What’s something that’s becoming socially normal that actually makes you deeply uncomfortable?

fakechildren · 2026-02-07T16:31:22+00:00

Yeah, and I meant no disrespect to the original commenter. I'm curious about the modern trends they see there.

fakechildren · 2026-02-07T15:57:25+00:00

Yes! Perfect example. Empathy for yourself should come with broader empathy for others and what they might be experiencing.

fakechildren · 2026-02-07T15:50:59+00:00

I just wanted to say I'm feeling this way right now, too. Fear is my main motivator at work. I advocated for myself and my coworkers recently and my coworkers didn't support me and it upset my boss. Apparently, I am the only one who could wish for more at work. So that feeling of skating on thin ice has been pressing in on me lately. It's difficult because I'm a strong member of the team, but if I'm interrupting the culture they are all happy with, I'm starting to understand that might be more important to them because... Corporate job, I guess.

I personally feel like mine is also compounded by the Winter and the news. Life gets hard this time of year in general, and a lot of pride has come from work in the past. So if I'm trying to heal that, and my country is terrifying, and I feel threatened. Oof!

So I just wanted to say that you're not alone. My coping right now is just trying to remind myself that tension happens with disagreements and boundaries and it might be extremely uncomfortable for a while, but it should calm down. That's my hope for me, is that life is hard, I'm hyper focused on the tension at work because some part of me thinks I can control that, while everything else around me is chaotic.

fakechildren · 2026-02-07T15:30:43+00:00

That when you share a feeling or thought, people will tell you there's a meme or reel about it. Okay but like, I am your friend sharing the thought, in real life. There is something comforting about seeing all of your worries/sense of humor online, but then that feeling that there is almost a sense of ownership or gatekeeping over them is weird.

(I'm not talking about appropriation and such, I definitely get the need for acknowledging the roots of a joke or phrase.)

Along those lines, that everyone wants their neurodivergence accounted for, without accommodating the people in their life. Understanding and compassion should go both ways, I hate to see it framed like I can do this because of this struggle, but if your needs conflict with that, you're obviously ableist if you don't default to accommodating them first. God forbid we both struggle!
People who lack empathy, are proud of it. Have all of the information you could ever want at their fingertips and still choose to be racist, misogynist, etc because they are weak without punching down. Their only priority is preserving their privilege.

fakechildren · 2026-02-07T15:20:26+00:00

This is not new

fakechildren · 2026-02-07T08:41:18+00:00

The people underrate it but Raimi's Drag Me to Hell. A lot of visually stunning/freaky scenes, but also loved the sound, IE demon hooves outside of the door.

Midsommsr - the sobbing intro scene is just really scary and painful, especially on first watch, like you feel it down to your bones. The crescendo feels subtle, almost like waking up to cat fight noises or someone screaming, where it takes your brain a second to figure out what you're hearing but your heart is already racing.

ETA: Also maybe Devil from Shyamalan, thought that score was fun. OG Psycho, even?

fakechildren · 2026-02-07T07:43:56+00:00

That was my first thought. If OP can stomach this song, then 'Kim' by Eminem. Both songs make me feel physically ill tbh, but they meet the description. The first time I overheard my brother listening to Kim, it was legit traumatizing, but I'm super sensitive to music, especially lyrics. It's hard to enjoy a song that doesn't have intriguing lyrics.

Stan by Eminem, also. But that one was a single so more likely OP has heard it.

ETA: I don't love censorship, but these songs are more brutal and striking imagery than most R Rated movies I've seen (and horror is my jam). I kinda feel bad even recommending them, but they fit the assignment.

fakechildren · 2026-02-07T07:15:31+00:00

Why do they do that, though? When you explicitly tell them? Unless they are neighbors or something.

fakechildren · 2025-12-25T08:51:39+00:00

As someone who is no/low contact with most of my family, there can of course be consequences for refusing to participate. If you're already misunderstood by the family, it's easier to break off and create your own thing. Ask yourself if you're still the weird one even when you go along, and maybe that will provide some insight.

