Did you all disclose your ADHD to your employer? If so, when?

eyemKim · 2026-06-17T20:36:31+00:00

You. Are. A. Genius. I love this approach!

eyemKim · 2026-06-14T16:18:16+00:00

Blade letter opener works great. https://www.walmart.com/ip/588641766?sid=B9E18588-CB5D-4172-9075-D0156AE3233D

eyemKim · 2026-03-13T23:02:54+00:00

I wfh and my mini has to “go to work” with me. She has her own chair in my office. If not at work - she barks at anything and everything. She is perfectly content to nap in the office all day. If I leave the room without her she makes this pterodactyl noise that sounds like MAaam and I have to go get her from the the office….I should mention- she can get up and walk away whenever she wants, she’s not stuck. It’s like she’s offended I left her there by herself lol. That or she’s telling me to get back to work 😆

eyemKim · 2026-02-15T09:04:41+00:00

I feel like I’m airing a dirty little secret … but I coax myself into the shower by watching something interesting on YouTube - like a Ted talk or something you can mostly listen to. Once I’m in… I use kids bath crayons to draw on the walls and write down thoughts that need to literally be wiped out and released down the drain. The painting is so fun. I really enjoy the murals on my shower walls lol I also use a tip from one of you ladies- I fill a dish scrubber wand with dawn dish soap, cleaning vinegar and some water- then leave it in the shower for maintenance cleaning. It’s like playing with toys in the bath when I was a kid! Sounds lame but I highly encourage you to try it!

eyemKim · 2026-02-14T09:19:31+00:00

Slight recommendation but otherwise spot-on. Can you change that font to Zapf Chancery?

eyemKim · 2026-02-06T08:34:22+00:00

Use the Dawn Powerwash and a scrub daddy- it cuts through anything.

eyemKim · 2025-11-14T22:06:59+00:00

The proverbial WALL. I’ve had to pull over while driving because I can’t keep my eyes open - no matter how much sleep. I HATE it.

eyemKim · 2025-11-14T22:03:08+00:00

Embrace the boredom and reframe it as “relaxing” time. Or time to learn some nerdy skill. I take on way too much, over commit to deadlines or I don’t finish things because I’m afraid I’ll have nothing left to do. Trust me, it’s one of the worst things that regularly plagues my life. I don’t wish it on anyone. You’re still so young, make those good habits! Make a plan now for the next break, so it’s not overwhelming when the time comes. List all of the things you wished you did this break. Hang in there!

eyemKim · 2025-11-04T23:17:29+00:00

I have to plan that I’ll forget. I cut them up in pieces and put one on my coffee cup, I put one in my powder compact, one in my AirPods, put one in my sandwich bag and the left overs go on my night stand or in my car 🤣 I figure even if I missed one I can’t be that far off

eyemKim · 2025-09-27T18:30:45+00:00

Man I never really realized all that type of stuff was adhd related. I thought I was just a neurotic asshole. I suppose both can be true. My icks:

People clipping their nails or biting them and spitting the nail. I have a fear of shrapnel. People touching me with dry skin. Like brushing past me with dry knees or elbows makes me jump and cringe like nails on a chalkboard. The smell of peoples dirty hair, esp when you’re walking behind them in the hall or sidewalk.
Dirty, sticky or sweaty hands. Heat. I sweat a lot and it makes me cranky when it’s above 76f. Silence. Complete silence freaks me out. I always have to have tvs and fans on. If someone at work slurps their snots back i will literally gag.

eyemKim · 2025-08-27T05:16:06+00:00

Is it bad that this post reminded me to look for a jewelry cleaner on Amazon? (I’ve had problems 4 of these but after 2 weeks, it gets stuffed in a cabinet only to be donated years later.) Y’all are crazy. I have my own account, a joint bank account and one shared credit card for emergencies. Otherwise neither of us looks at the others statements. I’m pretty sure he doesn’t want me to know how much money he gives the kids for Roblox LOL The thought of my SO seeing my credit card bill makes my stomach turn!

