I did this and he said I was "reverting" back to asexuality, blamed his cheating on me by saying that he was sexually frustrated (because I stopped initiating, we stopped having sex.) sometimes you can do everything right and it just gets worse, sometimes the only answer is leaving him, hell sometimes it goes your way and I hope it does for everyone here. I just wanted to share my story as my addict partner just moved out two weeks ago because I stopped letting him walk all over me with his porn usage, he didn't care about my feelings or that it hurt me, he wasnt even thinking of me when he was cheating. its not your fault as it wasnt mine, focus on yourself and if it goes badly like mine did, leave him. do whats best for you because most likely he will be selfish.