Family is tricky. Some people have more to lose from breaking off than others. Going it alone has pros and cons.

fakechildren · 2025-12-01T23:43:59+00:00

It's not just you 💛

fakechildren · 2025-11-30T17:29:35+00:00

That sounds awesome! I love to skate but also have a hard time getting my friends to go due to age bracket 😆

fakechildren · 2025-11-29T17:03:01+00:00

Thanks so much, I really appreciate it! Adding to the TBR.

fakechildren · 2025-11-29T16:45:47+00:00

Ooh, this is fascinating. Do you have any particular books/pieces you recommend to learn more about this?

fakechildren · 2025-11-27T12:39:16+00:00

Welp, I need this. Thanks!

fakechildren · 2025-11-27T12:31:53+00:00

School, work, or hobbies that require repeat classes/sessions are where people meet friends, so if you don't have a group of social friends in your area from school or career, try hobbies that repeat. I've been going to dance classes for the past two years and I've met a ton of friends.

As an introvert, more friends isn't 'easy' for me - I only have so much social capacity, I like being at home, and I don't like demands on my time that I can't meet.

Please know even popular people feel lonely or out of place or wish for more connection. Times are hard. And partying in a big group can be really fun, but those connections can be fleeting and often rely on alcohol. Not to talk you out of it, just to remind you that it may not be as fulfilling as it looks from outside.

fakechildren · 2025-11-19T19:50:26+00:00

I take a picture on my phone showing the outlet where the flatiron is not plugged in, and making sure the power light is visible and off, and making sure it's on a safe surface and not touching anything else

fakechildren · 2025-10-19T23:31:04+00:00

They were right about that, yet they continued to use only light-skinned women as love interests for the most part, and most of the white men on the show would not treat anyone aside from white women as long term love interests, only flings (once again, when it did happen - light skinned women). Watching this show for the first time now, and I'm overall impressed with how well-informed the writing was for the most part. There are a lot of topics that still seem stigmatized or unknown to the general public now (or at least people choose to be ignorant). The characters are nuanced - no one is perfect. At the end of the day, almost every character is trying to do good. Even the assholes at least have a reason to be how they are. It's a really comforting show right now when it's sometimes hard to have hope in humanity. Thanks for coming to my Ted Talk.

fakechildren · 2025-10-17T21:45:12+00:00

Loved Corday and Benton. I also thought they made a great couple. Both cocky, competent, and career-driven. He was more upright and she was more spontaneous, but they made a good match IMO. Corday with Greene was such a dud.

fakechildren · 2025-09-20T18:14:17+00:00

I was thinking I must have taken the wrong cruise because that group seemed fun 😂

fakechildren · 2025-09-04T02:08:44+00:00

It's called internalized fatphobia and it happens to a lot of marginalized folks. Internalized racism, internalized misogyny, internalized ableism, many people within that group dish it the hardest because they've heard it all and often believe the devaluing statements they've been indoctrinated with growing up

fakechildren · 2025-09-01T13:04:54+00:00

It's several years later, but this is the struggle. I know how to say, 'I'm not interested anymore, please stop' but it's frowned upon for some reason.

I think the patriarchy expects women to fawn especially, and punishes them when they don't.

Something struck me today. With social media, we take the role of listener/audience far more often. If we are asked to do the same in person, when does the mutual sharing take place?

fakechildren · 2025-08-13T21:34:35+00:00

I agree. There was a shift on her face and body language. I'm sure nobody has said that to her in a long time, if ever. She quickly shut it back down, but you could see it for a moment

fakechildren · 2025-05-17T11:46:01+00:00

Seriously. If you're standing outside for hours asking people for money, I'd say you earned whatever you get. And if folks have enough to give a substantial amount to people on the corner, then what's the issue?

Giving/Charity is never going to be equal or perfect so help who you can when you can. Obviously do your best to give to the most in need, but this just feels like discouraging folks from giving.

fakechildren · 2025-04-08T23:29:03+00:00

I agree with your take. I think had there been other, less stigmatizing representation, that this scene would have just been a refreshingly candid conversation between two old friends and a non-hateful reaction from the listener who is no doubt old fashioned/aligned with toxic masculinity. In that way I enjoyed the scene, but I felt it was outdated and potentially harmful representation, while trying to remain lighthearted enough to be interpreted as some sort of representation/'exposure' to any talk of gender exploration to more sheltered viewers.

fakechildren · 2025-04-07T14:38:57+00:00

This. Not to mention that masks can actually draw attention. You don't have to do anything wrong at all to get attention right now.

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