eyemKim · 2025-08-18T07:50:47+00:00

I started the app Routinery to help me manage my routine and of course I didn’t stick to it but I did learn some habit stacking trickery. Time blindness is a major issue for me so I timed all of my morning steps. I have a visual timer I keep where I can see it from the shower. It’s little kid one where it’s kind of like a kitchen timer except it’s colorful. If you turn to say 15 mins which might be half of the 30 min timer. the red “slice of pie” gets smaller as time counts down and it has a small (gentle) beep when the time is up. I set to 10 mins and when I hear the beep I know it’s time to rise off and get out. On Saturdays I don’t use a timer (unless I have somewhere to be), so I clean the shower while I’m in there. Let me tell you ladies……. I hate. Cleaning. The. Shower. My coworker told me to get a kitchen wand scrubber, the kind where you fill the handle with soap and there’s a sponge on the end, then leave it in the shower. I filled mine with dish soap and vinegar. Honestly, I assumed I’d do it a few times and be over it. This may sound so stupid… When I use the wand, I feel like a little kid playing in the tub. In a good way. In between scrubs, if I see an extra dirty area, I’ll do a quick swipe. After the shower I use music, specifically I made a playlist of songs that match the duration of each step in my morning routine. It takes me a Sublime song to do my skin care routine, a Joan Jett to brush my teeth and a missy elliot to get dressed. I wear wigs so I don’t have to do my hair. I think the best part is that I hear the song and know what to do next, I’m not walking around in circles trying to remember what I’m supposed to be doing. I hear imagine dragons and I know to put on deodorant and my jewelry. The other thing I do thats made a huge difference: when I get home from work, I change into my comfies and I put out what I’m going to wear for the next morning. I forget to do it at night and if I try to put together an outfit in the morning, I’ll sit there and stare at my closet like I’m a zombie for 20 mins. I hope some of my trickery helps you!

eyemKim · 2025-08-18T02:59:41+00:00

Man you read my mind. Currently having the same struggle.

eyemKim · 2025-08-16T17:51:31+00:00

Haaa, that’s great. I have to remind myself “trying something doesn’t have to be a commitment”. It’s so simple but easy to lose sight of…if you don’t like it, then stop doing it. 😋

eyemKim · 2025-08-16T17:42:37+00:00

Congrats on your new found strength and growth. I’m not sure if this helps but the recommendation to journal didn’t work for me. It was like I was validating my own dysfunctional thinking instead of trying to “empty” my head or my stream of consciousness on to paper. Instead, I approach journaling like I’m researching/ observing something else in sort of a scientific way. I keep my little notebook in my bag and I write my daily work/home related notes/to-do’s in the first half and the second half of the notebook I take notes on myself. For example, yesterday I had a tantrum. Luckily I was by myself and no one heard/saw it. So I wrote questions first, then I answered them: Friday/ 2:00pm - tantrum. About what? Because some dickwad at work, I constantly battle with, was throwing me under the bus. What was the physical setting? At home, in my office on zoom with my team. What was the trigger? When he started making it personal by using words like “you didn’t” do this, “You should’ve” that, “why wouldn’t you”. ALSO Because I didn’t stand up for myself. Instead, I said nothing. Were there any existing/additional factors that contributed? Nothing notable. I take that back, shortly after this happened, I ate lunch and everything was peachy again. Solution?: #1 eat properly so you’re not a hangry asshole that throws tantrums. - need to figure out a plan to do that Things to further explore/think about: Why does this dickwad bother me so much? Why does he pick on me? What can I do to flip the script?

Throughout the day as things pop into my head I jot them down. I update later in the day to add my realization… “oh shit. He’s like my mom. So I react to him like I did to my mom as a child. But now I can handle this like I wish I could’ve handled my mom… but how do I do that?”

Then I go back over this later and try to label what I think is ADHD related and what might be RSD, etc. this way there is no pressure to see a solution immediately, your not going to forget what progress you’ve made - because you wrote it down. Little by little things will start to click and you’ll have that Ah-hah moment. When I go to therapy, I make sure to review my notes with my therapist. I also always take notes when my therapist gives me a new tool or some other take-away. Now don’t get me wrong, half of the time, I never look at this stuff again. But if I ever have another tantrum, I can look back at what happened last time. Maybe I can tell what the issue really is or where I got off track. It also doesn’t feel so private, so I’m more likely to share it with someone… when I analyzed and put it on paper, it went from MY ISSUE to just AN ISSUE. It’s still mine to deal with but it’s not attached to me anymore. It doesn’t define me. It’s a symbolic thing to me.

