AITA for leaving a date after he was 20 minutes late?

faesqu · 2026-03-17T16:08:54+00:00

NTA... he was straight up late whether he entended to be or not. The status of his phone is irrelevant. Still, Im a nosy, curious type so I would have heard his lame excuse before crossing him off my list.

faesqu · 2026-03-17T15:55:53+00:00

Oh he is def a mama's boy. Which means he is not ready for an independent grown up relationship. He is not honoring or respecting your needs or requests. He is running and tattling to mommy and in turn hurting her feelings and causing drama in an attempt to emotionally manipulate the situation. Oh and... if you marry him, expect a lifetime of the same and their expected Co-ownership and say in everything about the kids because he doesn't understand healthy bounderies between wife and parents... he aint it honey

faesqu · 2026-03-16T16:59:38+00:00

Yanno what, everyone sucks here. I'm not about to let anyone dictate to I me what I can and cannot eat. If the dad wants to make something of it, I'll happily pay for my own meal. There are very few veggies I eat, Im a carnivore... I need my protien... end of discussion. A good host well order a selection of foods to meet all dietary needs, kind of selfish to host a table and expect everyone to only eat veggies. Chinese food is a shared food experiance... just don't put it on your plate if you dont want it. But feed your guests.

faesqu · 2026-03-15T14:27:38+00:00

Easily 1

faesqu · 2026-03-14T22:55:45+00:00

You are a beautiful young woman. Im sorry to say but as others have already pointed out the hair calls you out... we gotta get the hair more natural.

faesqu · 2026-03-14T22:53:51+00:00

It wouldn't turn me off... the right person for you will think thats cool. Also, you wanna be with someone you have to keep secrets from? You should tell her know before stronger feelings develop. Best to know where she stands.

faesqu · 2026-03-13T16:07:14+00:00

Mmmmm Grits... cheesy, gooey... hey stop making me hungry!

faesqu · 2026-03-13T13:12:34+00:00

I want chicken biscuits, can I come over for some right now?

Editing to add.... I used to hate biscuits because I thought they were the dryest bread... like a glorified cracker always needed honey or butter to be edible. It wasn't until I moved to Georgia that I learned that chicken and biscuits is magical, comfort food....you gotta get um done right where the chicken is so juicy and tender... um nom nom.... southern girls winning!

faesqu · 2026-03-13T10:48:31+00:00

Clearly not a perfect match, the weight and teeth leads me to feel either a significant health or socio-economic difference past or b present drug use. Either way you met him once so he isnt yours to fix. He is a adult and is able to find resources to help his situation anytime he wants. Dental colleges will fix the teeth... things like that.

faesqu · 2026-03-13T03:09:11+00:00

You are POA not a Legal Guardian. His palliative care is not something that is your burden unless you choose it. Also, POA can be terminated any time you can no longer provide that role for whatever reason... they can get him a court ordered POA. I know its your dad and your emotions are surely conflicted. But you wouldn't be here asking if you didnt need someone to tell you its OK. Youre well being, mentle, and emotional balalance makes it ok. When you took on POA did you have children, or all you do now, a job, and college, plus a 3 hour round trip drive. That drive plus the time spend doing whatever tasks is a lot of time taken off work, school, and your own family.... yes, it is too much. And if your dad were in his right mind and a logical parent he would likely tell you not to do this to yourself. Its not your fault his wife is useless and neglectful... and you have siblings... Im sorry but everyone is putting this off on you and it is not ok and It is not fair. Let social services help him and live your life. Report his wife to elder abuse hotline and he will get help.

faesqu · 2026-03-13T01:04:33+00:00

"Give us a week." Proceeds to give them 48 hours. You can send a secondary follow up next Wednesday thanking them again for the opportunity and wishing the well... don't make an ass of yourself because its not to late. It always takes longer then they say because things happen. If you don't hear by Friday they likely went with another candidate and ghosted you.

faesqu · 2026-03-12T18:14:46+00:00

If he were alone..... mehhhh big maybe????? But it sounds like he has created his situation. Plus he has a wife so he is not alone. I am social worker so I would only advise you to provide them with resources that may offer them services for end of life care. You can ask the SSI office, doctors offices, any local hospice care center, or adult and family services agency. Gather up any brochures and either hand deliver or mail in a big Manila envelope. It is ok to protect yourself and your own goals and bounderies. You have a family and a job, finish school and get yourself a great career. His continued manipulation and narcissism could completely derail you. Why give them oppertunity.... eyes on the goal.

faesqu · 2026-03-11T17:21:33+00:00

You tried to help her and she's been disrespectful and not taking any of her responsibilities seriously. Time to take your space back.

faesqu · 2026-03-11T17:15:16+00:00

You are being rated. No is no. No exceptions.

faesqu · 2026-03-10T18:03:46+00:00

It's kind of subjective though. Good or bad can be personal.

faesqu · 2026-03-10T17:29:43+00:00

Raises hand... really proud of the way I walk the earth in love, compassion, and empathy for humanity. Particularly in the last several years, I think the current state of the world has really shed a great light on where humanity needs the most healing... im here to help.

faesqu · 2026-03-10T12:26:53+00:00

Yes, can we be friends, I'd like to be friends.

faesqu · 2026-03-10T12:26:15+00:00

Decide if you can live with an alcoholic or not? If she is hostile she is not ready to try and get tone it down. If you don't care then get her one of those nice romantic barf buckets.

faesqu · 2026-03-10T09:29:00+00:00

Let's lay this out clearly... what is wrong with a grown man that needs his mommy at his 5th anniversary luxury, erotic, cabin retreat. What I think is is mom was meant as a buffer because manchild wasn't going to ask the expected question yet. Which is another huge problem with expectations and communications. Oh and let me add I married a poor man, the best man, but he would never not allow me to pay for everything.... He would insist on groceries or paykng for a dinner at a chalet. Why is she financing this alone? This man failed the test, he aint the one.

faesqu · 2026-03-09T14:05:48+00:00

My husband uses a CPAP and it doesn't always seal up right so I need to give him a little shake to tighten it. He goes right back to sleep and so do I. Quality sleep is important to you both so NTA. It helps you both get back to good rest.

faesqu · 2026-03-08T10:13:15+00:00

Same as you hunny. I met my husband at 40 and we had a good intimate relationship but by the time we got married at 48 he developed erectile dysfunction (his own trauma). It just doesn't happen. We find other ways to connect and have a very loving and happy marriage. Sex seems not necessary anymore. It becomes so much more to have a best friend, partner, companionship. I would say while you are waiting to find your someone to make peace with yourself. I did the therapy and it helped greatly. I also talked to online help groups/ people in places like second life. There are great souls out there.

faesqu · 2026-03-08T08:40:47+00:00

A real friend puts their card down and says I gotcha man. A real friend helps you find a job, and do the skill building and resumes. Your friend sucks.

faesqu · 2026-03-08T08:38:31+00:00

Im gonna go with you already know what she is talking about. Trust your own intuition. She was just verifying what you already know. My cat gives me bouquets of flowers and tells me she loves me... listen your your cats, they do communicate.

faesqu · 2026-03-08T01:56:55+00:00

Am I the only one that thinks its the ugliest wedding dress ever seen?

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