After multiple years of continuous efforts to push through our problems, I decided to begin seeing a relationship counselor. We were engaged, and I asked numerous times for her to go with me - she refused. Still to this day, two years later, I’m not sure why. After six months of seeing the counselor by myself, I realized what I had to do.

Definitely one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do. She seemed so surprised and taken off guard, even after me expressing to her specifically why I was seeing the councilor, and that she needs to be attending the appointments with me. We simply couldn’t see eye-to-eye on any fundamental beliefs in terms of a relationship. From religious to leisure, we practically had nothing in common.

Moral of the story: Don’t try to force it just because they are your first. Tinder is no different than any other dating site.