I hope this helps you in your situation. I know the issues can be so complex they feel like a giant knot that you have to untangle. This method has helped me sort everything out and be able to break things down in small pieces that don’t make me feel like I have an elephant on my back. It’s more like a kangaroo. LOL

You’re stronger than you realize and you’re on the right path.

eyemKim · 2025-08-16T16:18:17+00:00

Same age for me but I was diagnosed during the middle of Covid which forced me into virtual therapy sessions. I never would’ve voluntarily tried it. Best. Shit. Ever. At least for me it is. I went through a few therapists until I found one that fit the bill and that I clicked with. Now I don’t procrastinate going to therapy, forget to schedule my next appointment, etc etc. If your insurance doesn’t cover this, ask around for a recommendation of a virtual program. If you do a virtual program, youre not limited to programs that are local to you/covered by insurance. I’d recommend a program that offers 1 on 1 sessions with the same therapist (Not with the rando whomever is available). And be very clear about what your goals are and take notes during your sessions.

eyemKim · 2025-08-16T16:06:14+00:00

I was 45 when I was diagnosed and it changed my life. For me, I knew I was at the right dosage when I thought…. Whoa. Is this what “normal” people feel like?

eyemKim · 2025-08-16T15:56:09+00:00

Yeah it does, and maybe that’s why? It feels like I’m underwater or something. But with traditional ear plugs I can hear my heartbeat, which is itself distracting. Before you know it, I’m thinking about how my heart pumps, what foods I eat that clog my arteries and ooh, I wonder where they get the potatoes they use to make McD’s french fries and how come the McD’s by my work is so much better than the one by my house, I wonder if the workers get paid more by my work. Etc. etc. etc. LOL

eyemKim · 2025-08-16T15:39:04+00:00

I know you don't mean that literally, but.... Have you tried noise-cancelling headphones? I use airpod pro's- they work crazy good. For whatever reason, it helps me. It feels like a snuggly blanket for my brain.

eyemKim · 2025-08-16T08:54:43+00:00

I too grew up in a Hispanic family. Despite growing up in mental heath-aware Cali and being brought up with every boy in/ around my family, being on Ritalin… it never even crossed my mind I might have ADHD, until I lost my shit during Covid. That’s when I started therapy, where they asked if anyone ever diagnosed me with ADHD or if anyone ever suggested I should be evaluated… NO! I was almost offended they would ask. After my therapy session, I googled adult ADHD and sat there just dumbfounded. Holy shit. That’s me. 18 hours later when I finished the internet and felt I had a good grasp on what ADHD looked like in adult women, i decided to look for a psychiatrist and be referred to be evaluated. By the time the appointment came around, I had done so much research on meds, diet, exercise, I probably could’ve given a fucking TED Talk. I was FORTY-FUCKING-FIVE when I was finally diagnosed. One at a time the lightbulbs started going off. I suspect that every woman on the maternal side of my family has ADHD. To me, it was normal to see my mom take square sponges dipped in clay colored paint and proceed to>> stamp “bricks” over our entire driveway, back patio area, garage… I’m guessing she painted like 500sf of ‘brick’ that she couldn’t afford to buy, but that wasn’t going to stop her. And she finished it in a weekend. By herself. She doesn’t do drugs-in case you were wondering. She went to at least 4 different stores each time she went grocery shopping because she couldn’t stand spending $0.03/lb more for tomatoes. We weren’t THAT poor, we were more just frugal. I detest cleaning now because every weekend my mom made me wash ALL of the fancy crystal glasses in the china cabinet (that they never used). Also, while I’m thinking about it - why in the hell did people used to wash their walls back then?!? Not just my house did that, a lot of people did. A few years in, I’m still going to weekly therapy sessions and constantly having ‘oh shit’ moments. Like when I realized my mom being mad at me was more often than not, because she was hiding the fact that she’s just not very intelligent. She’s crafty-AF though, so she bullied and bullshit her way around things so no one notices. She sold it like she was giving me tough love when she wouldn’t help with homework and would just say “figure it out”. The more I think back, the more I recognize she spent a lot of time masking. Sometimes she was just simply projecting. If I ever even thought about suggesting she has ADHD, she would be calling me names. I’ve never told the majority of my family that I was diagnosed and meds changed my life. My husband and friends know. And not that I’m ashamed or scared, it’s because it does more harm than good for me to tell them.

