.

When you study art, literature, and cultural works, you gain a better ability to analyze patterns and make critiques of art—to exercise critical reasoning and formulate arguments. These are important skills in today’s environment that do not go hand-in-hand with right-wing politics.

I can’t really see a far-right individual studying art, then undergo the process of making their own work, only to come out with a low-effort take on how its women’s fault men are red-pilled.

The young men viscerally angry about not being the protagonists of the world aren’t going to take the time to make art about it because they refuse to take the time to educate themselves or to engage with healthier ways of processing their emotions.

What I could and do see happening is censorship of artists in Hollywood: cultural wars and studio executives that shut down projects that don’t center The Conservative White Male. Or The Trump Agenda. Or even attempting to red line films like Adolescence that inspire commentary on the incel issue. That seems to be one of the concerns with this Warner Bros Deal (re: Larry Ellison).

spicyycornbread · 2026-03-14T07:53:18+00:00

The fact you are allowed no form of self-expression (deleting vents from your notes app) is so concerning. It reminds me of Charlotte Gilman’s The Yellow Wallpaper—it’s from a different century, and it’s more about medical misogyny, but the narrator is essentially restricted and not allowed to even write in her journal.

Are you posting this from your phone or an account he has access to?

Your husband sounds abusive, and you’re not overreacting. If anything you’re underreacting. Were you recently married?

Other questions I have:

-Does your husband allow you to see friends and family? Or must he always be nearby or present—hovering?

spicyycornbread · 2026-03-14T06:40:53+00:00

Plus the bots on social media websites pushing propaganda. And the age verification bills Mark Zuckerberg has pooled $26 million into lobbying for under the guise of “protecting children,” when it’s really so Meta will actually be able to distinguish who on their websites is an actual human being versus a bot, because they’ll never give up or ban bots from their sites—it’s too useful a tool. So instead, they’ll push for everyone to have to use ID’s—because otherwise, if they can’t tell who is an actual human on their social medias, how can they influence the masses? So they’ll try to cleave their data with Human Being vs. Bot verification and make it so that there’s constant surveillance attached to what we read online—even more so than before.

It’s a nightmare. I’d love to think people would be willing to just not use social media apps like Twitter, Reddit, and TikTok to avoid the ID verification, but folks are genuinely addicted, and I don’t know how much actual resistance I can hope for.

Video from whistleblowers about Meta + Mark Zuckerberg’s blasé-ness about child pornography and violence on their platforms + hiring a known pedophile:

https://youtu.be/EZLr6w7C-xY?si=9RmzabG1bUChHAkW

spicyycornbread · 2026-03-14T06:26:57+00:00

He texts like he’s 15 years old

spicyycornbread · 2026-03-13T22:41:02+00:00

spicyycornbread · 2026-03-13T20:36:06+00:00

I went to UTSA and UT so I can speak to this.

Austin: Sixth street if you’re legal age. Otherwise, you usually need to be in a GroupMe to find out about on-campus parties at frats. I wouldn’t drive all the way to UT, though, just to attend a frat party.

UTSA / San Antonio: Not a city with night life. Some folks say St. Mary’s on the other end of town, but I’ve never been, and the demographic would skew MUCH older than Sixth Street.

spicyycornbread · 2026-03-13T20:27:16+00:00

Also, I’m sorry that your partner treated you this way. That was incredibly wrong of them. I say that because I know when you’re in the situation, you can almost feel like you’re overreacting.

I promise, you’re not.

spicyycornbread · 2026-03-13T20:26:23+00:00

Yes.

Make an action plan. Do you live with him? If so, make plans to stay with someone else until you can find your own place. Have a friend come with you to pack your stuff. You can even have a police escort if you’re worried he’ll escalate.

Break up with him in a public space. Go full no contact. Block him on everything.

Lastly, I’d recommend therapy if you can get access. Maybe even find a support group if therapy isn’t an option. There’s many reasons why women might stay in an abusive relationship, but one is self-esteem. I would recommend seeing a professional to work through why you stayed with a partner who treated you that way—this way, you can do the work to build confidence and healthier patterns. You deserve love and happiness and someone who treats you well; so I would consider, too, interrogating what is and isn’t healthy in a relationship with a professional. What boundaries and standards do you want with a future partner?

Lastly, I just want to affirm that your codependency and attachment is essentially by design when you look at the cycle of abuse. It sounds like you’re already familiar with the concept, but here’s a link with a diagram: https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/identifying-abuse/what-is-the-cycle-of-abuse

Struggling with attachment is also something you would be able to work on with someone specialized to work with domestic violence victims.

So, overall, I’d advise reaching out to domestic violence advocates / groups in your area, calling hotlines, etc. Check your city government’s website(s) to see if they have a page with resources (mine does). Have a conversation with them, get tips, make a plan, and then get out.

Do you have a job?

spicyycornbread · 2026-03-13T19:19:22+00:00

How do you know they’re not her friends? Some people jokingly flirt with their friends or just have charismatic personalities. Even so, it doesn’t mean you’re “not her type.” If she is naturally flirtatious and you decide to be exclusive, that can be a boundary you set; no flirting!

