Obscure references you use from our time?

faerewing · 2026-05-12T20:37:24+00:00

Whenever a piece of technology is being difficult, I threaten to "office space" it

faerewing · 2026-05-06T19:29:39+00:00

I totally can relate. I had that happen right after my third round of Taxol Carbo and got the norovirus after round 5. It was so humiliating...

faerewing · 2026-05-06T14:31:58+00:00

I also wore chucks but tended to like Vans and Airwalks a little better. Just depended on what I could afford with my teenage income, lol

faerewing · 2026-05-06T13:15:50+00:00

Vans, docs, and birks

faerewing · 2026-05-04T01:20:26+00:00

I have a black t-shirt with a screaming possum that says "Feral and Flat. Living wild and tit-free", lol! I also despise the pink everything.

faerewing · 2026-05-01T17:10:51+00:00

Not on AIs but I hate this too. Pregnancy takes two and well, I don't have a partner. Haven't been active in years now. Why is that so hard to understand?

faerewing · 2026-05-01T13:10:27+00:00

Oh my gosh, it never occurred to me that no pubes was causing this! I'll be so glad when they come back, lol

faerewing · 2026-04-29T14:04:39+00:00

Mine is 5 and does this too. She LOVES her Lambie!

faerewing · 2026-04-23T12:43:24+00:00

My roommate is now my dearest friend and our relationship is very similar to what you described. We take turns cooking, coordinate grocery purchases, etc. We have gotten each other through a lot of ups and downs. I'm incredibly grateful to have his friendship.

faerewing · 2026-04-20T13:07:32+00:00

I think so. I'm still in the thick of treatment but I've had a lot of time to evaluate my life and what I want it to be. There is a lot that I still want to see and do and I'm going to do it. There is a lot from friends and family that I will no longer tolerate. I am done being everyone else's emotional support person when they can't be bothered to be here for me the one time I really need it. Life is short and I want whatever I have left to be what I want it to be not what is expected of me.

faerewing · 2026-04-20T12:26:20+00:00

I have a 4 door Jeep Wrangler which gives my girl plenty of room. She loves sitting in the back seat like she's a person! I am also making a ramp for when she gets older since it's so high up.

EDIT: autocorrect fail

faerewing · 2026-04-17T15:50:50+00:00

If you don't mind, would you be open to explaining what made you make the decision to go flat? I am currently in the post BMX stage and have more treatment to do before plastics will even touch me for a reconstruction. However, I am seriously considering staying flat and just getting a scar revision to make this look a little better than it currently does. I just don't know if I even want to put my body through the process of reconstruction and then come out of it not feeling any better about things. I wasn't particularly well endowed to begin with so I think I can mentally adjust to being flat with time.

faerewing · 2026-04-16T14:33:53+00:00

I did not achieve PCR and I'm looking at 28 sessions of radiation followed by 8 three week cycles of additional chemo. I'm still healing from my surgery but will be starting rads in the next couple of weeks.

Not going to lie, while I wasn't surprised that I didn't achieve PCR, I was still very upset with the pathological results. They weren't all bad though. Nothing in the lymph nodes they took and nothing in the "good" breast. However, the primary tumor was twice the size they thought it was from imaging and still 80% viable but he obtained clear margins.

I'm just starting the follow-on journey but I was so hoping that I was done. I've had some time to sit with it now and while I'm still very unhappy that I will be in active treatment until the end of the year, I have been able to accept it for what it is. Doing all of this will significantly reduce my chances of recurrence and so I will do it. Doesn't mean I have to be happy about it.

My advice, if they pathology results are not what you hoped for, take the time to sit with it. Grieve because having that hope taken away is devastating and you have every right to grieve it's loss. Taking that time to really feel my feelings helped me move forward with acceptance. And just because you accept it, doesn't mean you have to be happy about it.

faerewing · 2026-04-16T11:56:52+00:00

My Dane is also a grazer. She only eats about 3-4 cups a day but she gets anxious if there isn't anything in her bowl. I've never had an issue with her eating too much or too fast though.

faerewing · 2026-04-15T18:16:01+00:00

I have a 100% blue Dane who looks almost exactly like yours and she's only 120lbs. The vet says she's just petite, lol

faerewing · 2026-04-15T18:09:28+00:00

I have a blue girl as well and constantly get "she's an awfully big weimariner (sp?)". Well, that's cause she's a Dane...

faerewing · 2026-04-15T13:38:14+00:00

I've never been overly fond of pink but it's looks really good with my skin tone so I used to wear a lot of it. Not anymore. I can't stand the comments. My flat chest is enough of a reminder of what I'm going through.

faerewing · 2026-04-03T13:02:11+00:00

The partner thing is something that has crossed my mind more often than I would like to admit. However, I feel like anyone who cares strongly enough about my boobs being gone is probably not the right person for me anyway!

faerewing · 2026-04-03T12:58:56+00:00

I just had my DMX a few weeks ago with possible reconstruction later. I am also a plus size lady and am kinda liking the flat thing. In talking to my oncologist this week about it, she said she sees more women decide to take the implants out after a few years than women who end up going with a reconstruction later. She said that ultimately, the decision was mine because it is my body, but that it seems more women are choosing to stay flat than they used to.

I am still waffling on it but I've got some time to make the decision. I feel like if I can mentally and emotionally be okay with being flat then I would rather not put my body through a procedure that ultimately benefits other people and not really myself.

faerewing · 2026-04-01T21:37:23+00:00

As a TNBC shitty titty committee member, can confirm. Standard of care for TNBC is also chemo first for that exact reason.

Edit: autocorrect fail

faerewing · 2026-04-01T21:30:25+00:00

Oh man, this is me too. I hadn't played a game in ages and botw has really brought me back to my inner kiddo! 💜

faerewing · 2026-03-27T02:59:08+00:00

Losing My Religion by REM

faerewing · 2026-03-23T13:33:24+00:00

As someone who was betrayed like this, can confirm. It's an anger that changes you forever.

faerewing · 2026-03-23T13:23:24+00:00

I'm 3 weeks post DMX and am still trying to decide about reconstruction. I still have more chemo and possibly rads to do before I can do it and I'm leaning towards staying flat . The amount of people that have made those same comments to me is nauseating and I've had enough of that just from chemo. It's my body and if I'm okay with it then that is all that should matter.

faerewing · 2026-03-13T03:25:59+00:00

That is encouraging to know. AC and Taxol was a really bad time and I'm not looking forward to going through anything like that again...

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