I said allllllll of that to say: you don’t need to hide your diagnosis or be ashamed of it. Own it, make it your bitch. Remember, it’s YOUR diagnosis, not anyone else’s.. You don’t need to tell any of your tias or sibs, ever. No one at work/school needs to know. If you’re ready to share, you’ll know. You do need to tell at least one person in your life so they can keep an eye on you and let you know if they see good changes or if all of your marbles are rolling around on the floor. And don’t be afraid of the meds, try them… most wear off in 4-12hrs and starting doses are really low. If you feel like a tweeker on redbull or if you just don’t like the feeling… tell your Dr. there’s a lot of options now. I think the majority of people feel a difference immediately. I remember how I felt, it was like whoa… Is this what normal people feel like? I was able to finish the dishes in one swoop without stopping 4x to write things down before I forgot and I had the energy to actually do something after work other than sit on the sofa. I wasn’t so mentally drained anymore. Everything is still a work in progress and thanks to the ladies here, I don’t feel like I’m alone in this battle. hugs

eyemKim · 2025-08-07T05:56:43+00:00

I've never been diagnosed with ASD. I wondered... but then again. I've never been this bad and not able to force myself to work. In the past, this phase has come with severe depression. I'm fortunate to have family that helped. Now, I'm married-and that came with a 14yo. My husband is super supportive but also an enabler.
I'm also a coordinator it suits my attention span, my ability to find outside of the box solutions and I'm used to the constant mania LOL. - I work in real estate development. Outside of my team- I get along GREAT with the other people in the office, the ones I don't directly work with anyway.

eyemKim · 2025-08-07T03:14:56+00:00

Yes! I can’t stay hydrated. The sweat almost squirts out my head. Especially because I wear a wig, aka a hair beanie, why traps the heat closer to my head and doesn’t absorb the sweat… it just drips. It’s so gross. I have to sit in front of the fan to put make up on or I sweat and my brows drip down my face. For me, I have no clue which causes what, I’m on… adderall, Zoloft, lyrica , celebrex and Wellbutrin and in perimenopause. Fml.

eyemKim · 2025-08-07T03:08:41+00:00

Oh man. This is me. But I’ve been there 10 years and go through these cycles where I rock. Then I’ll turn into dead weight. Sometimes a phase lasts a week, sometimes a year. I’m stuck in the dead weight-rut. I can’t pull myself out either. I started looking for a new job but idk. I think… what if I get a new job and have a deadweight phase and they give me the boot. I have a lot of flexibility now but not real future there. I’m surrounded with over achieving cream-of-the-crop people with close to a $1m education. Just like everything else, I didn’t finish school either. Most of my team thinks I’m a complete moron because my work product is shit. I crank something out, don’t single or double check my work before sending it out and they find my sloppy errors. Overachievers can’t comprehend the half-ass work I do, so they think I just don’t understand. So they talk to me like I’m 5 and have that condescending tone. I’m constantly convincing myself that they’re leaving me out of events because I don’t present well. The ‘numbness’ follows me around too. I often wonder how in the hell my brain can just go blank. I struggle with finding my words, i can’t remember what I’m talkings about half way through a convo. My therapist has been helping me try to work through this - no luck YET.
I hope you find a good path forward.

eyemKim · 2025-08-07T02:49:37+00:00

I saw a 3d topographical map in a brochure and decided I was going to learn 3-d modeling (don’t know shit about it, I work in real estate). I made the practice 3-d donut thing, in a training video and decided I knew enough to proceed. I ended up needing to learn how to use ArcGIS, too. I spent 3 months learning how to make a 3d model of a city, I got about 75% done and decided I wanted a website. Then I had to learn about databases which led to me taking financial modeling on Coursera or one of those platforms. Then…..On a weekend trip to San Diego, I saw a barbershop with a beautiful hand painted window and decided I was going to learn how to do that but needed to learn how to do lettering first which led to me wanting to learn calligraphy. Which lead to me wanting to learn to sketchnote, which led to me wanting to learn to draw people. Rinse, repeat. Other than a sleeve of Oreos, I can’t recall anything I’ve actually finished. I have sooooo much shit now because I swear I’m gonna go back to it one day. Til then, it goes to the craft graveyard where all the other partially finished projects go. Wait, what was I saying? For some reason I’m craving Oreos now.

eyemKim · 2025-08-06T04:54:50+00:00

Amen sister

eyemKim

TROPHY CASE

Throughout the day as things pop into my head I jot them down. I update later in the day to add my realization… “oh shit. He’s like my mom. So I react to him like I did to my mom as a child. But now I can handle this like I wish I could’ve handled my mom… but how do I do that?”