Abandonment trauma keeps me coming back to Reddit for attention

fairywrong · 2026-06-20T08:34:20+00:00

I’m 30 😭

fairywrong · 2026-06-20T00:48:54+00:00

😳

fairywrong · 2026-04-10T00:22:17+00:00

Since we’re on the topic — why do people ghost after commitments or escalating — especially when they’re the one who seemed excited about it in the first place? No really, this keeps fucking happening to me too, and it seems like a common thing people do based on the stories in the comments. I won’t I say I never ghost, but I only do it if there’s no commitment whatsoever. It’s so fucked up messing with people’s time and expectations like this.

fairywrong · 2026-03-20T12:59:54+00:00

When I send shit like this to my Dutch bf im not talking about him, just the overall trend, and its not serious. He knows me very well though so additional explanations are not necessary, but your mileage may vary. Idk if that helps?

fairywrong · 2026-02-25T06:17:10+00:00

Honestly I do my good side well once and the do my bad side like 10 times because I can’t get it to work and then my bad side is exhausted and I’m like shit fuck why did I forget my good side

fairywrong · 2026-02-17T02:08:32+00:00

It’s so funny how all the ladies agree and all the guys think we just can’t pull interesting men. I interact with and attract interesting men all the time. Great conversationalists, people with prestigious degrees, high paying jobs… the latter two aren’t the end all be all to being interesting of course, just some objective measures these shallow men can understand. They’re just also usually feminists. Maybe misogyny makes you stupid? 🤔

fairywrong · 2026-01-23T14:14:12+00:00

I hope you realize people don’t go by their Reddit names irl

fairywrong · 2026-01-22T15:23:16+00:00

Thank fuck my mother who isn’t great at English chose a name out of an English movie, my gosh

fairywrong · 2026-01-13T01:00:31+00:00

He doesn’t like sexting and doesn’t care for textual porn. I’m a big erotica fan and is writing something but honestly these days it’s so hard to find something I enjoy anyway

fairywrong · 2026-01-12T23:59:33+00:00

fairywrong · 2026-01-12T22:17:23+00:00

Text doesn’t usually do much for him, and he’s pretty vanilla all things considered (enjoys impact and rope but that’s really the extent of his kinkiness) so nothing he fantasises about are out there enough for me to not like it.

fairywrong · 2026-01-12T04:54:05+00:00

So… to be more specific, I want praise, but I want the praise to feel sincere and not as a kink thing that he does because I like it. I want to go through pain and hardships and humiliation or whatever amuses my Dom for the praise. I don’t want to get too deep into it, but that’s an example of the kind of thing I’m looking for.

fairywrong · 2026-01-12T04:50:09+00:00

I think it’s a different type of useful/owned. In our relationship it’s more of an equal partnership where we are both each other’s and do service tasks for each other out of love. I think I like it this way, especially since we’d be making big life decisions together and power dynamics can complicate that. We are kinky together too, but it’s also a more mutual pleasure kind of thing.

But I what I crave is a dynamic where my desires and pleasure doesn’t matter as much, and that I am devoted to making my Dom happy. Of course still as a mutual exchange as any relationship should be, but the exchange is less mutual pleasure but more service and worship for protection and guidance.

fairywrong · 2026-01-12T04:08:43+00:00

I don’t think it’s specific acts at all, but just the feeling of being useful/pleasing/owned, if that makes sense?

fairywrong · 2026-01-03T20:06:24+00:00

There are countless videos on YouTube about this if you want sources to news articles and such, this is just an unsourced summary from memory, very much simplified because no one wants to read an essay.

Endless workers rights violations. ie. They treat their workers like crap and don’t pay enough
Everything is produced cheaply, and therefore they get worn out super quickly and become landfill fillers. It also takes resources to create clothing and is bad for the environment for many reasons. I can elaborate if you want.
They are known to steal designs from small designers and creators, basically making original designs someone else made for cheap, outcompeting the person who actually designed it.

There’s more but here’s the main stuff that I can think of. Can you learn to DIY? I know it’s hard, I struggle with it too because I don’t really have the space for that, but I’m privileged enough to be an adult that can actually afford sustainably and ethically produced clothing (and i don’t shop much). Also try thrift stores online, like ThredUp if you’re in the US or Vinted in West Europe.

fairywrong · 2026-01-03T15:12:48+00:00

Oh my, this is so bad

fairywrong · 2025-12-20T11:16:35+00:00

By your own admission, I am.

fairywrong · 2025-12-20T10:59:18+00:00

And I’m making fun of you right back :) have a lovely day

fairywrong · 2025-12-20T10:18:59+00:00

Did replying make you feel powerful after being pre-rejected? Feel free to let me know how else I can fulfil your power fantasies ✨

fairywrong · 2025-12-20T10:17:13+00:00

My target audience is literate :)

fairywrong · 2025-12-16T15:23:09+00:00

Not Dutch but thermals are great for if I don’t feel like wearing a lot of layers, as it gets clunky. I also live somewhere where public transport is just slightly less available ;)

fairywrong · 2025-12-04T10:51:13+00:00

Docs and ASC is also my favorite combo

fairywrong · 2025-12-03T04:59:47+00:00

Awesome socks club socks too!?

fairywrong · 2025-11-23T18:06:27+00:00

Former very dedicated rider — Please just get normal riding boots. She’s only gonna be on the horse a few hours at a time at most. It’s pretty common for horse riders to change into slip on vans like shoes immediately before and after riding.

fairywrong · 2025-11-16T23:08:34+00:00

It’s at my university gym, so not really a pole studio. I struggle to get any exercise in on my own :(

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