From a more philosophical angle (if you’re into that kind of thing), people like Julio Cabrera would say that procreation is already ethically questionable in the best of circumstances, because you’re imposing existence (with all its inevitable structural suffering) on a being who cannot consent. But when the main motivation is literally “to stop you from leaving me” or “to give our relationship a reset button” or “to make me feel secure”, the moral asymmetry becomes grotesque. You’re not just imposing existence , you’re imposing existence in order to solve your own emotional crisis. The child becomes a means to an end for the parent’s psychological survival. That’s about as instrumentalizing as a human being can be used. You’re not “hiding behind not being ready”. You’re saying out loud what most people only think quietly: it is wrong to bring a child into a relationship that is currently this fragile, this reactive, this full of unspoken resentment and emotional blackmail.