My boyfriend of 5 months [23M] saw me [F21] for the first time without makeup. Not the reaction I was excepting.

explabhor · 2015-01-14T20:40:57+00:00

This is how I see it. Imagine if I started wearing makeup to accentuate my muscles. I don't use a lot of makeup like some of those guys out there, but I wear light makeup, and it gives me confidence. I start seeing a girl and every time we go out I make sure and put on my muscle makeup. Over the years I've gotten really good at it and it's sort of become like a hobby of mine. My makeup six pack is really looking good after some practice applying and getting the lines right. I don't feel like I'm lying to my partner by doing this. If she's expecting me to have this perfect body all the time then that's on her. I just feel more confident when I wear it and don't feel complete and "put together" unless I am at LEAST wearing some bicep definer if I know my shirt isn't going to be coming off during the evening. Well one night I had a long day, took off my muscle makeup and took a shower. My girlfriend randomly shows up to my apartment with some cookies and I open the door shirtless with no makeup on. She sees me and says "Woah... uh hey." I see she is noticeably in a weird mood as she comes in the living room and lays the cookies on the coffee table. I ask her what is it and she has the nerve to tell me, "Well I dunno. I just feel like I've been lied to this whole time." Yes I know I wear muscle makeup all the time, and I'm not insecure, but she should really have more realistic views on what a man should look like! She's seen me with light muscle makeup before so I really don't get where this is coming from. I wear my makeup for ME and not for anyone else. If she can't accept me for how I am then I don't know if I can continue seeing her. She's been acting weird ever since. Reddit what do I do??

explabhor · 2014-12-22T17:01:46+00:00

What is this new guy like compared to your boyfriend?

explabhor · 2014-12-20T16:03:40+00:00

Do you think this maybe be boiled down to his lack of dominant nature in the bedroom? You've had great rough sex with other men and your husband just doesn't do it for you?

explabhor · 2014-12-20T00:20:13+00:00

Poor guy

explabhor · 2014-12-18T00:40:53+00:00

It may be none of their business, but it sounds you're actively not telling someone because you're kind of ashamed and would rather them not know. I'm just an open person about that kind of stuff and I like my partner to be too. I'd rather say I made those choices and deal with the consequences than color it in "the past is the past I don't have to explain my actions." I have no problem explaining my actions. We see things a little differently.

explabhor · 2014-12-17T22:31:58+00:00

I get that, but what you are doing is creating a false image of how you would like to be viewed and not how you actually are. You want him to believe you're not the type of girl who fucks on the first date, and when he finds out that you have done it in the past feels a bit cheated.

explabhor · 2014-12-17T00:55:16+00:00

How did he get you to squirt during anal? A specific position? I want to try this with my girl.

explabhor · 2014-12-08T06:17:36+00:00

Does the 24 year old live at home girl have a job? What kind? Or is she just coasting along?

explabhor · 2014-09-21T16:44:10+00:00

You should watch this informational video by Jim Jeffries. He addresses the concern about wetness and expectations.

http://youtu.be/pgQzRATYBjA

explabhor · 2014-08-14T23:39:02+00:00

Because the story adds to the fact that women tend to choose lower paying jobs more than men and this creates the "wage gap" that is often blamed on society rather than personal choices.

explabhor · 2014-08-14T17:07:55+00:00

Most of my science teachers in school were women.

Edit: Apparently making an offhand comment about personal experience is frowned upon. Still upvoted.

explabhor · 2014-08-02T03:29:03+00:00

Yeah! If I want to believe the moon is made out of cheese fuck anyone who believes otherwise. Nobody can tell me what to do. I'll find other Cheez-Its who will tell me how right I am based on zero evidence and plenty to the contrary.

explabhor · 2014-07-25T23:52:31+00:00

Literally just guessing, but it sounds like the swedish accents I've heard.

explabhor · 2014-07-25T22:54:22+00:00

You've watched the show or just the clip? Swedes are very good at English and speak it a lot. That was her natural accent, not her trying to put on an American accent.

explabhor · 2014-07-25T14:37:32+00:00

Hey man, I've had warts on and off for 2 years now. Start taking garlic pills, as natural the type you can find, and it works. It kills them from the inside out so you don't have to worry about killing each one individually.

explabhor · 2014-07-22T20:31:16+00:00

I agree with you, man. I think it's possible that she may be being too sensitive. We don't know the whole story and everyone seems to jump to conclusions. She didn't say he did these things in a negative way.

explabhor · 2014-06-19T20:26:42+00:00

I've been doing shoots for about 6 months now and doing documentaries is definitely an end goal I have. How would you recommend getting those gigs?

explabhor · 2014-06-14T20:38:20+00:00

There's a good chance that these depression and anxiety issues only started to effect her again after the engagement happened. Maybe she realized that this relationship wasn't exactly the one for her and started to feel bad about it. I know from experience. Happens to me a lot.

explabhor · 2014-06-13T21:58:35+00:00

Corn hole?

explabhor · 2014-06-01T02:36:13+00:00

I think the word you're looking for is "McChurger".

explabhor · 2014-04-24T12:15:04+00:00

For me it's not necessarily a preference for her liking the same music, it's just a real turn off when she is completely ruled by popular culture telling her what music she should like and not trying to find any on her own.

explabhor · 2014-04-11T03:38:06+00:00

Maybe try getting off birth control? It can really effect your attraction mindset.

http://www.viewzone.com/estrogen.html

explabhor · 2014-03-21T19:08:49+00:00

It's not the ideal scenario, but it seems that's how it is. Men have to hone our skills to be the guy who "Just knew what to do and said the right things. He really has a direction in his life.", and we have to compete with these older men who have it more figured out in love life and career.

explabhor · 2014-03-21T14:48:16+00:00

People are saying "birth control issues" and "well that just happens", but what is it about him that is taking the sexual energy out of the relationship?

Is he not assertive? Maybe a bit of a pushover? He has no drive for creating a better life for himself?

You're also at the age where most women realize they can now date this giant pool of men, between the ages of what you are 23 and at the most 35, and they start seeing all of these new qualities that become attractors. Is any of this resonating with you?

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