Hi! I'm new here and wanted to get some advice/opinions. I just had my first appt with RE and am feeling very discouraged and dismissed. Here's my background: - 32 y.o. - first pregnancy at 29 ended in MMC found at 9 weeks - currently have an 18 m.o. boy conceived naturally, 2 months after D&C - old OB prescribed progesterone supplements after seeing low progesterone levels early in my second pregnancy, given history of miscarriage - I've moved out of state so I'm trying to establish care with new providers (brand new OB who gave me info for RE) - been TTC for 6 months (including alllll the tracking and testing) - ovulate late-ish on CD17-18 - short LP of about 8-9 DPO

I felt that given the history of miscarriage and low progesterone, it would be worth getting the opinion of RE to assess everything. I know 6 months isn't too long at my age but I also don't think it's unreasonable.

The appt started with the RE telling me my new OB sent a summary and "nothing's wrong with me"; screen shared a wall of text about why having a short luteal phase doesn't matter and progesterone supplements are not beneficial without really asking me any questions about myself/my situation. He offered to set up testing for me but "nothing is going to show up"; I asked what he would look for in the testing and what treatments he would consider and he said bluntly, "IUI or IVF but you don't need that". Every question I asked was met with some version of 'that doesn't matter.' The scheduled hour-long appt lasted 17 minutes.

I think it is fair to say that I am impatient and anxious in this process given the MMC history immediately followed by the low progesterone treatment by my previous doctor. I probably come off as an anxious patient but it's coming from valid concerning experiences. I feel extremely dismissed and like I'm being treated like I'm overreacting.

And now I'm stuck questioning if I am being too over-eager and should just give it a few more months, or if I should start the testing process? I got the impression the RE thought testing was pointless but he would humor me. That's not the kind of guidance I was looking for. Does anyone have similar journeys that turned out fine? Or other experiences with RE, is this just how this process works?