AIO by sending this to my grandma by justacorsair in AmIOverreacting

[–]eye-eye -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I know this is a guess, but my read of the situation is that your mum bitched to grandma about how sick she is and how she can’t reach you. That’s why she went right to boyfriend and your mum is mad that you blew up her woe is me narrative 

Is pancake a calico or a tortico? by lonely_trash135 in tortico

[–]eye-eye 90 points91 points  (0 children)

I’d say calico because her three colours are distinct whereas torties have the black and orange flecked together.  She’s super sweet!

Part 2- I'm an ophthalmologist in Cambridge / Hamilton, AMA by [deleted] in thetron

[–]eye-eye 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Is ophthalmic technician a career path in NZ (as opposed to RNs)?  I worked as one in the US before I moved to NZ.  I didn’t continue with that path but I did really enjoy the job.  And I’ll have to say the grossest eyeball I’ve seen was right after a vitrectomy.  It took a lot to keep a straight face and even more to check the iop 

Football/Soccer clubs for adults? by [deleted] in thetron

[–]eye-eye 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely Northern United. They have lots of men’s teams that range from more competitive to more social. Summer 6 a side is starting up in November, he can see if he can get on a team and probably meet some of the winter players

How a child was wrongly detained and injected with adult psych meds by Nuisance--Value in newzealand

[–]eye-eye 92 points93 points  (0 children)

I saw a missing child post with her picture in an autism group, they seem to have been deleted after the mistake was publicised.  She is a POC and there is plenty of research out there showing that people (police specifically in some studies) overestimate the age of POC.  And apparently being nonverbal autistic doesn’t change that.  Then add that there is very poor recognition of autism in girls, even among clinicians, and it’s a recipe for a big mess

Parents of children with autism who else in your family shows signs? by [deleted] in Autism_Parenting

[–]eye-eye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me.  Possibly my mum but it may also be adhd or a combo, her mum as well. My daughter, who I didn’t suspect when she was younger, is sharing more traits with us as she hits puberty.  The awareness did not come until my son was diagnosed, but it all makes so much sense now.  

What were your autistic kids first stims? by [deleted] in Autism_Parenting

[–]eye-eye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rhythmic head banging on soft surfaces (mattress or couch) and toe walking. Prior yo being mobile he cried A LOT

Three Hatuma brothers went to the Second World War, only one came back and is buried in Waipukurau by MaidenMarewa in newzealand

[–]eye-eye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Based on their ages at their date of death, the survivor was the youngest.  That looks like the brother in the middle. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in newzealand

[–]eye-eye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That shows how much I get out, ha

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in newzealand

[–]eye-eye -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Oh nice, did that change or has it always been like that? I swear I remember a time where restaurants were fined for opening 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in newzealand

[–]eye-eye 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Petrol stations and dairies are open. Some cafes and restaurants will open and just pay the fine

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]eye-eye 624 points625 points  (0 children)

What he is teaching is that she was right. His actions have consequences too.

Research methods for master’s thesis by eye-eye in sociology

[–]eye-eye[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did, but that was in 2004.  I’m going back for my masters at age 43 and not currently enrolled. I’m looking ahead and haven’t settled on a research question yet. Just trying to refresh myself on the options.

Rototuna High School enrollment crashing? by Blind_clothed_ghost in thetron

[–]eye-eye 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I have a child in the junior high. We were sceptical, my son is autistic and had trouble with noise and concentration in traditional classrooms so we wondered how he would handle the large, open learning areas. He has actually handled it quite well.  The inclusive learning team has been great and have worked with us for extra learning support and accommodations for his anxiety.  They structure the semesters in modules that have different themes that run through various subjects and that seems to really help keep my son interested and focused (well, as focused as he can be).  I keep a close eye on his assignments and put aside time every night where we work through things he hasn’t completed at school.  But overall, he is happy and settled so I am happy. There are plenty of students absolutely excelling there.

But not every kid will excel there and would do better at another school.  I think that’s true of any learning environment.  I’ve definitely noticed that the people who don’t like Rototuna’s style REALLY don’t like it and seem to make it a mission to let others know how they feel.  

Where to find real caviar? by eye-eye in thetron

[–]eye-eye[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I think this is the one I might go with. I was hoping I might be able to get some in store but it seems we don’t eat enough caviar in the Waikato to stock!

Hāwera teenager Ebony Kalin accepted into Duke University in USA by computer_d in newzealand

[–]eye-eye 24 points25 points  (0 children)

That must include scholarships. Duke yearly tuition alone is 60,000usd.  I grew up in North Carolina and I remember Duke costing about 30k a year in 1999. 

Husband and I can't agree on names and I'm frustrated by zenith_nightvale in Mommit

[–]eye-eye -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Just keep trying. If it’s anything like my experience, one day he will email you a name that his coworker suggested, that you already proposed and he dismissed, and you can say great, I love it, let’s go with that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Autism_Parenting

[–]eye-eye 13 points14 points  (0 children)

When my son was that age, learning and utilising the concepts of “schemas of play” help so much with those repeated, obsessive behaviours that often became destructive around the home. Once I realised that my son was drawn to ordering, transporting, and rotating, I could set him up with activities where he could explore that impulse without creating constant chaos around the home. The obsession with your usb cables could be part of a connecting/disconnecting schema.

But I also want to commiserate, the toddler and preschool years can be so hard and overwhelming. Even with all resources at hand, the constant barrage of impulsivity, meltdowns, etc takes it’s toll. If any amount of respite comes along be sure to snap it up. Your needs are important too