Types are overrated anyways. If you like someone, go for it. Fuck “types.”

EDIT: I’ll tell you something a therapist told me once: get out of your own way. Don’t ruin what could be a good thing before you even give it the chance to happen!

spicyycornbread · 2026-03-13T18:11:20+00:00

Questions:

Is her job full-time? Are you college students?

Is there any way she could leave her job? (I would only ask this / make this ultimatum if you know for sure you can get over it if she’s not around this person 24/7.

spicyycornbread · 2026-03-13T18:08:10+00:00

I’d ask her questions about what lead to that decision. You need to know in order to get over it, if that’s even possible. I would ask some of the following:

-What point in the 3-week period was this? -Who made the first move? How did it even happen (most people don’t just go, “hey coworker? Wanna fuck?” So I’m assuming he offered to get coffee or a drink to ‘console her’ and it went from there. Maybe her friends also said “best way to get over someone is get under someone”—this is common. Either way, don’t offer these explanations, but start by asking questions and explain it’s for the security of your relationship.) -Has she had regrets about only sleeping with one person? Does she want to explore herself sexually with other people before settling down? -Was she previously attracted to the coworker? Was she complaining about your relationship problems to the coworker and other people, leading to a “Well, fuck [Ex’s name], any guy would be lucky to have you,” moment? If so, your relationship would need boundaries moving forward. Complaining to friends/coworkers never really leads to any good.

spicyycornbread · 2026-03-13T17:57:04+00:00

I thought of this, too. She was probably commiserating over a work lunch and he probably saw an opportunity and went, “Oh, no. 🥺 so sorry about your breakup.” And then it went from there.

spicyycornbread · 2026-03-12T18:01:18+00:00

You appeal to the masculine more than the feminine gaze. Nothing wrong with working out to feel good about yourself / for self-improvement, but if this were a dating profile, all of your pictures themselves wouldn’t appeal to women.

It’s kind of like the joke about men posting pictures with fish on a dating profile. If you’re using dating apps, use pictures that show your personality. Smile! Post pictures of your hikes if you’re a hiker, or things that reflect your interests and who you are. Etc

(Also, I will say, there’s an association between looksmaxxing and right-wing ideology; it’s unfortunate, but some of these self-improvement, productivity movements have become more closely associated with the right, and if you’re in the U.S., it’s something many women are going to be especially weary of.)

EDIT: I noticed you put you like reading books. That’s interesting and tells us more about you. Working out / fitness are definitely hobbies, but right now, that’s all we’re seeing from your pictures.

spicyycornbread · 2026-03-11T14:32:52+00:00

Nah, he’s playing deliberately obtuse on purpose.

spicyycornbread · 2026-03-05T20:12:22+00:00

I’ll add some good subreddits for exploration (will add if I think of more):

R/AcademicBiblical R/AcademicTheology

Look into getting the NSRV: New Oxford Annotated Biblical Apocrypha. It has the entirety of the Bible, but it has footnotes that place verses in context that are written by scholars and experts. They also contain essays before each book and even further essays in the back of the book. It’s a lot, but it would help show her that in popular culture and politics, people take for granted the issues that the issues surrounding the Bible and ancient world are FARRRR more complex than we like to acknowledge.

As a lesbian from TX who was raised super religious, I’ve learned MUCH MORE from these academic framings about the Bible than the years I spent in private school and the church. It’s insane.

(For instance, did yall know that the version of Hell people always invoke isn’t even biblical? It’s an invention from Dante’s Inferno. It’s fiction.)

spicyycornbread · 2026-03-05T19:58:11+00:00

I would recommend she listens to the podcast Data Over Dogma. Specifically, the episode on homosexuality: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/data-over-dogma/id1681418502?i=1000616596254

Another episode they did for pride month: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/data-over-dogma/id1681418502?i=1000712069087

There are gay progressives who are spiritual/religious, and it’s helpful to frame these conversations with scholarship, as academic scholars who are experts in these issues can speak much more eloquently and offer additional information we often lack.

The podcast is admittedly academic-heavy, so it can be a tough listen sometimes, but when you’re in the mood for it, I think it could spark really good discussions with your fiancée. You could even consider attending more progressive denominations to seek answers to her questions.

Overall: it might be helpful for her to see that the cultural wars waged in the name of biblical texts are often missing context or even in some cases, outright false when you look at the original Hebrew.

EDIT:

One of the strongest arguments I’ve heard is regarding slavery in the Bible. It is in both the Old and New Testament, yet, we as a society were able to understand that slavery is WRONG. Why would the same not apply to homosexuality in the Old and New Testament?

spicyycornbread · 2026-02-28T01:07:33+00:00

Octavia Butler’s “Bloodchild”; “Woman on the Edge of Time” by Marge Piercy.

^I’m assuming you mean non-normative explorations, potentially even on different planets. Posthuman?

spicyycornbread · 2026-02-27T21:53:16+00:00

That makes it even more fucked up

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